Wonke umntwana omdala ucabanga ukuthi azi kahle ukuthi angakhuluma kanjani nabazali bawo asebekhulile. Kodwa lokhu akulona iqiniso ngaso sonke isikhathi, njengoba kunezindlela zokukhuluma nabantu asebekhulile abadinga ukuqeqeshwa ngemiphumela emihle. Lezi zindlela ikakhulukazi zisekelwe ekufundeni kwengqondo yabantu abakholelwa ekuphatheni umdala ngesithunzi nenhlonipho, futhi ukhumbuza ukuthi lesi sigaba sokuphila sinenani.
Siyazi ukuthi abadala bayabambisana ngokunakekelwa kwabo uma behlanganisiwe futhi bekhulunywe ngendlela ehlonipha ukufaka kwabo.
Njengeminyaka yobudala, izingxoxo izingane zabo ezidingekayo ukuba nazo zibe nzima nakakhulu. Lezi zeluleko zingasiza ukunciphisa noma yikuphi ukungezwani okungenzeka kube khona:
Bahlangane Nabaphi
Hlangana nabadala ezingeni leso ngenkathi ukhuluma nabo ngokumelene nokuma ngenhla noma eceleni kwabo. Bangakwazi ukukubona futhi bakuzwe kangcono ngale ndlela, futhi kusiza "ukulingana nenkundla yokudlala."
Yehlisa kancane ijubane
Khuluma kancane futhi ngokuzwakalayo. Yiba nesifiso sokuphinda izinto izikhathi eziningi njengoba kuyadingeka ngaphandle kokuthuthumela nokukhukhumeza. Lesi yisifundo ekubekezeleni nasekuqalisweni kwegama, njengoba udinga ukukhuluma ngendlela abangakuqonda ngayo.
Khuluma Ulimi Lwabo
Gwema izimemezelo (ie, yena, yena). Abanye asebekhulile bangase bangazi ukuthi usuku luni, ungalokothi uphendule ukuthi yiziphi izimemezelo ezinikezwa ngabanye abantu. Sebenzisa amagama futhi uwaxoxe njengoba umdala enza ("umfana ovela emnyango olandelayo").
Phawula lokho ababelana ngakho
Gwema ukubabuza imibuzo engaphezu kwenkumbulo yabo. Uma bebhekene nokulahlekelwa okwesikhashana kwesikhumbuzo , ungababuzi ukuthi kwenzekani izolo. Uma behlushwa ukukhumbula ukukhunjulwa kwesikhathi eside, ungababuzi imibuzo mayelana nalapho besemncane. Bazokwabelana nawe ukuthi yini abafuna ukuthi wazi.
Landela Abaholi Babo
Buza imibuzo ecacile, emifushane. Abanye bangase bangakwazi ukulandela imibuzo emibili kuya kwezintathu-noma izingxenye ezithile. Kulungile ngokumisa engxoxweni, ikakhulukazi uma kubonakala ukuthi izidingo eziphezulu zidinga isikhathi sokusebenza phakathi kwezitatimende. Ungaziphazamisi noma ushintshe izihloko ngokushesha.
Uhlelo Luvakashela Ngaphambi Kesikhathi
Ukuhambela ukuhambela nabadala esikhathini esizayo, bese ubacela ukuba babhale ukuvakashelwa phansi kwekhasi labo noma ikhalenda yabo. Babize ihora ngaphambi kokubakhumbuza. Izivakashi ezingenayo zingangcolisa imizila yazo yansuku zonke futhi zibangele ukukhathazeka.
Bhala phansi
Bhala izinto phansi kubadala endaweni abazoyikhumbula. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi inombolo yakho yocingo, into ofuna ukuba bakhumbule, usuku lokuvakasha kwakho okulandelayo, njll.
Phendula Izingcingo Zabo
Phendula ifoni uma umdala ekubiza. Kungathatha okuningi ukuba bathathe lesi sinyathelo, kuye ngokuthi isimo sabo siyini. Bashayela nabo ukuthi bahlole futhi, njengoba bevame ukujabha ngokucela usizo.
Imicabango Yokugcina
Uthi kanjani kubaluleke kakhulu kunalokho okushiwo uma kuziwa kubadala. Uma ubahlukumeza ngendlela engafanele, kungenzeka bangakutsheli lutho, okwenza kube nzima kakhulu ukubasiza.
Ngenxa yokuthi izintambo zomndeni zihlala zidlala, kubalulekile ukusebenzisa lezi zindlela zokuvimbela ukukhulumisana ukuvimbela lokho okuvame ukukhuluma ngokufutheka.
Kulula ukukhathazeka ngokuphinda izinto izikhathi eziningi noma ukusola ngezinto ongazange uzenze ngenxa yokulahlekelwa inkumbulo yomdala. Kodwa, lokhu kumtshela umdala ukuthi bakunzima kakhulu ukubhekana nabo, kubangele ukuba bathukuthele futhi ekugcineni bayeke ukukhuluma. Sidinga ukuba baqhubeke bekhuluma isikhathi eside ngangokunokwenzeka ukuze baqonde izidingo zabo. Uma sikhuluma nabadala ngendlela ezolile nehloniphekayo, bayoqhubeka bethemba futhi basivumele ukuba sisize.
Kungcono ukuvumela umdala ukuqondisa ingxoxo ngosizo lwethu. Ngezinye izikhathi lokhu kusho ukubuyela ngolunye usuku esikhundleni sokungena kakhulu engxoxweni eyodwa.
Ngempela, bangabazali bethu abasinikeze okuningi. Sinezikweletu kubo ukuphuza phansi nokulandela ukuhola kwabo.
Lesi sihloko sinikezwe Ukunakekelwa Ngomusa, insizakalo ye-intanethi evumela ukuthi uthole umhlinzeki wokunakekela ekhaya ngaphakathi kwakho.