Yimiphi imizwelo ozoyithola ngesikhathi sesifo somdlavuza wakho webele, njengoba uthola ukwelashwa, futhi uzosinda? Hlola lolu hlu oluhlanganisa lezi zikhathi ezintathu ezibalulekile ohambweni lwakho.
Uma Uqala Ukuxilongwa Ngomdlavuza Webele
Umdlavuza wesibeletho yisifo esisongela ukuphila esidinga ukwelashwa okunamandla. Uma uthola ukuthi unesifo somdlavuza webele , wena, umndeni wakho nabangani bayoba nemagagasi womzwelo (mhlawumbe amagagasi omsindo ngezikhathi ezithile.)
Njengoba nje ukuxilongwa kwakho kungahlukahluka kwezinye iziguli zomdlavuza webele, ukuzwa kwakho ngokomzwelo kungase kuhluke. Ukwazi ukuthi yini abanye abasindile abaye bahlangabezana nayo futhi bathola usizo ekuqaleni kwenkambiso kungasiza ekuhambeni indlela yakho ngokusebenzisa lolu phiko.
Ungase ungabi nayo yonke le mizwelo, kodwa kuvamile ukuba nemizwa eminingi njengoba uqhubeka ngokusebenzisa ukwelashwa. Nazi ezinye izimo ezingokomzwelo ezifana nezindlela ezinhlanu zokuhlukumeza zikaKübler-Ross:
- Yeka futhi ushaqele
- "Lokhu akunakwenzeka."
- Intukuthelo nokufutheka
- "Lokhu akulungile."
- "Kungani ngingavinjelwe kulokhu?"
- "Ngenzeleni mina?"
- Ukucindezeleka nokucindezeleka
- "Ukuphila kwami sekuvele kumatasa, angikwazi ukuyeka ukubhekana nalokhu."
- "Ngizizwa ngidabukile."
- "Kungani kufanele ngithole ukwelashwa? Ngizofa noma kunjalo."
- Usizi nokwesaba
- "Ngizofa, kodwa angifuni."
- "Ngizolahlekelwa yingxenye yomzimba wami."
- "Angisoze ngazizwa ngiphephile futhi."
- Ukwamukelwa nokulungiswa
- "Kuhle, ngiyiqiniso. Nginomdlavuza wesifuba, kodwa akudingeki ngiwuthande noma ngivumele ukuthi uchaze ukuthi ngingubani."
- Ukulwa nethemba
- "Ngizokulwa nokuphila kwami! Ngithola usizo lonke nokusekela okukhona kimi."
Ngesikhathi Ukwelashwa Kwakho Ngomdlavuza Webele
Emva kokuxilongwa, uzoxoxa neqembu lakho lokunakekelwa kwezempilo mayelana nezinketho zakho zokwelapha umdlavuza webele . Iziguli zithinteka kakhulu ezinqumweni zokwelashwa manje kunokuba zaziyiminyaka engama-50 edlule. Kodwa ukulawula okungaphezulu akusho ukuthi ngeke uzwele imizwelo enamandla ehambisana nale nqubo.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukwelashwa kwakho kuhlanganisa ukuhlinzwa, imisebe, i-chemotherapy, i-hormone therapy, noma inhlanganisela, ungaba nemibuzo eminingi engaphenduliwe. Ukuzifundisa ngalezi zokwelashwa nemiphumela emibi ehlobene kungasiza ekunciphiseni ukukhathazeka kwakho, kubandakanya:
- Ukukhathazeka ngokungafaki kahle
- "Ngemva kokuhlinzwa, ngizobe ngisakhangeka?"
- "Kuzokwenzekani empilweni yami yobulili?"
- Ukwesaba okungaziwa
- "Lokhu kuzoba njani?"
- "Ngingaphila yini ukwelashwa?"
- Ukukhathazeka ngemiphumela emibi
- "Kuzwakala kubi kakhulu. Ingabe kukhona okunye okunye?"
- "Ngizobhekana kanjani na?"
- Ukukhathazeka
- "Ingabe izindlela zami zokwelashwa ziyophumelela ngempela?"
- Ukusola mayelana nemiphumela yokuhlolwa
- "Zizophela nini izindaba ezimbi?"
- Ukukhathazeka komndeni nokusebenza
- "Lokhu kuthinta kanjani umndeni wami?"
- "Ingabe ngizolahlekelwa umsebenzi wami?"
Khuluma nodokotela bakho kanye nezinye iziguli eziye zabhekana nalolu phiko ukuthola izimpendulo nokusekelwa okudingayo. Kungasiza futhi ukuthola iqembu lokusekela lendawo.
Ngemuva kokwelapha kwakho ngebelevuza yesisu
Lapho ukwelashwa kwakho okuyinhloko kuphela, uyanamathelisa nge-oncologist yakho bese uguqula abanye abahlengikazi bakho. Kwenzekani ngokulandelayo? Ungase uthathe ukwelashwa kwe-hormone futhi uvakashele ukuvakashelwa kokulandelela, kodwa uzwa kanjani manje?
Ukuxhumana okuhle nethimba lakho lokunakekelwa kwezempilo kungakusiza ukuba uqhube phambili nokuqoqwa kwemizwelo ehambisana nokuphila, kubandakanya:
- Ukwesaba ukuphindaphindiwe
- "Ingabe umdlavuza wami uzobuya?"
- "Ingabe izosakazeka?"
- "Ingabe lokho kubuhlungu engikuzwa nje nje ukuthi ngiyisisu noma ngingaba umdlavuza wami-ingabe isitha sami esidala, umdlavuza webele?"
- Izwa sengathi iyingozi
- "Ngiphelelwe ukwelashwa. Ngilondoloza kanjani impilo yami?"
- Ukwesaba ubuhlungu obuqhubekayo
- "Isifuba sami sinzima kakhulu."
- "Ngikhathele."
- "Ingabe ngizophinde ngizizwe ngivamile?"
- Ukwesaba ukufa
- "Umndeni wami udinga mina. Angilungele lokhu."
Kuleli qophelo ohambweni lwakho ungase ube nemicabango yokwenza izinto ezimbi kumuntu olandelayo othi kuwe, "konke okudingayo ukuze usinde umdlavuza kuyisimo sengqondo esihle."
Yebo, ukuhlala unomdlavuza kungenza uzizwe ungcono , kodwa kubalulekile ukuveza imizwelo yakho emibi, futhi. Thola umngane ongenamanga ongabelana ngalezi zinkinga ezingaphansi kwezinto ezinhle futhi uphume.
Inothi Mayelana Nokucindezeleka
Ucwaningo lwe-National Academy of Sciences lwathola ukuthi ukucindezeleka kuvame ukugula emdlalweni wegciwane lesifuba, futhi kuvame ukuqala ezinyangeni ezintathu zokuqala ngemva kokuxilongwa. Bancoma ukuthi uma ubona izimpawu zokucindezeleka, kufanele uthole usizo ngokushesha.
Vumela ithimba lakho lokunakekelwa kwezempilo likwazi ukuthi unenkinga yokucindezeleka noma ukudabuka, ngakho bangakhombisa ukululekwa kanye nemithi. Ucwaningo lubuye lwathola labo abacindezelekile ngaphambi kokuxilongwa bazodinga usizo olwengeziwe ukuze bahlenge kulo.
Kunezitolo eziningi ezingaphephile nezakhayo ongazama ngazo . Ngenkxaso evela kwabanye abasindile, umndeni, abangane, nodokotela wakho, ungangena uhambo lwakho lomdlavuza webele.
> Imithombo:
> I-American Cancer Society. Izici zomzwelo zomdlavuza webele. 01/15/16.
> Ekufeni nasekufeni. Izinyathelo Ezinhlanu Zokuzizwa. Incwadi ka-Elizabeth Kübler-Ross.
> Psychosomatics (Journal) enyatheliswa yi-Academy of Medicine Psychosomatic. Ukukhathazeka, ukucindezeleka ngokomzwelo, nokucindezeleka kwengqondo ngaphambi nangemva kokutholakala komdlavuza webele.