Ngishayele ucansi, kodwa ngithanda ukuba nezindaba zami zezokwelapha ezingazizwa kahle. O, futhi kunembile kanye.
Ngokudabukisayo, lokhu kunzima ukuza, ikakhulukazi uma sibhekene nezimo ezinjenge- fibromyalgia nesifo esingapheliyo sokukhathala , lapho bengabetha isihloko esikulo, "Akuyona yonke into ekhanda lakho!" futhi bacabange ukuthi bangempela.
Ngikulethela lokhu ngenxa yocwaningo oluthile oluye lwazenza imijikelezo cishe izikhathi ezintathu manje.
Angazi noma ngabe izinhlangano ezalandela lolu cwaningo zikhiphe ukushicilelwa okuningi noma ezinye izinhlangano zezindaba zishesha ukuzithatha, kodwa njalo lapho umuntu egijima isihloko esisha, abangane baqala ukuyihambisa yonke i-Facebook. Ngizibhengeze mayelana nalolu cwaningo, ngoba kuyathakazelisa futhi kubalulekile - kungenxa yezinzwa ezidlulayo ezandleni nasezinyaweni zethu . Nakhu engikuthandayo mayelana nama-athikili amaningi engiwabonayo:
- Zinezinhloko ezinjengokuthi "i-fibromyalgia ixazululwe," noma "imfihlakalo ixazululwe." Ngempela? Ukutholakala okunye kusho ukuthi ukugula okuyinkimbinkimbi, okuyizinhlelo eziningi akuseyona inkinga? Kusho ukuthi ngokungazelelwe siyazi konke ngakho, okuyinto oh-kangaka-kude neqiniso. Eqinisweni, lolu cwaningo luyingxenye encane ye-puzzle. Kuyisiqondiso esisha sokucwaninga, ukuqinisekisa ukuthi ngelinye ilanga kungabangela ukwelashwa okusha noma ukuxilongwa okungcono - kodwa kanjalo nezinye izifundo eziningi, futhi.
- Bafaka okunye okubhekisela kulokho "akuyona yonke ekhanda lakho," okuwumkhakha ofanayo okhathele esiwuzwile iminyaka. Ngokuqinisekile, ukwenza izinto ezinjengalezi ngokuphrinta ngokugqamile kuyo yonke i-intanethi kungenza abanye abantu bacabangele ubandlululo lwabo mayelana ne-fibromyalgia, kodwa ngempela, ngikholelwa ukuthi konke okwenzayo kusakazeka izwi elingelona wonke umuntu ocabanga ukuthi lokhu kuyisimo esivumelekile, somzimba.
- Akulungile, aphatha "ukukhubazeka" njenge "isizathu esiqondile." Kuyavunywa, igama elithi pathology lingafaka izici ze-causal, kodwa lisho nemiphumela yokugula. Kusukela ekutadisheni, asikho lutho olubonisa ukuthi lesi simo esingavamile sokwemvelo siyimbangela ye-fibromyalgia. Kungenzeka kube yimbangela yezibonakaliso ezithile, kodwa lokho akuyona into efanayo. Ngaphandle kwalo, eqinisweni. Lolu hlobo lokungaqondisi kahle lunganikeza abantu abanjengathi ithemba elingenasisekelo mayelana nokwelashwa nokuphulukiswa. Kungabuye kuholele ekubonweni komphakathi ukuthi i-fibromyalgia ayiseyona inkinga enkulu - ososayensi baye bakubona konke!
Ngingazi kanjani lezi zihloko ngokungaqondi kahle? Nginebufakazi obuningi ku-Facebook. Ngokuphindwe kathathu ngalolu cwaningo olulodwa, ngithole imilayezo emibi kanye nokuthunyelwe odongeni lwami mayelana nalo. Umuntu oyedwa - indoda ehlakaniphile owazi okuningi ngempilo nemithi - ingithumelele izihloko ezimbili kulo, ecabanga ukuthi ziyizifundo ezahlukene ngoba zihlangene ngendlela ehlukile. Omunye umngane wasithumelele odongeni lwakhe, ethi, "Lezi izindaba ezinhle kunoma ubani ohluphekile kule nkinga," futhi "[P] ophahleni ukuthi unempilo futhi akuyona ingqondo ye-psychosomatic ibaluleke kakhulu, futhi uyinqola enkulu abantu abaye bathi 'Akusikho ekhanda lami!' iminyaka noma amashumi eminyaka. " Ngokusobala, ungumuntu omdala othola "lokhu" ukuthi lokhu kuyiqiniso, futhi kungithukuthelisa ukuthi ulwazi luthengiswe kakhulu. Sinezinsuku ezingu-15 zocwaningo ezibonisa i-fibromyalgia akuyona ingqondo ye-psychosomatic - lolu cwaningo olulodwa alutholi lonke isikweletu!
Ingxenye enkulu yenkinga ukuthi izintatheli ngokuvamile azifundanga kahle ekubikeni kwezokwelapha. Akuyona iphutha labo. Lapho ngivame ukubhala izindaba zezokwelapha ze-TV nephephandaba, angizange ngiqonde ukuthi isifundo esisodwa sesayensi sisitshela cishe lutho kuze kube yilapho isiqinisekiswe ezinye izifundo.
Ngangingazi kahle umzimba wocwaningo ngemuva kwezimo engabhala ngazo-ngabe ngabe ngingaba kanjani, lapho amakhulu eziningi ngezikhulu zezifo ephuma njalo ngenyanga? Ngingeke ngiyiqaphele igama lesiqephu sezokwelapha ngisho noma ngabe ngizame ukufunda okwengeziwe. Ngaphezu kwakho konke lokho, ngangisesikhathini esiphezulu futhi nginezinye izindaba ezimbalwa zokubhala ngalolo suku.
Ngakho okushiwo ezindabeni eziningi zezokwelapha kungumongo. Wonke umlobi owaziyo yilokho okukhulunywa ngakho, ngakho-ke uma othile ebeka isitatimende esithi, "Abanye odokotela bathi konke kusekhanda lakho, kodwa ucwaningo olusha luveza izinto ezibalulekile zomzimba ezixazulula imfihlakalo ye-fibromyalgia," yilokho okushiwo.
(Leso sitatimende yisibonelo sami esisekelwe ezintweni engizibonayo, hhayi ukudonsa ekushicilelwe okushicilelwe noma okushicilelwe.)
Ukususwa kulokhu yilokhu: uma ubona isihloko mayelana ne-fibromyalgia, isifo esingapheliyo sokukhathala , noma ezinye zezindaba zezokwelapha, qaphela lezi zikhathi ezincane zokuxhumana. Funda ukuthi kusho ukuthini amagama okucwaninga ukuze uqonde ukuthi isifundo sithini ngempela. Ungaboni isihloko esiphezulu futhi ucabange ukuthi ukutholakala okusha kuzoshintsha impilo yakho futhi kwenze konke kube ngcono. Ngokuqinisekile, noma yikuphi ukutadisha okuthola ulwazi olusha mayelana nokuthi kwenzekani emzimbeni wethu kuyinto enkulu, kodwa ngobuqotho, bambalwa babo bazoholela ekushintsheni okubonakalayo phakathi neminyaka eyishumi ezayo. Izinguquko wena nami esizozibona esikhathini esifushane zizovela emsebenzini owenziwe eminyakeni edlule.
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