Abanye besifazane bahlangabezana nokunqamuka kokuya esikhathini futhi bangaboni ushintsho kwisifiso sabo socansi, injabulo noma ukusebenza, nabesifazane abathile baqaphela ushintsho olujulile ekuphenduleni kwabo ngokobulili nangomthamo. Njengazo zonke mayelana nokunqamuka kwesikhashana , owesifazane ngamunye unendaba yakhe yokutshela.
Njengoba i-estrogen iyancipha, futhi njengoba umzimba wakho udala, ungase ubone ezinye izinguquko ezithinta impendulo yakho yocansi.
Ezinye zalezi zinguquko zingenxa yokuthi ama-hormone ayaphela, futhi amanye awo angase abe ngokomqondo noma ngokomzwelo emvelweni. Kungenzeka ungaboni ekuqaleni ukuthi kukhona okushintshile, futhi kungenzeka noma ungakhathazeki ngalezo zinguquko. Ngesikhathi nangemva kokunqamuka kokuya esikhathini ungase uqaphele:
- Ukomisa kwamagagasi
- Ubuhlungu ngesikhathi sezocansi
- Isifiso socansi esincane
- Kunzima ukuvuswa
- Ukutheleleka okungaphezulu kwesisu noma kwesisu
- Ukuzwa okuncane endaweni yangasese
Khumbula, abesifazane abaningi abanayo yalezi zimpawu, kodwa okungenani isigamu sabesifazane sinesinye noma ngaphezulu.
Ngaphambi kokuba ukhathazeke ngokuthi impilo yakho yobulili iphelile, kuqala thola ukuthi kwenzekani nokuthi yini oyifunayo. Uma umsebenzi wezocansi kanye nokuheha kwakho ngokobulili kuyisici esibalulekile sobunikazi bakho, noma yikuphi ushintsho kungabangela ukucindezeleka. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, uma ubulili buyinto ejabulisayo-kodwa hhayi engxenyeni engobufakazi bakho, ungathatha lezi zinguquko zobulili.
Kwabesifazane abaningi, ukunciphisa okubaluleke kakhulu emisebenzini yezocansi kusho indawo engaphezulu yezinye izinto abazibonga kakhulu-njengokubeka isikhathi namandla kumsebenzi noma umsebenzi wokuzilibazisa.
Kwabanye, noma yikuphi ukuguqulwa emandleni abo okuba nokujabulela ubulili kuyisongo esikhulu ekuziphatheni kwabo. Uwaphi lapho kuqhubeka lokho? Kubaluleke ngani umsebenzi wezocansi? Kumlingani wakho? Ingabe izimpawu zakho ziphazamisa ukusondelana noma ukwabelana okuhlangenwe nakho okubalulekayo?
Uma unquma ukuthi lezi zinguquko zocansi yizinto ofuna ukubhekana nazo, unqume ukuthi ungathanda ukuhamba kanjani ngakho.
Uma unomlingani, khuluma naye naye. Ingabe ufuna ukuxoxa nayo nomhlinzeki wezokwelapha? Umeluleki? Uchwepheshe wezocansi? Zikhona yini izincwadi noma izinsiza ongathanda ukuzifunda ngaphambi kokubona ochwepheshe? Ngemuva kokuthi unqume ukuthi ufuna ukubhekana nesisombululo, unezinqumo eziningi. Omunye (noma amaningana) wabo angenza umehluko.
Yini ezosiza isho ukuthi yini ebangela inkinga. Uma ama-hormone ekunciphiseni yimbangela enkulu yezibonakaliso zakho, ungazama:
- Amafutha omgogodla asetshenziswa ngokukhululekile ngesikhathi sokulala
- Ukwandisa i-foreplay ukuvumela ukuphakama okuphezulu nokugcoba
- Ukushaya indlwabu futhi ukwandisa ukuvama kobulili ukuletha ukujikeleza endaweni yesisu nokugcina ukuzwa nokuphendula
- I-prescription yomlomo noma i-transdermal (i-patch) isrogen kanye / noma i-progesterone therapy, eyobhekana nezocansi nezinye izimpawu zesifo somzimba
- I-estrogen yama-vaginal. Kunezinhlobo eziningana ukuthi umhlinzeki wakho wezokwelapha angabeka. Lezi azisebenzi ngendlela ehlelekile futhi ngokuvamile azizisi ngezinye izimpawu, kodwa zingasebenza kakhulu ezimpawu zesisu
- Ama-estrogens asetshenziswayo, athathwa njengama-supplements omlomo noma ama-vaginal formulations (i-Wild yam extracts inegama elihle kakhulu le-anecdotal, kodwa ucwaningo luhlanganisiwe ekusebenzeni kwawo.)
- I-Testosterone ithathwe ngomlomo noma isetshenziswe esikhumbeni nge-patch noma ukhilimu.
Uma ezinye izinto ezifana nokunganeliseki ubudlelwane, isimo sokucindezeleka sokuphila, izinkinga zokudabuka nokulahlekelwa, noma ukuzibona kudlala indima ekunciphiseni ukwaneliseka kocansi, ungazama ukuzama:
- Ukukhuluma ngokukhululekile nomlingani wakho ngalokho okufunayo kokubili kusuka ebuhlotsheni
- Ukuthola usizo kumeluleki, noma ngaphandle komlingani wakho
- Ukuxoxa nomhlinzeki wakho wezokwelapha ukusetshenziswa kwama-anti-depressants ukuthuthukisa ukuthokoza kwakho kokuphila kanye nemisebenzi yezocansi
- Ukufunda ukuphumula kanye nezinqubo zokunciphisa ukucindezeleka ukuze ukucindezeleka akukhiphi ukukhipha
- Ukusebenzisa okuningi ukuze uthuthukise amazinga wamandla nomoya
- Ukulala ngokwanele, okusiza ngokucindezeleka, ukulahlekelwa isisindo, kanye nezinga lamandla
Uma izikhalazo zakho zobulili zingumphumela wecala wemithi, zixoxisane nomhlinzeki wakho wezokwelapha. Kungenzeka kube nomunye ofanelekayo ngaphandle kwalowo mphumela ohlangothini.
Izidakamizwa ezivela esigabeni se-PDE-5 inhibitor (njenge- Viagra noma i-Cialis) azizange ziphumelele ekuphatheni ukungasebenzi kocansi kwabesifazane njengoba besesilisa. Lezi zidakamizwa ngezinye izikhathi ziwusizo kulabo abathatha izinkinga zokucindezeleka kwe-SSRI ngoba bephikisana neminye yemiphumela yomzimba we-anti-depressant futhi bavumela abesifazane ukuba bavuswe futhi bafinyelele i-orgasm.
Izimo ezingokomzwelo nezengqondo zihileleke kakhulu ekuvusweni kwabesifazane, futhi ucwaningo lubonise ukuthi abesifazane bangabika ukuvusa okuphezulu kocansi ngisho nalapho bengabonakali izimpawu zomzimba, futhi bangabonisa izimpawu zomzimba zokuvusa futhi bangabika "imizwa" yokuvusa. Ngakho akulula njengokuthola igazi ukugeleza ezindaweni ezilungile (usebenzisa ama-inhibitors we-PDE-5) ngaphandle uma ezinye izici zidlala futhi.
Ukuya ocansini ngesikhathi nangemva kokuya esikhathini kungase kube okuthakazelisayo, okuzenzekelayo, nokwanelisa ngokujulile. Abanye besifazane bathola ukuthi banokuhlangenwe nakho okuhle kocansi kokuphila kwabo ngemuva kweminyaka engamashumi amahlanu, kanti abanye babika ukuthi abancane noma abanesithakazelo emisebenzini yezocansi. Ukubikezela okuhle komsebenzi wezocansi nokuzijabulisa ngemva kokuqeda ukukhipha isisu yilokhu:
- Yeka ukuthi ujabule kangakanani ngaphambi kokuya esikhathini
- Yeka ukuthi uyisetha kanjani njengento yokuqala
- Ungumuntu onempilo kangakanani
Ubulili buyaqhubeka buyingxenye ebalulekile futhi ezuzisa impilo yakho . Thatha isikhathi sokunquma ukuthi yini oyifunayo futhi ungayeki kuze kube yilapho ufika khona.
Imithombo:
> I-Boston Women's Health Collective, Amalungu Ethu, Ezethu: Ukunqamuka kwesikhathi, uSimon & Schuster, eNew York, NY, 2006, 24 Nov. 2007.
> Dennerstein, L, Smith, AMA, Morse, CA, Burger, HG, "Ukuziphatha ngokocansi kanye nokunqamuka kokuya esikhathini" Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology Psychology, Vol.15, No.1, March 1994, pp59-66. 24 Nov. 2007.