Imizwa Ejwayelekile ngenkathi Ulindele Imiphumela Yezokwelapha
Ukulinda ukuxilongwa kungaba enye yezinkinga ezinzima kakhulu umuntu abhekene nakho. Uma unayo izimpawu ezingamnandi, ezifana nobuhlungu, isicanucanu, ubunzima bokuhamba, isizungu, noma inkinga yokulala (ukubiza abambalwa), elinde ukubona ochwepheshe , ukuze kuvivinywe ukuhlolwa, noma imiphumela yebhu buya nje kukhulisa ubuhlungu bakho.
Akulona kuphela ukulinda okungakhulisa ukukhathazeka kwakho ngokomzimba, kodwa ukungaqiniseki kukushiya ubonakala ngaphandle kwehange.
Kukhona abantu abaye bakhululeka ngisho nokuthola ukuxilongwa okubi, ngoba okungenani ungaqala ukwenza okuthile okubhekene nokuxilongwa. Ngokungaqiniseki ushiywe ku-limbo, ungazi kahle ukuthi kufanele uzizwe kanjani ngoba awukwazi ukuthi ubhekene nani.
Uma ubhekana nokutholakala kokuguquka kokuphila-futhi izifo ezingavamile kakhulu ziwela kulolu gaba-ukulinda kungase kube nzima nakakhulu. Futhi uma ubhekene nokuxilongwa kwesifo esibulalayo noma okuzokunciphisa wena noma impilo yomthandayo ngokuphawulekayo, ukulinda kungacishe kube khona. Akulona nje kuphela ulinde ukuxilongwa okungadinga ukwelashwa, kodwa ubheka ukuthi yini engase ibe yesikhathi sakho sonke. Wonke amaphupho akho nethemba.
Lezi ezinye zezizwa ongazizwa ngenkathi ulinde ukuxilongwa. Uke wazizwa kanje?
Ukubekezela Ngesikhathi Ulinde
Ukungaphelelwa isineke mhlawumbe umzwelo wokuqala abantu abaningi abazizwa lapho belindele ukuxilongwa.
Abaningi bethu "bangabenzi," basebenzisa ukubhekana nesimo, ukuxazulula inkinga, nokuqhubeka phambili. Ukulinda i-aphoyintimenti, inqubo, noma ukubonisana kungakwenza ube nomuzwa wokuthi "phuthuma uphinde ulinde." Ngokwesibonelo, ngenkathi ulinde ngesonto imiphumela yokugula ngenxa yempilo yakhe yokubuya ebhodini, owesifazane othile wathi, " Ngizizwa nginjenge-cage tiger. "Wayefuna ukwenza okuthile ngokuxilongwa kwakhe, hhayi nje ukulinda.
Omunye wesifazane watshelwa ukuthi uzodinga i-ultrasound ukuze ahlolwe. "Kulungile, singakwenza lokho namuhla?" Utshele udokotela futhi wadumala lapho ezwa ukuthi ngeke ihlelwe kuze kube ngesonto elizayo.
Ukungaphelelwa amandla kungasebenza ngendlela engaphezu kwendlela oyihlolisayo bese ufaka ezinye izingxenye zokuphila kwakho. Ungase uzizwe unesineke nomugqa ukuze uphume emgwaqweni wokupaka esikhungweni sakho sezokwelapha. Ungase uzizwe unesineke nomngane wakho womshado noma abangane obanikeza imisebenzi. Ngempela, abakwazi yini ukunakekela into elula ngenkathi ulinde into enzima kangaka? Ungase uphelelwe isineke ngokwakho, uzibuze ukuthi kungani kuthatha isikhathi eside ukwenza ezinye zezinto ozenzile njalo.
Ukukhathazeka
Ukukhungatheka kubhekisela ekuvinjweni kwenhloso noma isenzo. Umuntu okhungathekile ngokuthola ukuxilongwa angase azizwe enganelisekile, ecindezelekile noma ecindezelekile. Uma utshele ukuthi awukwazi ukuthola i-aphoyintimenti nochwepheshe onyangeni ezintathu, ukuthi imiphumela yokuhlolwa okukhethekile ithatha amasonto ayisithupha, noma lokho ngemva kokubona odokotela abane bengasazi ukuthi yini engalungile nawe, ungase uzizwe ucasuke kakhulu.
Njengokuphelelwa isineke, ukukhungatheka ngesistimu yezokwelapha kungaphatha kwezinye izingxenye zokuphila kwakho. Ungase uzizwe ucasuke uma kukhona ukuxubana nomshuwalense wakho.
Ungase uzizwe ucasuke ukuthi i-tape ebomvu yenqubomgomo yakho yomshuwalense ithi udinga ukubona umuntu obhaliswe ezinyangeni ezimbili ezilandelayo esikhundleni somuntu onokuqokwa kusasa. Ngezinye izikhathi lokhu kuphazamiseka kungaqhuma. Phela, kungase kungabi "ephephile" ukukhulula ukukhungatheka kwakho emtholampilo lapho uthola khona ukunakekelwa (okudingeka ukuba ube "isiguli esihle") bese ekugcineni uvumele uma umyeni wakho akhohlwa ukukhipha ubisi esitolo .
Intukuthelo
Abantu abaningi abanesineke futhi / noma abakhungathekile bangase bathukuthele. Le ntukuthelo ivame ukuqondiswa ohlelweni lwezokwelapha olukwenza ulinde ukuxilongwa kwakho.
Ngezinye izikhathi imizwa ethukuthele ingafakwa ngaphakathi kokuthile okukhiqizayo, njengokuzimela noma othandekayo. Kodwa-ke, ngezinye izikhathi imizwa evuthayo iphumele ngaphandle ngendlela engafanele, njengomchwepheshe webholo ozama ukuthatha isampula segazi lakho ukuze avivinye. Abahlengikazi bayokutshela ukuthi baye babona iziguli eziningi nemindeni bekhalaza kwabasebenzi bezokwelapha-kanye nomunye nomunye. Ungase uzizwe usondlekile yonke inqubo yokuxilongwa futhi uzizwe nje uhamba kude nayo yonke into.
Ukukhathazeka
Uma ulinde ukuxilongwa okunomthelela omkhulu, ungase uzizwe ungajabule futhi ukhathazekile. Ungase uzizwe ucindezelekile futhi ingqondo yakho ingase ikhathazeke ngokuthi lokhu ukuxilongwa kungakuthinta kanjani wena nabathandekayo bakho. Uma usuqala leso sitimela somcabango, singaqhubeka nokuqhubeka. Kungenzeka unenkinga yokulala ebusuku, thola ukwesaba, noma ucindezeleke ngokucabanga ngesifo. Ukukhathazeka kuyindlela evamile yokuphendula ngomzwelo wokusongelwa. Iyingxenye yokulwa noma ukusabela kwendiza eyenzelwe ukusivikela engozini. Kodwa lapho ingozi esiyicabangayo ivela emicabangweni yethu, kunokuba ingozi ecacile futhi ebonakalayo phakathi kwethu (njengengonyama ehlasela) ukusabela kungabangela ukukhathazeka okuqhubekayo nokucindezeleka njengamanje umzimba wethu usabela ( ukwanda kwenhliziyo, ukuphefumula okusheshayo, nokuningi.)
Ukukhathazeka, njengaleminye iminye imizwelo, kungaphatha kwezinye izindawo zokuphila kwakho. Ngezinye izikhathi abantu abanomdlavuza baveza ukuthi bazizwa bengakwazi ukwenza izinqumo ezilula, ngisho nezinqumo ezilula njengokuthi yisembatho sokugqoka.
Usizi Nokucindezeleka
Ukulinda isikhathi eside sokuthola ukuxilongwa kungabangela kalula imizwa yokungabi nokulawula izinto noma ukucindezeleka. Ungase uzizwe ungenathemba ngesimo sakho. Ukuba nesistimu yezokwelapha njalo okwenza ulinde izinto-ukuqokwa, ukuhlolwa, ukubonisana, imiphumela-kungenza uzizwe njengokuphonsa ithawula futhi uvele ulahle. Ungase ukhale ngaphandle kwesizathu futhi ungazifisi ukwenza okuningi kunoma yini.
Kungaba nzima kakhulu, ngezinye izikhathi, ukwazi ukuthi unesifo esidabukisayo noma ukucindezeleka. Ungesabi ukucela usizo uma ukudabuka kukudonsa phansi.
Ngezansi - Ukusabela Okujwayelekile Ukulinda
Iqiniso liwukuthi yonke le mizwa ijwayelekile kumuntu olindele ukuxilongwa. Uma kufanele ulinde isikhathi eside, imizwa engaphezu kwakho ongayithola, futhi leyo mizwa ingase ibe yinkimbinkimbi kakhulu. Kubantu abaningi, ukukhuluma nabangani, umndeni, umfundisi, kanye / noma umeluleki kuyasiza kakhulu ekubhekaneni nalezi zinkinga ngenkathi kulindeleke lokho kutholakala. Abanye abantu bakuthola kuwusizo ukuxhuma neqembu lokusekela (noma umphakathi o-inthanethi, ikakhulukazi ngezifo ezingavamile) okunikeza ithuba lokuba ukhulume nabanye abaye babhekana nale mizwelo. Ngokuvamile, ukukwazi nje ukuzwa komuntu oye wazizwa izinto ezifanayo kuyisizo esikhulu, kukukhumbuza ukuthi nakuba ulinde wodwa, awuwedwa.
Ngaphezu kokujwayelekile, kunezinto ezimbalwa ongayenza ezingasiza (ngaphandle kokuqaphela ukuthi awodwa.) Qinisekisa ukuthi ungummeli wakho ekunakekeleni kwakho . Uma ungazizwa ukuthi uhamba ngendlela efanele noma uma uzizwa ukuthi abahlinzeki bakho bokunakekelwa kwezempilo abakhulumi kahle, khuluma. Njengoba sibonile, izimpawu ezihlobene nokuxilongwa kwakho zingathuthukisa le mizwa. Uma ubhekana nobuhlungu obungapheli , qiniseka ukuthi lokhu kuqondiswa. Ngezinye izikhathi ukubonisana nodokotela obuhlungu kuyadingeka ngaphezu kwanoma yini enye oya kuyo (yebo, sorry, enye yokuqokwa.)
Zibuze ukuthi kukhona yini enye ongayenza (ukufinyeleleka kokuthola ukuxilongwa kwakho ngokushesha.) Ingabe udinga ukuqasha nanny isikhathi sesikhathi sokusiza izingane? Ingabe udinga ukuvumela abantu ukuthi bakusize (lokhu kunzima kulabo abanomuntu ohlobo lwe-A.)
Kuthiwani ngabantu abaphakathi kwakho. Ingabe unabangane abakhulu abakusiza ukuba nethemba lokuthi ungachitha isikhathi esiningi? Ngakolunye uhlangothi, unayo "abangane abanobuthi" ongase udinge ukuyibiza?
Kwabathandekayo
Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi, ngenkathi abantu abambalwa bezwa ukugula bodwa, bambalwa abantu abathola ukukhungatheka kokulinda yedwa. Abangane namalungu omndeni bangase babe nakho konke lokhu kwemizwelo ngenkathi balinde ukuxilongwa. Eqinisweni, ukungabi nasizo abathandekayo abavame ukubhekana nakho bangakhuphula le mizwa ngisho nangaphezulu. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ungase uzizwe ukhululekile ukuveza ukukhungatheka kwakho, ukubekezela, nokukhathazeka. Ngokuqondene nalabo abhekana nokuxilongwa okunzima, kunomphakathi othokozelayo wokuzinikela komndeni obhekene nokuxilongwa okunzima (noma ukulinda owodwa) kumuntu othandekayo.
Imithombo:
Kasper, uDennis L .., u-Anthony S. Fauci, noStephen L .. Hauser. Izimiso zikaHarrison zeMithi yangaphakathi. ENew York: imfundo kaMc Graw Hill, 2015. Print.