Ukulungisa izinguquko nokuzihola ukunakekelwa abazidingayo
Njengoba siba ngumphakathi owedlule, abantu bangase bangabe besaphila edolobheni elifanayo noma ngisho nasezweni elifanayo njengabazali babo nogogo nomkhulu. Kwabaningi, ukuphumula ehlobo yilapho kuphela lapho befika khona ukubona uMama nobaba.
Nokho, lokho kusho ukuthi ukulindela izindawo ezijwayelekile, izinkumbulo zomndeni kanye nokuchitha isikhathi ndawonye kungase kuvele okuhlukile kunalindelekile.
Ngeshwa, lezi zivakashi zivame ukuba izikhathi lapho ukulahlekelwa okubonakalayo kumalungu ethu omndeni omdala, uma ekhona, kubonakala ngathi. Mhlawumbe umdala ubonisa ukukhohlwa okungaphezulu noma uhamba kancane; indlu ayiyona ehlanzekile njengoba ivame; Umklomelo womama wakho umvini wezitshalo ubonakala ungakunaki, noma ubaba ulahlekelwe isisindo ngokucacile.
Ngezinga elithile, sonke sicabanga ukuthi abazali bethu bayohlala nathi njalo futhi bahlale "ngokwabo." Singase sizame ukwehlisa izinguquko esizibonayo ngenxa yalokhu. "Kushushu kakhulu kakhulu engadini" noma "wonke umuntu ulahlekisela izinto manje", isibonelo. Abaphezulu, besaba ukwehla kwabo nokulangazela ukugcina ukuzimela kwabo, banqikazi ukuzinikela ngolwazi ngokuzithandela mayelana nokuthi benza kanjani ngempela.
Isigaba Esisha Sokuphila Sonke Umndeni
Uma ubhekene nale nhlobo entsha, kunezimpendulo eziningana ezivamile. Njengokuba nengane okokuqala, abazali abaguga kuyinsimu entsha kuwe.
Ungase uzwe imizwelo eminingi, ngezinye izikhathi kungenangqondo. Kungaba nokwesaba, futhi kungase kube nesilinganiso esinzima secala elihilelekile. Esinye impendulo evamile ukuphika; silinganisa ukuthi mhlawumbe akuyona into embi njengoba sicabanga noma usuke nje unosuku olubi.
Ngaphambi kokupakisha umama noma ubaba futhi ubalethe ekhaya, kubalulekile ukuthatha umoya ojulile futhi ubeke isimo sengqondo ngendlela efanele.
Isikhathi esilinganiselwe esichitha ekuvakasheni cishe asikwanele ukuhlola ngokwanele nokubhekana nezidingo zabaphathi. Noma kunjalo, kunezinye izinkinga ezingakunakekelwa ngokushesha. Okubaluleke kakhulu ukuphepha. Ingabe izingozi zabo ekhaya ezifana nezitezi ezimnyama noma amazinga amaningi ayingozi? Ingabe imithi ikhohliwe noma ithathwe ngendlela engafanele? Ingabe badla kahle?
Kunezinzuzo zokuguga endaweni. Ukushintsha kunzima kakhulu kubadala. Ngokuvamile babe nesistimu yesikhathi eside yenkxaso yendawo endaweni, kanye nabangani, omakhelwane, isonto labo, isikhungo esiphakeme, ukunakekelwa kwezempilo, nezinye izinhlangano ezaziwayo abazijwayele. Kukhona induduzo ehlala ekhaya lakho lapho ungagcina khona isimiso sakho, uhlele ifenisha yakho, bese ulala nenja uma uthanda. Ukunyakaza kungabangela ukuhlukaniswa njengabantu abadala kunokuba nobunzima ukwenza abangane abasha.
Kulungile ukuvuma ukuthi udinga usizo
Ngaphambi kokuzama ukuxazulula izinkinga zakho eziphezulu ngesikhathi seviki elide futhi elikhungathekile, ungase ufune ukucela usizo lomphathi wokunakekelwa wezempilo ochwepheshe. Angaba umthombo omkhulu wokungena futhi uhlele izinkinga zomdala wakho. Laba bantu abanokuhlangenwe nakho bangaphendula njengomphenyi, kodwa banolwazi nolwazi lokunikeza ukuhlolwa okuphelele kwesimiso somzimba nesimo somuntu osekhulile, egxile emandleni akhe, izinsiza, nokuthi bafuna ukubhekana kanjani nezindaba.
Laba baqeqeshi bayazi izinsiza zendawo kanye nezidingo zezinhlelo zikahulumeni nezendawo futhi bangabona labo abangathuthukisa ikhwalithi yokuphila komzali wakho.
Uchwepheshe uvame ukukwazi ukusiza abadala ukuba bacabangele lezi zinhlelo noma benze ngisho nokushintsha okulula kokuphila (okusho ukuthi, ukusebenzisa ibhokisi lepilisi lamasonto onke ukuphatha imithi) kunamalungu omndeni, njengoba bengaboni ngokubheka ngokomzwelo. Baqaphela isidingo sokulondoloza ukuzimela kwabadala isikhathi eside ngangokunokwenzeka futhi baqaphele ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi kuyinto encane (okungukuthi, Ukudla ngamagesi kumfelokazi ongafuni ukupheka nokulahlekelwa isisindo) okungenza umehluko omkhulu.
Bangakwazi ukubona nokuxazulula izinkinga imindeni engathandi ukukhuluma ngayo (ie, ukusetshenziswa kotshwala noma izimali). Umphathi wokunakekelwa uzobheka konke lokhu uma edala uhlelo lokunakekelwa olungeke lubhekiselele kuphela izidingo zamanje nezinhloso kodwa ukubhekana nezinguquko ezingenakugwenywa esikhathini esizayo.
Ukubeka ndawonye Uhlelo Lokusebenza
Izingane ezikhulile zabazali asebekhulile ziba yizinkinga ezivamile, ikakhulukazi uma othandekayo wabo engekho. Abaphathi bezokunakekelwa kwabazali babe izindlebe zomndeni nezamehlo, futhi bakhonze njengommeli wendawo kulabo abaphezulu. Bayazi kangcono ukuhlola isimo samanje noma esiqhubekayo ngoba bangakwazi ukukwenza ngomuntu (Umama uzohlala ethi konke kuhle uma umbiza). Ngaphezu kwalokho, banganikeza ukusekelwa okusebenzayo nangokomzwelo kubo bonke abadala nabantwana abadala, ukuze bonke bahleleke kahle ngecebo lokunakekela nokuthi ukuphepha nokusebenza kuzogcinwa kanjani.
Ngenkathi abaphathi bokunakekelwa ngokuvamile bekhokhisa phakathi kuka-$ 100 no-$ 200 ngehora, amalungu omndeni masinyane aqaphela ukuthi laba bantu bayabiza imali ngenxa yelwazi lwabo lwezinsiza kanye nesikhathi esilondoloziwe. Ukuchitha amahora amafoni efonini ngokungafuneki ulwazi mayelana nezinsizakalo ezivela ezweni lonke akugcini nje ukukhungathekisa kepha hhayi okusebenza kahle. Umphathi wezokunakekelwa kwendawo unalo lwazi kutholakale kalula futhi uyazi indlela yokuhamba ngezinhlelo, amasevisi, namahhovisi ezempilo.
Indlela Yokuthola Nokuxoxa Nomphathi Wokunakekela
Uthola kanjani umphathi wokunakekelwa? Izinhlangano eziningana zitholakala ukusiza. Lokhu kufaka:
- I-Aging Life Care (eyayibizwa ngokuthi i-National Association of Professional Geriatric Care Managers)
- I-National Academy yabaphathi bokunakekelwa abaqinisekisiwe
- I-National Association of Social Workers
Abaphathi abaningi abanakekelayo banesiqiniseko sebhodi. Buza mayelana nokuhlangenwe nakho kwabo nokuthi yiziphi izinsizakalo abazihlinzekayo. Thola ukuthi bangabasebenzi bodwa nokuthi yini ukutholakala kwabo (izinsuku, ubusuku, ngempelasonto, nangemva kwamahora). Bazokuxhumana kangaki nawe? Xoxa bese ubuza imibuzo uze ukhululeke. Baqonda ukukhathazeka kwakho. Banobazali, futhi.
Lesi sihloko sinikezwe Ukunakekelwa Ngomusa, insizakalo ye-intanethi evumela ukuthi uthole umhlinzeki wokunakekela ekhaya ngaphakathi kwakho.