Kukhona abazali kanye nemindeni ezithintekayo ukuze baqonde i-autism futhi benze ukuphila kube lula nokujabulisa izingane zabo nabazukulu babo. Kukhona odade nabafowethu abaqonda ngokugcwele ukuthi ukuphila nge-autism kungaba yinkimbinkimbi futhi kunzima - futhi banikeza ngenjabulo ukubeletha, ukunakekelwa kokuphefumula nokusekelwa kwangempela.
Khona-ke, kukhona leyo miindeni enwetshiwe ...
hhayi "konke lokho."
Akunzima ukuqonda ukuthi kungani umndeni owengeziwe ungase ube nesikhathi esinzima nge-autism, ikakhulukazi uma bengakaze bawubona ngaphambili. Ngokwesibonelo --
- Abantu abaningi abavamile abakhathazekile kakhulu umahluko phakathi kokuxhumana nabantu. Siqeqeshwe ngokucophelela ukulindela izimpendulo eziqondile, futhi uma singazitholi siyancipha. Ukungafani okuphawulekayo (ingane engekho amazwi, isibonelo) kungadala ukukhathazeka kwangempela.
- Amanga kanye nemicabango engafanele mayelana ne-autism ingaba yinkimbinkimbi. Abanye abantu bangaphansi kokungaqondakali ukuthi abantu abane-autism basakazeka, abakwazi ukufunda, njalonjalo.
- Izingane ezigunyazayo ezinobudlova zingayethusa ngempela umndeni osondelene, ozesaba ukuphepha kwabo kanye nokuphepha kwezingane zabo.
- Amanye amalunga omndeni asele anamahloni ngenxa yokuba nelungu lomndeni elikhubazekile. Lokhu kungase kube "okungalungile," kodwa akuyona into engavamile. Ukukhubazeka kwengqondo nokugula ngengqondo kungokwemvelo (uma kungalungile) kubhekwa "ubuthakathaka," futhi abantu abane-autism bangase babe nokukhubazeka kwengqondo futhi ngokuvamile (ngokungalungile) bakholelwa ukuthi bayagula ngokwengqondo.
- Kwezinye izimo, amalungu omndeni asele anomuzwa wokuthi "ugqoke" uma ucelwa ukuba wenze indawo yokuhlala amalungu omndeni abakhubazekile. Banezindlela zabo, namasiko abo, futhi - ngokufanele noma ngokungalungile - abanaso isifiso sokushintsha.
Kuhle ukuthi "kuhle, bayiphutha: ingane yami ene-autism yindoda enhle kakhulu futhi kufanele ibone lokho, ikakhulukazi njengoba kufanele ibe umndeni!" Kodwa ukusho okuthile akukwenzi lokho.
Uma ufuna ngempela umndeni wakho ukusekela ingane yakho nge-autism, noma okungenani uzizwe ukhululekile kuzo, kuzodingeka ufake ezinye izesekelo endaweni - kokubili kwengane yakho nomndeni wakho. Kungase kudingeke wenze izinqumo ezinzima mayelana nokuthi ufuna umsebenzi obaluleke kangakanani.
Nazi amathiphu ambalwa okumele ukhumbule:
- Cabanga ngesimo osingena kuwo . Ingabe kufanelekile ubuhlungu bokuletha ingane nge-autism emshadweni womndeni noma emngcwabeni? Uma ngabe ingane yakho ingase iphumelele, incibilike phansi , ivuse , noma ingabe ingabe ingayitholi ukunakwa, lezi zingase zingabi izindawo ezifanele zokufakwa. Yebo, uyilunga lomndeni, futhi ngamalungelo kufanele amukelwe yibo bonke - kodwa ukuthi lokho ngeke kwenzeke, ungakhetha ukuyeka izinkinga.
- Nikeza ukuqeqeshwa kwe-autism . Akuwona wonke umuntu omdala emndenini wakho okhathalelayo ukuba atshelwe noma yini mayelana nokuthi yi-autism noma yini okudingayo ingane yakho. Kodwa-ke, bambalwa, cishe bazobonga nganoma yikuphi usizo onganikeza ngalo mayelana nokuthi yiziphi izinhlobo zokusebenzisana okusebenzayo, okungenjalo, ukuthi ungaphendula kanjani ukukhuthazela, njalonjalo. Kulabo bantu abazimisele ukufunda, kufanelekile ukuzinika isikhathi sokufundisa .
- Yazi umndeni wakho futhi wenze ukukhetha ngendlela efanele . Umama wakho angase azame ukukucindezela ukuba uhlale naye ngamaholide, kodwa uyazi ukuthi uzophuma uma ingane yakho yenza noma yini engayilindele. Njengoba unolwazi olunjalo, kungase kudingeke uhlale ehhotela eliseduze - futhi unciphise ukuxhumana phakathi komama nengane yakho. Angase angayithandi, kodwa kungcono kunokungakuboni nhlobo!
- Hlela uhambo oluphuthumayo olumnandi . Iningi labantu abane-autism lisheshe lishaywe umsindo, izibani, iphunga, kanye nezidingo zokuxhumana nabantu. Ukwazi lokhu, kunengqondo ukubeka isiteji sokubalekela okuhle lapho ingane yakho ibonisa izimpawu zokucindezeleka. Yebo, eze kubhejethi - kodwa vumela amalungu omndeni azi "kungadingeka ukuthi siphume masinyane." Uma izinto zihamba kangcono kunalokho kulindeleke ungakwazi njalo "ukushintsha izinhlelo" futhi unamathele.
- Yazi ukuthi uzobhekana kanjani nomzuzu onzima . Uvakashele umndeni osondelene ngamaholide, futhi ingane yakho ye-autistic ibonisa izimpawu ukuthi uzokuqhafaza. Wenzani? Sethemba ukuthi ukhulume nomphathi wakho kusengaphambili ngesithuba esithulile ongasisebenzisa kulolu hlobo lwesimo. Ngaleyo ndlela, wena nomntanakho ningakwazi ukuphuma lapho kudingeka - bese ubuyela lapho silungile.
- Yiba nokusekela esandleni . Kukhona izimo, ezifana nokuvakashela endaweni yokudlela, epaki yendaba, njll, lapho kungenakwenzeka khona ukusiza ingane eyi-autistic ukuba ibhekane nokucindezeleka ngenkathi futhi ibe "intombazane" enhle, indodana, udadewabo, umfowenu, noma umzali kubantwana bakini . Ukwazi ukuthi kunjalo, kuwukuhlakanipha ukuthi okungenani kube nomunye umuntu omdala esandleni ongakwazi ukuthatha, ngokusiza ingane yakho ye-autistic noma ngokuphatha ezinye izingane (noma abantu abadala abafuna ukuzenza) eqenjini lakho.
- Yenza uhlelo lokunciphisa izinga lakho lokukhathazeka. Uma ufana nabantu abaningi, ufuna ukuthi umndeni wakho onwetshiwe ujabule nawe, uziqhenya ngawe, futhi ukhululekile nawe nomlingani wakho kanye nezingane. Uma unengane ene-autism, kunjalo, akunjalo njalo. Ungase uzizwe uthukuthele, ukhungathekile, noma udabuke ngenxa yalokho. Uzoyeka kanjani u-steam? Ukwazi ukuthi unendawo ethile ongayihamba nayo imizwa yakho engenayo-injabulo ingenza noma iphule ukuvakashelwa komndeni.