Ukumisa isikhashana kudala kuyabangela ukuguquka kwemizwelo nezinye izinselele
Uma owesifazane ezwa ukuguquka kwemizwelo nezinye izinselelo zokunqamuka kwesikhashana , amadoda noma abalingani bangase bangazi ukuthi bangabasekela kanjani. Lokhu kubuka konke kufaka phakathi amathiphu ezithandwa ngabantu abangathandana nabo abangakwazi ukuma ngodadewabo phakathi nalesi shintsho. Emva kwakho konke, abantu abaningi bafuna ukuba khona kumlingani wabo njengoba bengena esikhathini sokuya esikhathini kodwa kungase kungabi nalutho mayelana nendlela yokusekela.
Eqinisweni, ukukhononda okuvamile ukuthi, "Ngizizwa ngingalungile kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ngenzani."
Abalingani besifazane abanenkinga yokumisa esikhathini kufanele bakhumbule ukuthi ukwehlisa amazinga e-hormone kungabangela ukuba babe nemizwelo emibi. Abesifazane abanjalo bangase babe nomuzwa wokuthi abakunqunu ngokuya ocansini futhi basebekhulile, bengathandeki, noma banakho. Izinguquko ezingokwenyama ezikhuthazelayo ngalesi sikhathi zingabangela ubuthakathaka, ukukhohlwa noma ukunganaki. Okokugcina, abesifazane abasesimeni sokubeletha bangase badabuke noma bathukuthele njengoba bengena esiteji esisha sokuphila.
Akubona Bonke Abesifazane Abesilisa Abanamahloni Abenezimo Zomzimba
Abanye besifazane ekukhuleni kwesikhathi bangabheka phambili kulolu shintsho futhi bazizwe beqinile, bajabule, noma banethemba. Bangase babe nomuzwa wokuthi okuhlangenwe nakho kwabo kokuphila kubenze bakwazi ukusebenza, abahlakaniphile, futhi okubalulekile. Kususwe kude nezingcindezi abesifazane abasha abhekene nazo, abesifazane besilisa abangase babe nomuzwa wokuthi bavele bafumana umoya wabo wesibili futhi bakhululekile ukuba baphile ngendlela abayithanda ngayo. Uma bephila kahle kule nkathi, bangase baqonde nokuthi baye bahlala kahle iminyaka.
Indlela Amalungu Omphakathi Noma Omndeni Okufanele Ayenze Ngayo
Ozakwethu ngokuvamile abaxoxani ukuthi bangase basekela kanjani uma ukufika esikhathini sekufika. Kodwa ngalesi sikhathi empilweni, abalingani bangase bachithe isikhathi esiningi ndawonye kunokuba baneminyaka eminingi, ikakhulukazi uma izingane zabo sezishiye ekhaya noma umzali osekhulile futhi engasadingeki ukunakekelwa.
Kweminye imibhangqwana, isikhathi esiningi ndawonye izindaba ezinhle kanye nezindaba ezimbi.
Kungukuqala 'kwesigaba sakho esilandelayo' njengombhangqwana, futhi into enkulu ukuthi ungayenza isikhathi esicebile kakhulu empilweni yakho. Ukuhlehlisa kahle amakhono akho wobudlelwane nokuzimisela ukubhekana nesimo sezulu izinguquko zokumiswa komuntu kuletha ukhiye ngalesi sikhathi. Ungakwazi ukusekela umlingani wakho ngokufunda mayelana nokuya esikhathini sokuqala, ukubonisa ukubekezela kuye njengoba eshintsha, futhi uthatha isithakazelo ezintweni zakhe.
Amathiphu Okusekela Ozakwethu Ekuqedeni Kwesikhashana
Zifundise wena. Funda konke okusemandleni akho mayelana nalokho okushiwo ukuyeka komama nokuthi yiziphi izinguquko namava avamile . Uma ubona ukuthi ukuguquka kwemizwelo nokukhanya okushisayo kujwayelekile futhi akulutho okwenzayo, ungazithokozisa mayelana nokuphakama kwayo.
Khuluma, noma ngabe ukukhulumisana akuveli ngokwemvelo kuwe. Uma umtshela ukuthi ufuna ukusiza, umlingani wakho we-menopausal, okungenani, uyazi ukuthi uhlangothini lwakhe. Uma usuvele ungumxhumanisi omuhle, mtshele ukuthi ungabona ukuthi ukukhipha esikhathini sokuya kungezona izinhliziyo eziphelile, bese umbuza ukuthi, "Yini engcono kakhulu engingayenza ukuze ngikusize ukuthi uzuze lokhu?"
Kholwa nguye. Lokhu kungaba isikhathi esizama ngempela, ngakho uma umkakho noma umlingani wakho ethi wenza konke okusemandleni akhe, kholwa.
Ngezinye izikhathi abesifazane bazizwa bebuthakathaka futhi abazi kahle ngokwabo ngesikhathi sokuya esikhathini. Ngisho noma kubheka kuwe njengokungathi "angayisiza" uma efuna, kungenzeka ukuthi akulula lokho.
Iba nesineke. Ukubekezela kubalulekile kokubili isikhathi esifushane nesikhathi eside. Ukumsika uma ebonakala edabukile noma othukuthele uzohamba ngendlela ende. Umlayezo owuthumelayo uma unesineke uwukuthi, " Ufanele ukulinda futhi lokhu ngeke kuphele kuze kube phakade."
Ungenzi ngokwezifiso imizwa yakhe. Uma umlingani wakho ethukuthele, ungamphendukisi kumsindo wakho . Angakwazi ukuthukuthela, ukudabuka, noma ukukhungatheka, futhi ungamlalela ngaphandle kokwenza ngawe .
Nikela ukusiza. Ukuthola usizo ngezingubo noma ukuhlala ekamelweni lokuphumula lapho efika ekhaya kungasiza ekunciphiseni isimiso esibucayi. Yenza noma yini ongayenza ukuze ungamzweli.
Vumela kuye. Lesi yisikhathi esihle sokumtshela ukuthi uyamthanda futhi kungani. Ungamhloniphi, noma kunjalo. Thembeka ekudumiseni kwakho.
Khumbula ukuthi kungani uhlangene. Ekushiseni komzuzwana, zikhumbuze ukuthi kungani ukhethe ukuhlala naye. Ngomzuzwana ozolile, ungase ufune ukwabelana naye naye.
Msize athole ukulala akudingayo. Ukuqwashisa kuvame kakhulu ngesikhathi sokuya esikhathini, futhi uma ungumuntu omusha, thola indlela yokuvimbela ukumvusa. Uma udinga isifundo sokulala, thola eyodwa futhi usebenzise i-CPAP ukuze unciphise ukudlala kwakho. (Kuzosiza inhliziyo yakho futhi, ngoba i-apnea yokulala ingabangela ukulimala komzimba.) Nikeza ukulala egumbini lesimenyakatho ngezikhathi zamasonto onke, ukuze athole ukulala kwangempela futhi avimbele ithelevishini ekamelweni lokulala. Ukulala ubusuku obuhle kuyosiza kakhulu imizwelo yakhe.
Ukusekela izithakazelo zakhe. Uma efuna ukuthatha isigaba ebusuku noma ujoyine iqembu lencwadi, yenza okusemandleni akho ukwenza kube lula kuye. Uzozizwa ethembekile ngokuphila uma engenza izinto ezithandayo.
Msekele impilo yakhe. Ukuqalisa ohlelweni lokuzivocavoca kulula uma unenkampani. Ukunikezela ukuthatha uhambo lokuhamba naye ebusuku noma ibhayisikili elizungeze echibini njalo ngempelasonto. Kungaba umkhuba onempilo obabili ozwa kahle ngawo. Uma ukhathazekile ngesisindo somzimba , clela ukupheka ukudla okunempilo.
Hlela phambili
Khuluma ngezimo ezicindezela ubuhlobo bakho futhi wenze uhlelo lokubhekana nabo. Uma uvakashele umama wakho umthumela phezu komphetho, khuluma ngendlela engcono kakhulu yokuphatha lezi zihambo. Uma uvame ukulwa ngemali, cabanga uhlelo lokuxoxa ngesabelomali sakho ngaphandle kokubekwa eceleni.
Be Playful
Hlela izipho ezimangazayo noma ukuphuma kwesikhashana sokudla ukudla okugubha uxhumano lwakho. Gcina umuzwa wakho wokumenza azi ukuthi ubuhlobo bakho bungaba mnandi. Kodwa qaphela ukuthi ungasebenzisi ukuhlambalaza ukwenza iphuzu noma amahlaya njengendlela yokubonisa intukuthelo noma ukungavumelani. Uma bobabili abantu bengahleki, ke akuyona into ehlekisayo.
Ungamcindezeli Ngezocansi
Ubulili ngumzabalazo ovamile phakathi neminyaka yesifo somzimba , lapho i- libido ingase isondelane nayo (noma kuwe), kanti omunye umlingani ufuna ubulili ngaphezu komunye. Ubuqili bukuthola ukulinganisela kokusondelana, ukuthinta, nokusebenza kocansi. Gxila okwesikhashana ngokuhlala uvale ngokomzimba. Mbuze ukuthi yini ezwayo enhle kuye futhi anikele ukukwenza. Ukugubha unyawo noma ukuhlunga kwehlombe kungakugcina uxhumeke.
Izinguquko ze-vaginal ngesikhathi sokuya esikhathini zingenza ucansi lungakhululekile noma lubuhlungu nakakhulu. Uma ezwa ubuhlungu ngokobulili, mkhuthaze ukuba akhulume nomhlinzeki wakhe wezokwelapha mayelana nokwelashwa okungase kukhulule ukuhlukumeza.
Uma izifiso zakho zobulili zihluke kakhulu, futhi kubonakala sengathi azikho indlela yokuzivumelanisa nazo, kungase kube yisikhathi sokubonisana nodokotela wezocansi. Labachwepheshe bangakusiza ukuthi uthole indawo ephakathi.
Thola Usizo
Akuwona wonke owesifazane ozodinga ukusekelwa okunzima kakhulu emsebenzini ngokuya esikhathini. Abaningi, okungenani, bazodinga ukuthuthukiswa kancane ngezikhathi ezithile. Izinhloso zakho zisho okuningi futhi nje ukwazi ukuthi ufuna ukumsekela (futhi ungamsoli noma umjezise) uzohamba ngendlela ende.
Abesifazane ekuqedeni kokuya esikhathini bayadinga ukubekezela, ubungane nokuningi kokuhleka. Udinga ukwazi ukuthi uyamthanda nokuthi uma usuhluke kakhulu kulezi zinguquko, usazoba umbhangqwana. Uma ungenalo amakhono okusekela owesifazane empilweni yakho phakathi nalolu shintsho, zama ukwelulekwa ngezibhangqwana.