Ukufa kusenza singakhululekile futhi ngokuvamile kusishiya ekulahlekelweni kwamagama ngaphambi, ngesikhathi noma ngemuva komngcwabo noma inkonzo yesikhumbuzo. Ngezansi, uzothola izinkulumo ezintathu ezizwakalayo ezikhuthazayo, ezikhuthazayo zokusiza ukuveza iziduduzi zakho ngobuqotho futhi unikeze induduzo yangempela kumuntu osizi ukufa kwesihlobo noma umngane.
Yini Oyeyithanda Iningi Ngaye?
Ngeshwa, iningi lentukuthelo eboniswa abantu ngokuvamile ngaphambili, ngesikhathi noma ngemva kwenkonzo yomngcwabo noma yesikhumbuzo - njengokuthi "Ngiyaxolisa ngokulahlekelwa kwakho," "Uhlala endaweni engcono," "Isikhathi siphulukisa wonke amanxeba" nezinye izinto amagama alolu hlobo - anikele omncane oshonelwe endleleni yokududuzeka okunenjongo (futhi angabonisa ukuthi awunandaba).
Izitatimende zalolu hlobo azidingi impendulo, ngakho-ke, ngokuvamile kuvamise ukuthi umuntu ozinikeze azizwe kangcono ngenxa yokuthi "into" futhi anqobe ukungahambi kahle esikuzwakalayo lapho sibhekene nokufa.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuphawula okuphelelwe yisikhathi njengalokhu kungahle kwenzeke ukuthi unomuzwa wokuthi oshonelwe akufanele akhulume ngomuntu oshonile ngoba akekho omunye umuntu ofuna ukuwenza futhi kufanele "athuthuke" ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka.
Nakuba ngokuvamile kungakufanele ukubuza uma umile emgqeni owamukelayo emngcwabeni wakhe / ukuvakashelwa , ukucela osizi ukuba ahlanganyele imicabango yakhe, imizwa kanye nezinkumbulo mayelana nomuntu oshonile ngesikhathi esifanele angabonisa i-cathartic. Ukufa kuphelisa ukuphila, hhayi ubuhlobo, nalabo ababhekana nokulahlekelwa phakade komuntu oseduze cishe bayakwamukela ithuba lokuhlanganyela ngokukhululekile imizwelo yabo kanye nezinkumbulo nomlaleli onakekelayo, onesihawu - ngisho noma ukwenza kanjalo kubangela izinyembezi ezimbalwa.
Ngiyakuthanda
Ngenkathi iqukethe amagama amathathu ambalwa kuphela, ambalwa amazwi athile emlandweni wesintu abe nekhono lokuthinta ngokujulile imizwa kanye nenkambo yesikhathi esizayo yomuntu, umbhangqwana noma ngisho nezizwe zonke. Amandla athi "ngiyakuthanda" ahlala ngokuyinhloko kukho konke okungakhulunywa kodwa ngokugcwele emagameni ngokwawo nokuthi sibona kanjani incazelo yalo, njengokuthi, "Ngiyakuthanda ngaphezu kwazo zonke ezinye," "Injabulo yakho ibaluleke kimi," " hhayi yedwa "nokuthi" ngilapha ngenxa yenu "(phakathi kokunye okuchazwe okungenakubalwa nokuhumusha).
Ngenxa yokuthi abantu bavame ukuzizwa behlukaniswe usizi, ukuzwa ukuthi "ngiyakuthanda" kunganikeza isikhumbuzo esihle kakhulu sokuthi akufanele azizwe eyedwa kule nkathi enzima nokuthi omunye umuntu ukhathalele injabulo yakhe futhi ulungele ukunikeza induduzo futhi ukusekelwa ezinsukwini, emasontweni nasezinyangeni ezizayo.
Yeqa Amazwi Ngokuphelele
Abantu abaningi balwela ukuthola "amazwi aphelele" okusho kumuntu osizi ukushona komuntu othandekayo njengokungathi kukhona inkulumo yamagic noma inkulumo engase ikwazi ukusula ubuhlungu bokulahlekelwa futhi yenza izinsuku, amasonto nezinyanga zilula. Kodwa-ke, iqiniso liwukuthi usizi alusoze lwaba nobuhlungu futhi, cishe, abafelwayo ngeke bakhumbule noma yini owakushoyo ngesikhathi sokufa nokungcwaba. (Musa ukuzithatha!)
Lokho ngokuqinisekile ayokududuza phakathi nalesi sikhathi esinzima, noma kunjalo, futhi angase akhumbule kamuva, yilokho okungekho okungenangqondo, ukubonakaliswa ngokomzimba kwesihawu, ukunakekelwa nothando. Bamba isandla sakhe; ukumbamba okufudumayo; unikeze izicubu noma i-handkerchief ehlanzekile uma kudingeka; umbheke emehlweni ekudluliseni imizwa yakho engenamagama; phumula isandla esandleni sakhe noma ehlombe, noma uvumele ukukhala ngokukhululekile noma ukuzwa ukudabuka nosizi ozizwayo.
Ukufa kungunaphakade futhi kubangela isimo esinzima, esingamukeleki esithatha isikhathi sokuba abafelwayo bamukele futhi bahlanganiswe ekuphileni kwabo phambili. Thembela ukuthi kuzoba nesikhathi esiningi sokukhuluma futhi, ngoba manje, vele unikeze isipho esiyigugu sokuqonda kwakho okusile, ukusekela nokutholakala komuntu osizi.