Ukucindezeleka nokukhubazeka kungase kuhambisane, ngokuya ngesistimu yokweseka umuntu anayo. Abangane, amalungu omndeni, namaqembu okusekela konke okuyingxenye yesistimu yokusekela okuhle okudingekayo yilowo nalowo okhubazekile. Ngenkathi abanye abantu bebonakala bezimele futhi bengabonakali badinga noma yini, noma umuntu noma iqembu labantu ukuthembela lapho izinto ziba nzima zingasiza abantu abakhubazekile ukulwa nokucindezeleka.
Usanda kukhutshazwa
Kuzokhutshaziwe, ukucindezeleka kuvamile kakhulu. Baye baphumelela ekubeni mhlawumbe babe umuntu okufanele ancike ekusizeni kwabanye. Bangase bakwazi ukubhekana nezinkumbulo zabo zokukwazi ukusebenza nokuzama ukwamukela ukulinganiselwa kwamanje noma kwengqondo. Ukwamukela ukukhubazeka okusha akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi; kubaningi, kungathatha iminyaka ukwamukela ngokugcwele ukuthi bayakhubazekile futhi abakwazi ukwenza ezinye, noma eziningi, izinto ababezijabulela ukuzenza. Kuyinto evamile ukuba bazizwe bebuhlungu noma befutheka njengoba bebuhlungu bokulahlekelwa impilo yabo yangaphambili.
Khutshaziwe ekuzalweni
Abanye abantu bakhubazekile ngesikhathi sokuzalwa. Bangase babe nokukhubazeka okwakubangelwa ukuzalwa, noma inkinga yezofuzo ezibangela ukukhubazeka kwabo. Ngenkathi abanye bengase bathi ukukhubazeka ngandlela-thile ukukhulelwa kwenza izinto zibe lula, njengokuthuthukisa izindlela zokubhekana kusukela ebusheni, abanye abahlanganyeli umbono ofanayo.
Labo abakhubazekile besencane bangase bachithe iminyaka behluleka ukuthola ukwamukelwa neontanga nabafundisi babo, banenkinga yokwakha ubudlelwane obusha, banenkinga yokushintshela ekubeni abantu abadala futhi ekugcineni bafike emsebenzini.
Izimpawu zokucindezeleka
Abantu abaningi banezinhlelo ezinhle zokusekela endaweni, njengabangane nomndeni abazisiza ukuba bahambisane nezikhathi ezinzima.
Kodwa-ke, abaningi, abanalo izinhlelo zokusekela abazidingayo, ikakhulukazi uma zisanda kukhubazeka zihlala ezweni elinempilo. Kuyinto engavamile ukuba ngezinye izikhathi ube "kungani mina?" Umzuzu lapho ubhekene nobunzima empilweni, ikakhulu lapho ukukhubazeka kubonakala kubangela ubunzima. Kodwa-ke, uma umuntu ezwa sengathi izwe liphikisana nabo sonke isikhathi, kungenzeka ukuthi babhekene nokucindezeleka kliniki, hhayi nje "ama-blues."
Okulandelayo yizibonakaliso zokucindezeleka komtholampilo:
- Kunzima ukukhumbula izinto, ukugxila noma ukwenza izinqumo ezilula
- Ukuzwa ukhathele sonke isikhathi naphezu kokulala ngokwanele
- Uzizwa ungenalutho noma ungenanzuzo
- Ukuzwa kungenangqondo
- Ukuba nokulala noma ukulala okungaphezu kokudingekile
- Ukucasuka njalo futhi kunenkathazo ehlisa phansi
- Ukulahlekelwa intshisekelo ezintweni owake wazijabulela ukwenza
- Ukwandisa ukudla noma ukulahlekelwa ukudla
- Ukuvame ukugula, njengokungathi uhlolwe ikhanda, izinkinga zokugaya noma ezinye izinhlungu nezinhlungu ezingachaziwe
- Imizwa ehlala njalo yokudabuka noma ukukhathazeka
- Imiqondo evame ukuzibulala noma imizamo yokuzibulala
Ukuthola Usizo
Ngokuvamile, abantu abakhubazekile baphatha ukukhubazeka kwabo, kodwa abanakho izidingo zabo ezingokomzwelo noma ezingokomoya ezibhekiswe kuzo.
Odokotela bezokwelapha ngokuvamile abeluleki, ngakho-ke kungenzeka ukuthi bangazi ukuthi isiguli sabo sinenkinga yomzwelo. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, iziguli (ezikwaziyo) zidinga ukuba ngummeli wazo. Lokhu kusho ukukhuluma uphinde uvumele udokotela oyinhloko noma udokotela oyinhloko wazi ukuthi uzizwa udabukile noma ucindezelekile nokuthi udinga umuntu ozokhuluma naye. Abanakekeli nabo kudingeka baqaphele izidingo zomzwelo ezikhubazekile futhi babheke izimpawu zokuxwayisa zokucindezeleka. Umnakekeli angase abe yindlela yokuqala yokuzivikela ekusizeni umuntu ehlupheka ngokuthula ekucindezelekeni.
Kungokwemvelo ukuzizwa udabukile noma ucindezelekile ezinsukwini ezimbalwa phezu kwezenzakalo ezimpilweni zethu, kodwa ukudabuka noma ukucindezeleka okuhlala isikhathi eside kunezinsuku ezimbalwa kudinga ukusizwa udokotela oyinhloko noma ukeluleki oqinisekisiwe.
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