Ukuxilongwa komdlavuza kunomthelela omuhle, ikakhulukazi kuthinta labo abasondelene nomuntu otholiwe, njengomlingani noma oshade naye, kodwa ekugcineni afinyelele abangane abasondelene nabo, izingane zakubo nezinye izihlobo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uhlala, unakekela, noma umane ukhonza njengendlebe yokulalela umuntu onomdlavuza, kungase kube nzima, kokubili ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo.
Kodwa ngomqondo omuhle namathuluzi afanele kanye nesistimu yokusekela, ungasebenzisa le ndima ehlukile. Nazi ezinye izinyathelo ezibalulekile zokukuqondisa ngokuthanda nokukhathalela umuntu onomdlavuza wesibeletho.
Yenza Ucwaningo Lwakho
Funda phezulu ukuthi odokotela baxilonga kanjani futhi baphatha umdlavuza wesibeletho , kufaka phakathi ukuthi ukuhlinzwa kuhilela nokuthi uma odokotela batusa ukususa isisu sesisu nangesinye isambiso. Ukuqonda inqubo yokutakula kusuka chemotherapy kanye nokuhlinzeka kuyokuvumela futhi ukuba ulungele kangcono lapho othandekayo wakho noma umuntu ozinakekelayo ekhaya.
Futhi, uma ufunda ngempela mayelana nomdlavuza wesibeletho, jot phansi imicabango yakho noma imibuzo encwadini yokubhala, ubuyekeze nabo ngothandekayo wakho, futhi ulethe leyo ncwajana ekuvakasheni kukadokotela olandelayo. Nakuba othandekayo wakho engase angafuni ukuchitha isikhathi sakhe ekhaya ekhuluma ngama-nuances womdlavuza wesisu, iqiniso lokuthi uthathe isikhathi sokufunda ngalo liwuphawu lothando lwakho nenhlonipho ngalokho abakwenzayo.
Yilungele iMultitask
Njengomnakekeli womuntu onomdlavuza wesisu, uzogqoka izigqoko eziningi, futhi lezi hats zishintsha lapho umuntu eqhubekela phambili ngemithi. Ezinye izindima zingase zibonakale ziyinkimbinkimbi, nakuba zifanelwe kahle:
- Ukushayela ekuqokeni ama-aphoyintimenti kanye nama-chemotherapy sessions
- Ukuthatha imithi evela ekhemisi
- Ukuphatha isabelomali ukuthola ukuthi ukunakekelwa komdlavuza womthandi wakho kuyotholakala kanjani
- Ukushayela inkampani yomshuwalense wezempilo ukuthi ubuze mayelana nokuqashwa nokudonswa kwemali
- Ukuthatha imisebenzi yasekhaya, njengokuhlanza, ukuthenga ukudla, ukulungiselela ukudla, ukwenza izingubo zokugeza
Ezinye izikhundla ziqondile futhi zisebenza kahle:
- Ukudlala indima ekhuthele ekwenzeni izinqumo mayelana nezinhlelo zakho zokunakekela nokwelapha
- Ukudlulisela imilayezo noma ukubiza ithimba lokunakekela umdlavuza ngemibuzo noma ukukhathazeka
- Ukusiza othandekayo wakho alulame kusuka kumakhemikhali nokuhlinzwa (futhi ngezinye izikhathi imisebe)
- Ukukhonza njengesixhumanisi sokusekela, njengokuxhumana nokubuyekeza amalungu omndeni
- Ukunikeza ukwesekwa ngokomzwelo othandekayo wakho-ihlombe elithembele kuyo noma ngokumane nje ukuba khona kwakho cishe kuyoletha induduzo enkulu
Noma ngabe yisiphi isigqoko ogqoke kulolu hambo, yazi ukuthi kuyigugu.
Zinakekele
Uma unakekela umuntu onomdlavuza wesibeletho, kulula ukuba udliwe nokuphathwa kwesifo sabo. Ungathola ukuthi noma yiziphi izikhathi ezengeziwe ngosuku lwakho zigcwele ukufunda isimo, ukuhlela nokuya ezikhundleni zokuqokwa, noma ukuvumela ukutakula komuntu omthandayo kusuka kumakhemikhali noma ukuhlinzwa.
Setha Isikhathi Sakho
Kodwa, ekugcineni, kubalulekile ukuthi uthathe isikhathi sokuthambekela ezidingweni zakho-hhayi kuphela eziyisisekelo ezifana nokulala, ukudla okunempilo, nokuzivocavoca, kodwa "uzizwe uzizwele" nazo.
Beka eceleni isikhathi nsuku zonke ukuze uvumele ingqondo yakho ikhululeke, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kusho ukuphazamiseka incwadi enhle, i-movie, umdlalo webhodi, noma isidlo sakusihlwa nomngane noma ilunga lomndeni.
Uma kunenkinga enzima ukulungisa izikhathazo zakho, ungase ucabange ngamasu okuphumula, njengokuzivocavoca okujulile noma ukuzindla kwengqondo. Ukwesekwa ngokomoya noma kokwenkolo kungase kube nenzuzo ngalesi sikhathi.
Misa uhlelo lokusekela
Kubuye kuhlakaniphe nokuba nomnakekeli wokulondoloza uma udinga ikhefu. Cabangela ukucela elinye ilunga lomndeni ukuba liqhubekele emhlanganweni wesimithi ngelinye ilanga ngesonto noma ubuze umngane ukuthi akusize ugijime imizila.
Ekugcineni, abantu abaningi bayatholakala ukukusiza kodwa kaningi abaqiniseki ukuthi yini oyidingayo noma engafuni ukudlula.
Yiba oqondile, wenze uhlu, futhi ungazizwa unecala ngokucela usizo. Kudingeka ube yiqiniso, futhi ngokucela usizo nokusekelwa, uzokhiqiza futhi ubekezelele othandekayo wakho.
Khulisa impilo yakho yengqondo kuqala
Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi ukucindezeleka nokukhathazeka kuvamile kulabo abanakekeli. Uma uzithola usugcwele wonke umuntu ngenxa yomdlavuza wakho omthandayo kanye nokwelashwa kanye / noma abhekene nezimpawu zokucindezeleka noma ukukhathazeka okukhathazayo, sicela ucele usizo oluvela kudokotela wakho wokunakekela oyinhloko noma ochwepheshe bezempilo yengqondo.
Thola ukwesekwa
Kungumqondo omuhle wokucabangela inethiwekhi yokusekela umdlavuza. Khuluma nethimba lezempilo lomdlavuza lomthandi wakho, njengomhlengikazi wakhe noma isisebenzi senhlalakahle, ukuze uthole izinsiza. Ungaphinde uvakashele i-American Cancer Society ukuthola izinhlelo zokusekela eduze kwekhaya lakho.
> Imithombo:
> I-American Cancer Society. Abanakekeli nabomndeni.
> McNeil, B. (2011). Izinyathelo Zokuqala-Ngiye Ngaqhathaniswa Ngomdlavuza Wesinye. E-Gonzalgo ML (Ed), Umhlahlandlela Weziguli Kumdlavuza Wesifo Sesisindo (1-8). EMassachusetts: Jones noBartlett Abashicileli.