Cabanga ngalezi zici eziyinhloko uma ubhekene nalo mbuzo onzima
Lapho othandekayo efa, abazali nabagcini besikhashana bavame ukungabaza ukuthi ngabe izingane kanye / noma izingane ezincane kufanele zihambele emngcwabeni olandelayo, isikhumbuzo kanye / noma umngcwabo ogcinelwe oshonile, noma uma izingane kufanele zihlale ekhaya nomntanami noma endlini yomakhelwane noma umngane.
Ngokuqondakalayo kushukunyiswa yisifiso sokuvikela izingane ezimweni ezibuhlungu, ezingokomzwelo jikelele, abazali nabanakekeli bangase bazibuze nokuthi ingane yabo isemncane kakhulu ukuqonda ukuthi kwenzekani, noma ukhathazeke ngokuthi izinsizakalo zizokwenza ukwesaba ngokufa nokufa emva kwalokho.
Ngeshwa, ayikho into elula, ejwayelekile-yonke impendulo yalolu daba, kodwa lesi sihloko sinikeza izici ezimbalwa eziyinhloko okufanele uzicabangele ukukusiza ukuthi unqume ukuthi ingane yakho noma ingane kufanele yini ukuya emngcwabeni, esikhumbuzweni nasenkonzweni yomngcwabo.
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Izinkolelo eziningi mayelana nezidingo zezingane ezililayo zikhona, kanti inhloko phakathi kwalezi zinsuku ukuthi ukuthi ingane ingakanani ukuthi kufanele abe khona emngcwabeni, enkumbulweni kanye / noma emngcwabeni. Ngokusho kwalezi zindabakwane, izinsana nezingane ezingaphansi kweminyaka ethile (ngokuvamile ezungeze iminyaka emithathu noma emine ubudala, kodwa hhayi kuphela) akufanele zihlanganyele emidlalweni yezinkondlo ngoba zisemncane kakhulu ukuba ziqonde incazelo yalezi zinsizakalo, azisizi, noma, ngenxa yeminyaka yabo, abazange babe nesinamathisela okubalulekile kumuntu oshonile ngakho-ke abanaso isidingo sokuba khona.
Okuyiqiniso ukuthi iminyaka yengane akufanele neze iphoqe ukuthi kufanele yini aye emngcwabeni, isikhumbuzo kanye / noma umngcwabo.
Ukudala izimpendulo ezisekelwe kuphela eminyakeni yobudala besikhombisi nje kuwubuwula njengokuthi "bonke abasha bayaphikisana" noma ukuthi "sekwephuzile kakhulu ukushada" ngemuva kwephuzu elithile empilweni. Esikhundleni sokusekela isinqumo sakho ngobungane bomntwana wedwa, cabangela ezinye izici ezibalulwe kulesi sihloko bese wenza isinqumo esinolwazi.
Abazali Balinganjani?
Ukukhulisa ingane kuwumsebenzi wesikhathi esigcwele futhi kungaba yinselele kubazali noma abaqaphi ngisho nangaphansi kwezimo ezinhle kakhulu. Uma kwenzeka ukufa - ikakhulu uma kuhilela ilunga lomndeni, njengomlingani / umlingani, umzali noma umntakwethu - usizi nokudabuka okubangelwayo, ngaphandle kokubalula imininingwane eminingana ehilelekile ekuhleleni umngcwabo, isikhumbuzo kanye / noma ukungcwaba, kungaba nomuzwa onzima kakhulu. Yize kubalulekile ukucabangela isimo somzwelo somzali noma abaqaphi uma bekhetha ukuthi usana noma ingane kufanele yini ukuya khona, lokhu kuphela akufanele umtshele ukuba khona kwakhe enkonzweni.
Nakuba kungase kube nomuzwa wokuthi kulula ukuhlela nje umntanami noma ubuze umakhelwane ukuthi abukele ingane yakho ngesikhathi sezinsizakalo, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi unezinketho eziningana ezivumela ingane yakho noma ingane ukuba ihambe ngaphandle kokubeka izidingo ezinkulu kuwe . Okokuqala, abazali noma ababheki bangakwazi ukuhlela ilungu lomndeni, umngane noma ngisho nelungu labasebenzi bomngcwabo ukuba bakhonze njengomngane wengane yakho ngesikhathi sokungcwaba, isikhumbuzo kanye / noma ukugubha. Kumele alungele ukuhlala nendodana yakho noma indodakazi yakho yonke isikhathi futhi uphendule noma yikuphi imibuzo ingane yakho engase ibe nayo, kanye nokuphakamisa imisebenzi ethile ehlelekile uma / uma isikhathi sokunakekela ingane sishaywa.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi usana lwakho noma ingane akudingeki ukuba khona emisebenzini noma isikhathi sonke. Isibonelo, ukuya ehoreni lokuqala lokuvuka / ukuvakashelwa, noma umngcwabo kodwa hhayi ukucwatshwa, bese mhlawumbe uhamba ekhaya noma uphume ukudla kanye nelungu lomndeni elithembekile noma umngane kwenza ingane yakho iqhaza ngaphandle kokubeka ukucindezeleka okungadingekile nokucindezelwa phezu ngokwakho.
Yini Ingane Eyifunayo?
Nakuba kungase kubonakale kungenakuphikisa, ngezinye izikhathi indlela ephumelela kunazo zonke yokunquma ukuthi ngabe ingane kufanele ibe khona emngcwabeni, isikhumbuzo kanye / noma ukungcwaba ukucela ingane ngqo.
Ukuze usize indodana yakho noma indodakazi yakho isenze isinqumo, kufanele uzimisele ukumchazela ukuthi kuzokwenzekani enkonzweni kanye nalokho okushiwo kule mikhosi kanye / noma amasiko.
Kubalulekile futhi ukulungiselela ingane yakho ukuphendula okungokomzwelo kwabanye abakuyo. Imingcwabo, ukucwiliswa, kanye nezinsizakalo zezikhumbuzo ziphakathi kwezimo ezimbalwa lapho kusekhona ukwamukeleka komphakathi ukukhala nokuveza ukudabuka emphakathini. Ukubona amalungu omndeni nabangani kulo mongo omusha kungase kuphazamise, noma kunjalo, ngakho-ke kungcono kakhulu ukulungiselela ingane yakho ukuthi ingabhekana nani.
Kuncike ekungenikeni kwengane yakho kanye nezinga lakhe lokuvuthwa, le ngxoxo cishe ingabangela "imibuzo emikhulu," njengokuthi kungani abantu befa, beya kuphi, njll, ngakho kufanele ulungele ukuphendula lezi imibuzo, futhi. Ngokuvamile, kufanele uphendule noma yikuphi imibuzo ingane yakho ebuza ngokuqondile nangokwethembeka, ngaphandle kokusebenzisa imibono yokuphefumula .
Uma indodana yakho noma indodakazi yakho ikhetha ukungena emngcwabeni, isikhumbuzo kanye / noma umngcwabo, kubalulekile ukungamgxeka ingane yakho. Uma kunesidingo, ungase umqinisekise ukuthi ukungena enkonzweni akusho ukuthi akayithandi oshonile, nokuthi ukuhambela akuyona indlela ewukuphela kokubambisana nomuntu othandekayo.
Namanje Akakwazi Ukunquma?
Uma usalokhu ungaqiniseki ngemva kokucabangisisa ngokucophelela izici ezingenhla, khona-ke ingane yakho kufanele ibe khona emngcwabeni, isikhumbuzo kanye / noma umngcwabo nje uma kwenzeka kanjalo kubonakala kubalulekile kuye kamuva ekuphileni. Intsha eningi kanye nabantu abadala bazizwa bezisola, benecala noma ngisho nentukuthelo ngoba bebekelwe eceleni inkonzo njengengane futhi bengenalo ithuba lokuthi bangabanikeli othandekayo. Kwezinye izimo, abantu bakholelwa ukuthi ukulahlekelwa emngcwabeni, ukukhunjulwa noma ukucwatshwa lapho besencane kuthinteka ikhono labo lokudabuka ngokujwayelekile esikhathini esizayo empilweni.
Lokho kusho ukuthi akufanele uphoqele ingane yakho ukuba ingene enkonzweni uma ingafuni ukuba khona. Ukufuna ukuba khona kwengane kungakha imizwa yentukuthelo. Njengoba kuphawuliwe ekuqaleni kwalesi sihloko, ayikho impendulo ecacile yalo mbuzo.
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"Ingabe izingane ezincane kufanele ziye emingcwabeni?" ngo-Kate Hilpern, ngoJulayi 12, 2013. I-Guardian . Ibuyiselwe ku-Ephreli 27, 2014. http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2013/jul/12/kumele-kuthi-kuyi-go-to-funerals