Ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa amehlo ethu kuwukuphela kokuthola ukuthi sinesifo esibulalayo njengomdlavuza. Ukuphendula kwethu ngokomzwelo kuzo zombili lezi zimo ezishintsha impilo cishe kuzokuhlanganyela iqiniso elilodwa elivamile: basongela ubukhona bethu njengoba siyazi.
Uma ubhekana nokulahlekelwa amehlo akho, kungokwemvelo ukuthi ubhekana nokulahlekelwa okujulile nokungaqondakali.
Imizwa yokungabi namandla, ukwesaba, intukuthelo, usizi, nokungabi nabulungisa kungadala futhi. Lezi zindlela ezijwayelekile kakhulu zokuphendula , njengoba kunomqondo ozolile wokuphika-akukwenzeki kuwe .
Ungase ubhekane nobunzima bokuthi ungubani, ukwesaba umuntu okumele ube yilokho okubonakalayo kuyaphela. Akukho kubonakala sengathi kukhona ukukhanya ekupheleni komhubhe. Konke ongakubona kukhona ukulasha okumnyama okungekho indlela yokuphuma.
Misa ukwesaba lapho. Cabanga ngalokhu: ukulungiswa ekubeni yimpumputhe noma ukubonakala engaboni kahle kuyisici sokuphila kwakho ongakwazi ukulawula okuthile. Ake sibe nesheke sangempela: ukulahlekelwa umbono wakho akusho ukuthi unesifo esibulalayo.
Akukhona ngokulahlekelwa impilo yakho; kungokufunda ukuhlala ngokuhlukile.
Ngemuva kokushaqeka kokuqala kanye nenqubo yokulila, nokuqaphela ukuthi isimo sakho asikho esibulalayo, kungenzeka ukuthi uqale ngokuthatha izinto ezingokoqobo.
Ngokushintsha kokugxila komuntu siqu, wazi ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthuthukisa amakhono ku:
- ukuphatha imisebenzi yokuphila yansuku zonke
- ukugcina ukuzimela kwakho
- ukuvumelanisa izindawo zakho zasendlini nokusebenza
- ukuqeda izifundo zakho & ubuchwepheshe bokuphatha
- uhlela uhlu lwakho lwamabhakede lwamaphupho
Lapho uqala khona ukwazi ukuthi usengumuntu ofanayo, unesifiso esifanayo namakhono, kanye nekhono elifanayo lokwenza izinqumo kanye nokukhetha okuhle kokuphila.
Umehluko omkhulu phakathi kokuba yimpumputhe noma ongaboni kahle ukuthi wukuthi udingeke ube nesisombululo esiningi ekuxazululeni izinkinga, kaningi.
Uhlu Lokuhlola Lwangempela Lwangempela:
Ungakha uhlu olusha lokuhlola ngokubona izici zakho siqu.
Isibonelo, awekho izinga lokulahlekelwa kombono lingasusa ikhono lakho lokuba ngumzali onothando nomngane okhathalelayo, umhleli onamakhono nomhleli ozimele, umlaleli omuhle nomuntu omuhle nalabo abathandayo.
Ngokuphathelene nokuzimisela ukwenza izinto ngokuhlukile: ukuthatha noma yiliphi isinyathelo esincane kakhulu ukuthuthukiswa okukhulu ekusekeni okukhanye ngokwesaba noma ekuphikeleni.
Ungabhekana nale nselele yokuphila yedwa. Ngaphezu kunanini ngaphambili, umndeni, abangane, ozakwabo kanye namaqembu amaningi okusekela alindele ukukusiza uthole okuhle kakhulu kokuphila.
Ngakho-ke njengoba amehlo ephela, kuyadingeka ukuba unciphise imizwa yakho yokukhathazeka ngamathemba esizayo. Ukukhathazeka kwakho ngaphakathi kunganciphisa ngokuthatha isenzo esithile.
Uqalaphi?
Qala ngokufihla othandekayo emndenini wakho noma kumbuthano wabangani. Lokhu akusona uphawu lwebuthakathaka; kubonisa isibindi esikhulu ukuthi uzimisele ukuthatha isinyathelo sakho sokuqala esikhulu ekuboneni impilo yakho ngokuhlukile.
Zama ukungacabangi ukuthi ungumthwalo kwabanye ngoba ngokulahlekelwa umbono wakho, uba ngumphathi wesipho.
Kuyinto engokwemvelo yomuntu ukufuna ukwenza impilo ibe ngcono kulabo esibathandayo. Ngokubili, unikeza ithuba kubangani bakho abaseduze ukukusiza ukuthi uthathe lezo zibalulekile kuqala izinyathelo ohambweni lwakho olusha. Laba bantu bayokukhuthaza ngokuzithandela, njengoba ubuyobe wenza uma isimo sesishintshiwe.
Kukhona namaqembu okusekela ezweni lonke kubantu ababhekene nokulahleka komqondo abawazi kahle ukuthi uyaphi futhi banganikeza usizo emazingeni amaningi.
Uma ungakwazi ukuqhubeka ukwakha ngezikhwepha zakho futhi uma uvulekile ukubuka impilo yakho kusuka endaweni ehlukile, igama elithi 'ukuphuphuthekisa' ngeke libe isigwebo elinde phezu kwekusasa lakho kepha igama olisebenzisa njalo futhi ngokuqonda okujulile yezincazelo ezintsha empilweni yakho.