Umbuzo: Singabasiza Kanjani Izingane Zethu Zokubhekana Nesahlukaniso Sethu?
Ngifuna ulwazi lwendlela yokusiza indodana yami ukuthi isebenze ngokuhlukana kwami. Ngiye nginenhlanhla ngokwanele ekutholeni umeluleki oqonda i-autism, noma ngabe ngifuna amasu nsuku zonke, ukuthi ngiphendule kanjani imibuzo enzima, yiziphi izinto ezivame ukukhathazeka izingane ezinganeni ngesikhathi sehlukaniso, indlela yokukhulula ukungahambisani ngokomzwelo, izinguquko zesimiso, izindima ezishintshayo, nokuzethemba.
Impendulo: Kusukela ku-Cindy Ariel:
Ukwahlukanisa kuyinkinga enzima kakhulu kuwo wonke umuntu emndenini. Izingane zivame ukubhekana nokukhathazeka okuvame ukuhambisana nalesi sigaba esinzima sokushintsha komndeni. Imizwa yentukuthelo, ukudumala, ukwesaba, ukuhlazeka, ukudabuka, ukukhulula konke okushiwo amalungu omndeni. Izingane ziyazizwa futhi zivame ukubhekwa phakathi kwemizwa ephakathi nemicimbi kanye nemizwa phakathi kwabazali babo kanye nabo. Kubalulekile ukuvuma ukuthi uzizwa kanjani futhi uqaphele ukuthi le mizwelo iqhubekela phambili kuwo wonke umuntu. Umgomo oyinhloko mayelana nalokhu ukunciphisa amandla kanye nokuthinta okungalungile kwanoma yikuphi ukukhuphuka ngokomzwelo nokuhlukumeza kwengane yakho.
Indlela yokuphendula imibuzo enzima ngokucophelela, enesisindo, kanye nangesinye isikhathi. Lokhu kuvame ukufezwa kangcono ngosizo nesiqondiso esivela kuchwepheshe owaziyo kokubili ingane yakho kanye nesimo nakuba kunezinto eziningi ezingenziwa.
Uma ingane yakho ibuza, isilungele impendulo. Impendulo kufanele iqondiswe ezingeni lomntanakho futhi inokwethenjelwa nenhloso ngangokunokwenzeka ngaphansi kwezimo ezinzima. Nakuba amaqiniso abalulekile ezinganeni, akudingeki ukuba wazi yonke imininingwane yokuthi kungani abazali baye banquma ukuthi kungcono ukuthi bangahlali ndawonye.
Kubalulekile ukuthi ungahlukanisi ukuthembeka kwezingane zakho ngokungahloniphi noma ukukhuluma kabi ngomunye umzali. Bakudinga ukwaziswa mayelana noshintsho lwesimiso futhi babe nomqondo ocacile wokuthi bazobona yini omunye umzali wabo. Ukungqubuzana komzwelo kuncishiswa ngabanye; khumbula izinto izinto ingane yakho idinga ukuzizwa zifudumele futhi ziphephile futhi zikhululekile futhi zithandwa.
Kungase kube nomuzwa wokuthi umndeni uhlukaniswa ngokweqile, futhi ngezindlela eziningi ngokuqinisekile kuwukuthi. Kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, wonke umuntu uzokhula futhi imizwa kanye nezindima zizoshintsha kancane kancane. Kuyoba khona ukwesaba okuncane nokukhathazeka ngokomzwelo njengoba isikhathi siqhubeka. Ukuzihlonipha kuzoqhubeka, ngokuyinhloko, ukuba kuhlanganiswe nomama nobaba ngakho ingane yakho idinga ukuzizwa kangcono ngomzali ngamunye nobuhlobo bayo nabo.
Kusukela kuBob Naseef:
Ukuthola umqeqeshi wezempilo yengqondo ngesimo se-autism ngokuqinisekile kuyisibusiso. Imibuzo ophakamisayo iphendulwa kangcono nguchwepheshe owaziyo futhi owazi ingane yakho. Indlela umzali ohlukanisile ephethe lezi zinkinga uqala ngempela ezingeni lokuthuthukiswa kwengane yakho ngokolimi nokuqonda kwengqondo. Okushiwo ohlwini lwakho ukuthi ungayinakekela kanjani izidingo zakho kanye nosizi olungahambisani nanoma yiluphi ukulahlekelwa okukhulu futhi ngokuqinisekile isahlukaniso ukulahlekelwa okunjalo.
Abafundi abaningi bale kholomu bangase bakhathazeke ngemishado yabo ngenkathi abanye besesimweni sakho.
Njengoba uJosh Greenfeld ebhala ku-A Child Called Noah (1970), "Kunomthelela kunoma imuphi umshado noma nini lapho ingane igula. Futhi sinezingane ezigulayo njalo. "Uhlobo lokucindezeleka okungapheli ukuthi ukukhulisa ingane enezidingo ezikhethekile kuhlanganisa kungathinta ubudlelwane emaphuzu abo ababuthakathaka. Ngokusho kwe-US Census Bureau (2000), 47% yemishado yokuqala ihluleka futhi 57% yazo yonke imishado iphetha ngesehlukaniso. Nakuba lokho okutholakele kungavumelani, kunezivumelwano eziningi phakathi kochwepheshe ukuthi nakuba izindinganiso zesehlukaniso zifaniswa, kubonakala sengathi kunezinkinga eziningi zomshado ezibikiwe phakathi kwemindeni yezingane ezinesidingo esikhethekile (Seligman noDarling, Imindeni Ejwayelekile, Izingane Ezikhethekile, 1997).
Izidingo zezingane ezine-autism ziyinkimbinkimbi futhi ayinakwenzeka. Ukuzibophezela ekucindezelekeni nasezinkingeni zokuphila kwansuku zonke, ubudlelwane buhlukumezeka ngokungazinaki. Uma kutholakala ukukhubazeka noma ukugula okungapheli, imizwa enamandla iphinde ibe nobuhlobo obuvivinywa. Ngenxa yobuhlungu obunzima kangaka, imibhangqwana ethile isondelene kakhulu, kepha abanye ebuhlotsheni obuthakathaka noma obukhubazekile bangaba "utshani lokugcina." Iminye imindeni ihlukana ngenkathi abanye bekhula naphezu kobunzima babo. Abantu bangabuka ekuhluphekeni okuvuselelwe futhi bacebiswe. Abanye abantu bazizwa bekhululekile lapho umshado ugcwele izinkinga ezingapheli ekugcineni.
Ukuze ingane ikhule, idinga abazali abanamandla, abazinikele. Ngakho ukunakekela izidingo zakho kubalulekile emndenini wakho njengoba sekukhona manje. Ngethemba ukuthi unesisekelo sakho ngokwesihlobo nobubele. Ukudabuka ngokuhlukana kungathatha isikhathi. Ngokuvamile ngiyabona abantu abahlukanisile kodwa bengahlukananga ngokomzwelo kulokho abaye bahlukana nakho. Usizo lokunakekelwa kwengane, ukuze ukwazi ukuthola isikhathi sakho ngokwakho nakho kuyamangalisa uma ungayithola. Uma kungenjalo, ukuthola nje nokuthatha isikhathi esifushane sokuzijabulisa kungaba mnandi kakhulu.
URobert Naseef, Ph.D., noCindy Ariel, Ph.D., bangabalingisi be-"Amazwi avela ku-Spectrum: Abazali, Ugogo nomkhulu, Abantakwethu, Abantu abane-Autism, nabasebenzi Ababelana Ngokuhlakanipha Kwabo" (2006). Ewebhu ku-http: //www.alternativechoices.com