Ukuhlukana Phakathi Kwabanakekeli Abesilisa nabesifazane

Indlela Ababelethi Abesilisa Abathola Ngayo Ukusekelwa

Ngokuvamile sicabanga ngabanakekeli njengabesifazane, kanti ngenkathi kubalwa, kunembile ukuthi abesifazane abaningi kunamadoda banikeza ukunakekelwa kwamalungu omndeni asebekhulile, amadoda enza isabelo sabo esihle.

Njengoba usuku lukaBaba luwela ngoJuni, lokhu kubonakala sengathi kuyisikhathi esihle sokukhuluma ukuthi bangaki abaDads abanakekela abazali babo, abashade nabo, noma abanye abathandekayo.

Uthi, Uthi

Esinye sezizathu zokunakekelwa kwamadoda angase ahambe ngaphansi kwe-radar ukuthi bathambekele ekunakekeleni othandekayo ngokuhlukile kunokuba owesifazane angase.

Nazi umehluko ombalwa phakathi kokunakekelwa komndeni wesilisa kanye nabanakekeli bomndeni besifazane, ngokusekelwe ocwaningweni lwe-Family Care Alliance, i-Statistics Canada, nencwadi ethi "Men As Caregivers" nguBetty J. Kramer no Edward Thompson, Jr .:

1. Ngokuphelele, amadoda abonise ukukhetha ukuphatha ukunakekelwa esikhundleni sokunakekela. Isibonelo, indoda ingase ibe nomsebenzi wokuqasha umuntu ukusiza ngemisebenzi efana nokugeza noma ukugqoka umkakhe noma ubaba wakhe odinga usizo ngemisebenzi yansuku zonke. Akumane nje akakhululekile ukuhlinzeka ukunakekelwa ngabanye njengoba abesifazane besengaba khona.
2. Abacwaningi baye baqaphela ukuthi amanye amadoda athambekele kancane ekukhulumeni nganoma yikuphi ukucindezeleka okuhlangenwe nakho okuhlobene nemithwalo yabo yokunakekelwa, noma ukwabelana ngezinkinga zokunakekelwa kokunakekela namanye amalungu omndeni, osebenza nabo noma abangane. Lokhu, kusho ukuthi abafuni ukusekela ngenkuthalo ngendlela efanayo abanye besifazane abanezindima ezifanayo.

1. Ngokuvamile, amadoda athambekele ekubhekeni izixazululo ezingokoqobo ekukhathaleleni ukukhathazeka nabesifazane ukucubungula imizwa yokuthi kungani kunakekelwa. Esinye isibonelo salokhu ukuthi amadoda angase abheke ubuchwepheshe obude njengengxenye yezinhlelo zokunakekela kunezinye izinto ezingaphezulu.
2. Amadoda abika azizwe ekulungele ukunakekelwa kunabesifazane ukuze kuthi lapho kuvela isidingo, abazi ukuthi bangaphila noma ngubani okufanele babuze.

1. Amadoda athambekele ekulindeni kuze kube khona inhlekelele-njengokwelashwa-ngaphambi kokufuna noma yiluphi uhlobo losizo lokunakekelwa kochwepheshe lwelungu labo lomndeni, kodwa owesifazane cishe uyabheka lolu hlobo losizo uma esebonile ukukhathazeka komnakekeli.

Phakathi kwalezi zingxabano, kukhona ukuqonda okuningi phakathi kwamadoda anakekela omkawo, amadoda anakekela ingane ekhubazekile, namadoda anakekela abazali abadala. Isibonelo, Endabeni yamadoda enikeza ukusikela omkawo, kungenzeka ukuthi banakekele ukunakekelwa komuntu kunabanakekeli abangabalingani.

Ungahambi Kodwa

Kungenxa yokuthi abantu abancane kakhulu ukuhlanganyela ukukhathazeka kwabo kokukhathalela nalabo abasondelene nabo akusho ukuthi abadingi ukusekelwa. Ukucwaninga kubonisa ukuthi amadoda angabhekana nokucindezeleka-okungcono kunabo bonke okumele babeke umkhathala wabo ekhaya lokuhlengikaza-futhi bazuze ekuthuthukisweni nasekuthuthukiseni.

Amanye amathiphu omnakekeli womndeni wabesilisa-nabesifazane futhi-ukuqinisekisa ukuthi abaqedi:

1. Joyina iqembu lokusekela elihlangana ku-inthanethi noma kumuntu njalo. Kunezinhlobo eziningi zamaqembu okusekela ngaphandle-amanye angamadoda, amanye ahlobene nesifo, amanye ahambisana nesonto lendawo, nokuningi. Leli thuba hhayi nje ukwabelana ngezinkinga zakho, kodwa futhi ukuthola ukuqonda kulabo abaye bahamba ngendlela efanayo.

1. Yinakekele. Noma uqhubeke noma uqale ukudla ukudla okunempilo, uthole umzimba wokuzivocavoca njalo, futhi uhlale ubuthongo obuhle njalo. Ngisho nabanakekeli bebanga elide bangazibekela eceleni isikhathi esingazichitha ekuzinakekeleni ukuphatha ukunakekelwa komuntu othandekayo. Noma kunjalo, ukunganaki inhlalakahle yomuntu akusimeme bese ubeka ingozi yokungakwazi ukunakekela othandekayo wakho ngendlela efanayo.
2. Cela usizo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ufuna usizo olwengeziwe ngokunakekelwa kwamanye amalungu omndeni noma ukuya kumhlinzeki wezempilo ukuze uthole izidingo zakho zezokwelapha, faka isandla sakho phezulu kunokulondoloza ukuma. Amadoda ikakhulukazi athambekele ekuthandeni indima yokunakekelwa komndeni njengomunye umsebenzi okufanele abhekane ngokuzimela, lapho iqiniso liwukuthi ithimba lokunakekelwa ngothando nokuhle lingase lizuze wonke umuntu.

1. Phumula. Kunezinhlangano ezimbalwa ezingezona inzuzo ezifana ne-Caregifted and Well Spouse Association ezihlinzeka ngempilo yokuphumula emakhaya. Ngisho ukuthatha ihora ukuya komuntu ngokwakho kanye ngosuku noma kanye ngesonto kungenza umehluko ekukwazi ukuvuselela kabusha.

Uma ungumnakekeli womndeni wesilisa, wazi ukuthi awodwa. Uma wazi indoda ehlinzeka ukunakekela umndeni, bheka ukuthi uthola ukwesekwa akudingayo.