Izazi zengqondo ziye zafunda izitayela ezahlukene zokubhekana phakathi kweziguli zomdlavuza. Baye bathola ukuthi ezinye izitayela zokubhekana nazo zingakusiza ukuba uhlangabezane nokuhlukunyezwa komdlavuza kanye nomphumela wendlela umzimba wakho, imizwelo, kanye nobuhlobo obusebenza kahle ngayo. Nakhu ukuthi ezinye izitayela zingathinta kanjani isipiliyoni sakho somdlavuza.
- Ukugwema nokugwema: Nakuba lokhu kungaba yindlela yokubalekela ukwesaba ukuthi umdlavuza ubonakala kuwe, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ukucindezeleka kwakho ngokomzwelo kungase kube kubi kakhulu uma ukwamukela isimo sakho futhi ubonise imizwa yakho ngesimo sakho esibucayi. Abacwaningi bathola ukuthi iziguli ezingcono ekugwemeni kunokuba zamukelwe zinezikhathi ezinzima ezivumelanisa nemiphumela yomdlavuza kanye nokwelashwa, futhi zinezinga eliphezulu lokukhathazeka nokucindezeleka. Babenezinkinga ezingokomzimba ezihlobene nomdlavuza wabo.
- Ukulwa noMoya Nokuqiniseka: Uma unesitayela sokubhekana nokuphikisana nawe ungavuma masinyane ukuhlolwa kwesifo somdlavuza, ube namazinga aphansi okukhathazeka, ukwazi ukusebenzisa amahlaya njengethuluzi lokubhekana nalo, futhi ube nesipho sokubeka kahle umdlavuza wakho wonke umdlavuza isipiliyoni. Iziguli ezinezitayela zokubhekana nazo zadlula ukushaqeka kokuxilongwa ngokushesha, kulindeleke futhi zithole ukuxhaswa kwalabo ababakuzungezile, futhi zinezinga eliphansi lokucindezeleka kuneziguli ezingenandaba noma ezingenangqondo.
- Ukuxazulula Inkinga: Mhlawumbe uvame ukubhekana nenselele ngokuzama ukuxazulula le nkinga. Ungase uzizwe ukuthi ungabamba iqhaza ohlelweni lwakho lwezokwelapha, kunokuba ube yisiguli esilula. Lokhu kungakunikeza umuzwa wokuzibandakanya nokulawula futhi uholela ekusamukelweni okusheshayo kokuxilongwa kwakho. Ungase ube nokucindezeleka okuncane ngokomzwelo kunomuntu ophikayo futhi ulungise ngokushesha esimisweni sakho sokwelashwa, ube namazinga aphansi kakhulu okucindezeleka nokucindezeleka.
Imizwa Yakho Yivumelekile Futhi Ungakwazi Ukubhekana Nakho
Ukwesaba, ukukhathazeka nokucindezeleka yizimo ezivamile ezihambisana nokuxilongwa komdlavuza webele, kodwa akuwona wonke umuntu onqotshwa yile mizwa. Okuhlangenwe nakho kwakho kwezepilo kuze kube manje kungase kukulungiselele ukuthi ubhekane nenselelo enkulu yezempilo njengomdlavuza.
Ungase uthi, "Kungani mina?" noma ungase uzisole ngokungenzi okwedlulele ukuvimbela. Mhlawumbe ukhathazekile ngemali yokwelashwa, umthelela wesifo sakho kubathandekayo bakho, nokuthi ngabe ungayigcina yini umsebenzi wakho noma cha.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi unemizwa yokuqala, ungazizwa ucindezelwe ukuba "uqine" noma uthathe isinyathelo ngokushesha. Ungaphili umqondo womunye umuntu wesiguli esifanele-lesi yisikhathi sokuba nguwe wangempela ! Yazi imizwa yakho njengengxenye yangempela yakho, futhi zinike isikhathi sokucubungula leyo mizwa. Gcina iphephabhuku, udale umsebenzi wezobuciko, ubeke umculo, noma uhambe esikhwameni sokubhoboza ekuzivocavoca- ukuveza imizwa yakho , ubhekane nabo, futhi uqhubeke.
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Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ungathanda ukucabanga ngani ngenye into, izindaba eziphathelene nomdlavuza webele zinzima ukugwema: izibalo zakamuva, ukwelapha okusha, izinhloko eziphathelene nodumo lwamuva olutholiwe-izikhumbuzi zikuzungezile. Umzimba wakho uqala ukuphendula ekwelapheni njengoba uzwa ukulahlekelwa izinwele, izinguquko zesisindo, izibazi zokuhlinzwa, ukulahlekelwa ukulala , ukukhathala okuqhubekayo, nokubhujiswa okunciphisa. Ngezinye izikhathi ungase uzizwe ufana nokuhlola kwesayensi kunokuhamba komuntu.
Nika ingqondo yakho nemizwelo ukuphumula komdlavuza webele.
Vala ithelevishini yakho ufunde incwadi enhle. Isikhathi sokuhlela ukuba uphumule futhi wenze okuthile okujabulisayo. Ukuzivocavoca okuncane - ngisho nokuhamba kungakusiza isimo sakho sengqondo futhi usize ngokuqwashisa. Vakashela ingadi enhle noma ukushisa okushisa futhi uphuze ngemibala kanye namafutha. Yenza umsebenzi wokuhlakulela ukusondelana nomlingani wakho. Zama ukuzindla, izithombe eziqondisiwe , i-yoga, noma i-Tai Chi-konke okungakusiza ukugxila ekuphulukisweni nasekunciphiseni amazinga okucindezeleka.
Umlayezo Wasekhaya Wokuthatha
Uma ungakwazi ukukhomba isitayela sakho sokubhekana, ungase ukwazi ukwamukela ukuxilongwa kwakho nokwelapha, ukuphatha ukwesaba kwakho, ukuthola amaqiniso ngezinkinga zakho zezempilo, futhi ube nomgwaqo olula ohambweni lwakho lomdlavuza.
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