UMarianne Ehlert wekusasa elivikelwe usebenza nemindeni yabantu e-autism spectrum ukuhlela abantu abadala. Izinketho ezitholakalayo kubantu abaku - autism spectrum ziyahlukahluka kusuka kumbuso kuya kombuso futhi ngabanye ngabanye. Amathuba avela ekuzimele okuphelele ekuphileni kwezikhungo. Ukuqaphela ukuthi yini umuntu oyifunayo, ukuthi uyayithola kuphi nokuthi ungayikhokha kanjani, kungaba inqubo eyinkimbinkimbi.
U-Ehlert uphawula ukuthi kubalulekile ukuqala ukucabanga ngomuntu omdala ophila ngenkathi ingane yakho ene-autism iseyingane. Ngokwengxenye, kungenxa yokuthi izingane ezine-autism zivame ukuthola izidingo ezikhethekile kanye nezinhlelo zokuguqula ngezikole zazo , okusho ukuthi uhlelo lwezemfundo yengane yakho lungenziwa ukuze lusekele izinhlelo zakho zesikhathi esizayo. Kungenxa yokuthi inqubo yokucabanga, ukuhlela, nokudala isimo esihle sokuphila komuntu ku-autism spectrum kungathatha isikhathi eside.
Isinyathelo Sokuqala: Cabanga Ukubeka Okuhle Kwengane Yakho Emdala Nge-Autism
Bonke abazali, u-Ehlert uthi, bafuna izingane zabo ukuba "ziphephile futhi zijabule" njengabantu abadala. Kodwa wonke umzali unombono ohlukile walokho "okuphephile nokujabula" okungase kubukeke. Lowo mbono uthi, kuncike kakhulu ekuhlangenwe nakho komzali nangesimo sengqondo njengamakhono amakhono kanye nezintando zomntwana. Noma kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuthi abazali baqale ukucabanga ngombono wabo ngekusasa lomntanakho ngaphambi kokwenza noma yiziphi izenzo zekhonkrithi.
Ingabe ingane yakho yayizophumelela kuphi? Edolobheni? Epulazini? Ngedwa? Ngeqembu? Ekhaya nabazali? Ehlert, kusho u-Ehlert, kunezinketho eziyisihlanu zokuphila ezikhona:
- Ekhaya nomndeni-Indlu enezinsizakalo ezingena kuzo futhi zihlole izakhamuzi (qinisekisa ukuthi zikhokha izikweletu, ukuhlanza, njll.) Lezi zinsizakalo zokusekela eziphilayo, futhi zingaba ngasese noma zixhaswe ngemali.
- Uhlelo lwesakhiwo sezindlu / umuntu ohlala naye-abantu abahlala endlini noma isakhiwo sefulethi esiseqembu elixhaswe; umnakekeli uqinisekisa ukuthi wonke umuntu ulungile ebusuku, ugijime izinhlelo, njll.
- Ikhaya lasekhaya (ilungiselelo lokuphila elididiyelwe lomphakathi) lihlala esizeni
- "Isitayela se-Dorm," izindawo ezinkulu (izilungiselelo zezikhungo, i-workshop ephansi kakhulu)
Isinyathelo Sesibili: Thola ukuthi Ukubeka Kwakho Okuhle Kukhona
Uma abazali (noma abazali kanye nezingane zabo ezisencane ne-autism) bebonile isimo esihle sokuphila, isinyathelo esilandelayo ukucacisa ukuthi ngabe ukuhlelwa kakade kukhona noma ngabe umndeni kuzodingeka wenze ukulungiselelwa. Inani elimangalisayo labazali lihilelekile noma libheke ukubandakanyeka ekudaleni indawo yokuhlala yengane yabo nge-autism. Abanye baxhase noma bahlakulele izimo zokuphila ezisekelayo; abanye bazindla futhi badala izilungiselelo zomsebenzi / ekhaya emadolobheni, emadolobheni nasemaphandleni.
Ngokuvamile, ulwazi mayelana nezimo ezikhulile zokuphila esifundazweni sakho noma esifundazweni lutholakala ngemithombo yesifunda yesikole. Uma kungenjalo, kungase kudingeke ubheke uMnyango Wokukhubazeka Okuthuthukayo, uMnyango Wezenhlalakahle, noma enye inhlangano efanele. Yenza umsebenzi wesikole ukuze uthole ukuthi yini ekhona lapho.
Isinyathelo Sokuqala: Ukuthola Izinto Nezikhono Ezingane Zakho Zengane
Isinyathelo esilandelayo ukukhomba amakhono okuphila kwengane yakho ukuze uthole ukuthi yiziphi izinto ezisekelayo ezizodingeka ukuze isimo siphila sisebenze. Okubalulekile phakathi kwamakhono abasha abasha abazodinga ukuhlala ngokuzimela yikhono lokuphatha izimali, ukuthenga, ukupheka, ukuhlanza nokuphatha inhlanzeko yomuntu siqu. Nokho, khumbula ukuthi bambalwa kakhulu abantu abasha abajwayele ukulungiselela ukuphila kwabo ngokwabo. Ungabe ukhathazeka uma ngabe oneminyaka engu-20 ubudala ehlala e-pizza futhi edla ukudla, noma egqoke i jeans efanayo kabili ngaphambi kokuwageza? Uma kungenjalo, mhlawumbe akufanele ukhathazeke kakhulu mayelana nomuntu oneminyaka engu-20 ubudala ne-autism enza okufanayo.
U-Ehlert uchaza kahle lokhu:
"Abazali bangase babe nethemba eliphakeme ezinganeni ze-autistic kunabantwana abavamile ngoba bazizwa benesibopho senjabulo ye-autistic yengane. Kunzima ukuvumela izingane ze-autistic ukuba zihluleke. Ngandlela-thile, kulula ukulawula ukwehluleka kwezingane ezivamile ngoba abazali bazizwa beyingxenye inqubo yokufunda - kuyilapho abazali bavame ukuvikela izingane zabo nge-autism ekuhlulekeni. Kunzima kakhulu ukwazi ukuthi uhamba kangakanani ukuvikela ingane yakho endala nge-autism. Ngezinye izikhathi ukwehluleka kungase kubeke ukuziphatha, noma kungase kube nzima kakhulu ukululama ukuhluleka. Ngokuvamile, abazali bomusha bayaqonda ukuthi yini ingane efanele. "
Isinyathelo Sesine: Thola Ukubeka Okulungile Kwengane Yakho
Kuye lapho uhlala khona, kunezinhlaka ezihlukahlukene eziphatha izilungiselelo zokuhlala kubantu abadala abakhubazekile. Ngaphandle kwama-ejensi asebenza ngombuso, ungase futhi ufuna ukucinga izikhungo zokuhlala ozimele ngombuso, esifundeni, noma esifundeni. Ungase ufune ukuqala usesho lwakho nesifunda sakho sendawo yesifunda noma isiteleka sombuso. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngaphezu kwalokho, cishe uzofuna ukuhlola ngamaqembu asekelayo we-autism kanye nolwazi lokusesha njenge-AutismLink ukuthola uhla olubanzi lwezinketho.
Uma uhamba nge-ejensi yomphakathi, uthi u-Ehlert, cela isisebenzi secala ozohlinzeka uhlu lwezindawo ozozibuka. "Abazali kudingeka baphume futhi babuke futhi babone ukuthi yini ngaphandle," esho. Thatha uhambo 'olusemthethweni', unciphisa izinketho zakho, bese uvakashela ukuvakashelwa ngokungalindelekile. U-Ehlert uncoma ukuthi ucwaninge ukhetho ngalunye, ubheke ngokucophelela:
- Ukubuyiswa kwabasebenzi
- Noma yimiphi imibiko yokuhlukunyezwa
- Ikhwalithi yabanakekeli ngabanye (ngokungafani nokukhangiswa okubukwayo)
- Ukutholakala kwehora lonke futhi "ukuxhaswa ngokufanele" kokusekelwa
- Ubude behlu lokulinda
Uma unezinketho ezimbalwa ozithandayo, yisikhathi sokubandakanya ingane yakho nge-autism kwinqubo yokwenza izinqumo. U-Ehlert uphawula ukuthi izingane eziphezulu ezisebenza zingase zilethwe ngaphambili, kuye ngokuthi izimo zakho ziphi.
Isinyathelo sesihlanu: Funa imali
Ekuqaleni, uthi u-Ehlert, buza mayelana nokukhethwa kwezimali . Uma ngabe imali iyatholakala, uyafaneleka yini? Uma unokuphepha kwezenhlalakahle kanye ne-Medicare, kufanele usufanelekele ukuthola noma iyiphi imali ekhona. Ukukhathazeka okunye, noma kunjalo, yimuphi imali egameni lomntanakho. Uma kunokwenzeka, leyo mali kufanele ibekwe ngezidingo ezikhethekile zokuthembela.
Kuyiqiniso, kusho u-Ehlert, ukuthi ukuthola ukuthi isimo esihle sezindlu singasho ukuthi uhambe ulwandle olubomvu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kuzodingeka usebenze ngokulungiselela izidingo zomuntu wakho omdala. Uma ungatholi ukuthi yini oyifunayo ngendlela yezindlu, ucabanga, cabanga ukusebenza neqembu labazali ukudala kanye / noma ukukhokhela izilungiselelo ezifanele. Uma ucabanga ukuthi uke wazi indawo efanelekile, zibandakanye nabo. Yiba umdlali oyinhloko. Ngena ebhodini labo.
Ukuthola nokuxhasa ikhaya elifanele lomntwana wakho omdala nge-autism akulula, futhi akunakwenziwa ebusuku. Kodwa ngokuhlela ngokucophelela, ucwaningo, nokudala, abazali bathola ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthola-noma ukwakha-izindawo eziphilayo ezisekelayo, ezihle zokuphila ezinganeni zabo ezine-autism.