Le nkulumo ephelelwe yisikhathi idlala amadoda nabesifazane abanokuhlukana kwe-intrinsic
Ukubaluleka kobulili kuyimbono ehlonishwa kakhulu futhi engaphelelwe yisikhathi ukuthi amadoda nabesifazane benze ngendlela ehlukile futhi banezinketho ezahlukene ekuphileni ngenxa yokungalingani okubalulekile noma okubalulekile phakathi kobulili. Ngamanye amazwi, umqondo wokuthi amadoda nabesifazane bahluke ngokuphelele ngenxa yezizathu ezingaguquki.
Ukubaluleka kobulili kuvame ukusetshenziselwa ukuzithethelela ukuhlukunyezwa ngokobulili emphakathini.
Isibonelo, singasetshenziselwa ukusekela umqondo wokuthi imisebenzi evame ukugcinwa ngabesifazane ivame ukuhlonishwa kancane kanye nokukhokha okuncane. Ukubaluleka kobulili bobabili bokwaziswa kobulili nokuziqinisa. Kungaba nemiphumela eminingi emphakathini.
Ubulili obuyisisekelo kanye nobungqingili
Lo mqondo owedlule ungakhuthaza ukucabanga mayelana nokuthi ubudlelwane "kufanele" busebenze kanjani obugxile emibonweni ebalulekile ebusweni bokuziphatha. Isibonelo, ubuza umbhangqwana oshadile obashadile, "Ngumuphi kini oyindoda?" uthatha ukuthi indima yendabuko iyadingeka ukuze umshado uphumelele. Lokho kusho ukuthi omunye wabo kumele enze indima yesilisa, noma ngabe kusho ukuthini.
Ubulili obuyisisekelo kanye namaGenders angewona amaBhanari
Kodwa-ke, ukubaluleka kobulili akusekelwa ubufakazi. Esikhundleni salokho, kuyisimiso esivamile sezinkathazo ezithinta indlela umhlaba osebenza ngayo. Abantu ababheka njengabanabinambambili balahla ngokucacile umqondo wokubaluleka ngokobulili ngokushiya ubulili besilisa noma besifazane.
Abantu abakhomba njengabesilisa nabesifazane bangabuye banqabe imigomo ebalulekile yobulili ngezenzo, izinkolelo nokuziphatha.
Ukuthi ubulili bobuciko bunjani
Ukubaluleka kobulili kungenza kube nzima kubantu ukwenza izinqumo ezikhuthele mayelana nemvume . Lokhu kungengxenye, ngoba imibono eminingi ejwayelekile yobulili edingekayo iphathelene nokuziphatha ngokocansi.
Isibonelo, amadoda nabafana bangafundiswa kusukela esemncane ukuthi bahlale bekulindeleke ukuba bafune ucansi. Ngokuphambene, abesifazane bafundiswa okuphambene. Lokhu kugcizelela amadoda ukuba abe ocansini, nokuhlukunyezwa ngokobulili. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, abesifazane bakhuthazwa ukuba baphikane nezifiso zabo zocansi.
Ukubaluleka kobulili nakho kukhuthaza isiko lokudlwengula, ngoba amadoda angakholelwa ukuthi kufanele aqhubeke ecindezela owesifazane ngesondo nokuthi indoda inelungelo lokudlwengula.
Ama-dynamics anjalo angase adlale emibhangqweni efanayo yobulili obufanayo. Noma kunjalo, zingavela ngezindlela ezahlukene. Amanye amadoda angama-gay, ngokwesibonelo, angase abe nesikhathi esinzima sokuvuma ukuthi abangeke banesithakazelo socansi ngaso sonke isikhathi. Abanye besifazane bangase babe nenkinga yokukhuluma ngokocansi.
Ukuphikisa ukulingana ngokobulili
Abantu abaphikisa ukulwa nobulili abazami ukufakazela ukuthi imizimba yesilisa nowesifazane inye. Esikhundleni salokho, bafakazela ukuthi asikho isizathu sokuthi umehluko wezinto eziphilayo phakathi kobulili kufanele kuholele ekulindeni okuqondile kokuziphatha kwabantu besilisa nabesifazane. Bakholelwa ukuthi asikho isizathu sokuthi umehluko kufanele ukhuthaze ukungalingani nethuba.
Esikhathini sobulili, ingxabano kungenzeka ukuthi abanye abantu bangase bathambekele ekusebenzeni kakhudlwana, kanti abanye bangabonakali, ekamelweni lokulala.
Kodwa-ke, lokho kungalingani kulindeleke ukuba kwenziwe okungaphezulu ngobuntu kanye nezinye izici kunokuba nobulili. Eqinisweni, kuyilapho kuvame ukuba ilungu elilodwa labashadile abanesithakazelo socansi, lowo muntu angaba yimuphi ubulili.
Izimpikiswano eziphathelene nokubhekwa kobulili zixhaswa ubufakazi bokuthi izilingo zobulili ziyahlukahluka kakhulu kuwo wonke amasiko. Zibuye zisekelwa yizifiso zobulili kanye nobulili obuhlukile kakhulu ezikhona ezindaweni ezahlukene kanye ne-eras ehlukene. Ukungezwani okunjalo kubonakala ngokuqondene nokuziphatha kobulili kuphela kodwa nezinye izici zokuphila.
Imithombo:
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