Izigaba ezine Nemisebenzi Yokudabuka

Imibono Mayelana Nendlela Abantu Bakubhekana Nayo Usizi

Nakuba abantu abaningi bezwile ngo-Elisabeth Kübler-Ross kanye nomqondo "we-DABDA" wezinyathelo eziyisihlanu zosizi olubhekene nokufa, nezinye izinkolelo ezihlobene nosizi ezibandakanya izigaba, izigaba, noma imisebenzi ekhona. Hlola okufingqiwe kwemiqondo emibili ephathelene nosizi ehlanganisa izigaba ezine zosizi kanye nemisebenzi emine yokulila.

Ukusabela kwakho ekufeni komuntu othandekayo kuyintando yabantu ngokujulile futhi wonke umuntu uzothola impendulo yakhe yokwenza usizi ngokuhlukile.

Ungahamba ngezigaba ngokushesha, isibonelo, noma kancane kancane; ungase uhambe nabo ngendlela ehlukile, noma ungase weqe isigaba noma umsebenzi ngokuphelele, noma ujabulele okungaphezu kwesisodwa. Kodwa-ke, uhamba ngenqubo yokulila, nje uthemba ukuthi kuyoba indlela efanele kuwe uma ulungisa isimo sokulahleka.

Izigaba ezine zokusizi

Ngawo-1970, umqondo wezifo zengqondo waseBrithani uColin Murray Parkes nesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uJohn Bowlby bahlongoza umqondo ohilela izigaba ezine noma izigaba zokudabuka:

1. Shock and Numbness: Lesi sigaba ngokushesha silandela ukulahlekelwa ukufa. Umuntu osiziyo uzizwa enganqamuki, okuyindlela yokuzivikela evumela ukuthi aphile emoyeni ngemuva kokulahlekelwa okusheshayo.
2. Ukulangazelela nokuCwaninga: Okubizwa nangokuthi i-pining, lesi sigaba sibonakala ngumuntu osiziyo olangazelela noma olangazelela oshonile ukuba abuyele ekugcwaliseni okungekho okwenziwe ukufa kwakhe. Imizwa eminingi ikhona futhi ichazwe ngalesi sikhathi, njengokukhala, intukuthelo, ukukhathazeka, ukukhathazeka, nokudideka.

1. Ukungahleleki nokuphelelwa yithemba: Umuntu osizini uvame ukufisa ukuhoxisa nokuyeka abanye kanye nemisebenzi ayeyithandayo njalo kulesi sigaba. Njengoba samukele iqiniso lokuthi ukulahleka, imizwa yokucwaninga nokufisa ishonile yancipha kakhulu ngenkathi imizwa yokunganaki, intukuthelo, ukuphelelwa ithemba, ukungathembeki nokukhushulwa kwemibuzo.

1. Ukuhlelwa kabusha nokuvuselelwa: Esigabeni sokugcina, umuntu osiziyo uqala ukubuyela esimeni esisha "sokujwayelekile." Ukulahlekelwa isisindo okwenzeka ngesikhathi sokudabuka okukhulu kungase kuguqulwe, amazinga wezamandla akhuphuke, kanye nesithakazelo kwimisebenzi ejabulisayo ebuya. Ukudabuka akupheli, kepha imicabango yokudabuka nokuphelelwa ithemba iyancipha ngenkathi izinkumbulo ezinhle zomuntu oshonile zithatha.

Ngenxa yokuthi wonke umuntu uyadabukisa ngendlela yakhe futhi ahambe ngendlela yakhe, ayikho isikhathi esithile noma "esivamile" lapho abantu bebona / beqedela lezi zigaba. Kwezinye izimo, ukuthola ukwelulekwa kokuphulukiswa kanye / noma ukujoyina iqembu lokusekelwa ngokushonelwa kungasiza umuntu osizileyo ukuba ahambe ngezigaba ngaphezulu ngokushelela.

Imisebenzi Emine Yokukhala

Ngo-1982, isazi sezengqondo saseMelika uWilliam J. Worden sanyathelisa incwadi yakhe ethi "Grief Counseling and Grief Therapy," eyayinikeza umbono wakhe ngemisebenzi emine yokulila:

1. Yamukela Iqiniso Lokulahleka: Ukuza ubuso obugcwele neqiniso lokuthi umuntu ufile futhi ngeke abuyisele yinto yokuqala okufanele umuntu osizimele ayigcwalise. Ngaphandle kokufeza lokhu, ngeke ukwazi ukuqhubeka nenqubo yokulila.
2. Ukusebenza Ngokubuhlungu Kokudabuka: Ukusabela kwakho ekufeni komuntu othandekayo kuvame ukulimaza, futhi uzothola imizwelo ehlukahlukene, njengokuthukuthela, icala, ukwesaba, ukucindezeleka, ukudabuka, ukuphelelwa ithemba, njll. Lo msebenzi uthatha isikhathi . Kudinga oshonelwe ukuthi avume le mizwelo ehlukile kanye nobuhlungu, kunokucindezela noma ukugwema le mizwa, ukuze asebenze ngayo.

1. Lungisa Esimweni Esingaphansi Kokukhubazeka: Ngaphezu kokulungiswa ngokomzwelo nangokwenyama, lo msebenzi ungadinga ukuthatha indima noma umsebenzi oshonile owawenza, futhi uzohluka ngokususelwa ebuhlotsheni bobuhlobo. Isibonelo, uma oshade naye noma oshade naye efa, lo msebenzi ungase uhilele ukuphatha imali yezekhaya, ukukhulisa ingane yedwa, ukuthola umsebenzi noma ukubuyela emsebenzini, njll.
2. Thola Ukuxhumeka Okuhlala Nalabo Abalahlekile Ngesikhathi Ukuqala Ukuphila Okusha: Nakuba kungekho lutho olungakuphoqa ukuba ukhohlwe ngokuphelele ngobuhlobo bakho nomuntu oshonile, umgomo ukuthola indawo efanelekile ekuphileni kwakho ngokomzwelo okuya phambili futhi uqale ukuhlala futhi. Lokhu kungadinga ukuvumela ukuhamba kokunamathiselwe ukuze ubudlelwano obusha, obuhle bungase buqale ukwakha.

Ukusebenza ngalezi zinto ezine zokulila kungasiza oshonelwe ukuba avumelane nokulahlekelwa kwabo futhi abuyele esimweni esisha sokujwayelekile. Futhi, ukubandakanyeka emaqenjini okusekelwa ngokushonelwa noma ukufuna ukululekwa kwezinsizi kungasiza abantu ukuba bahambe ngale misebenzi.