Umbuzo: Uma ngisaba nobuntombi bami, ngingaba kanjani nesifo se-STD?
Ngasekuqaleni kwebusika ka-2010, ngathungatha uchungechunge lwe-e-mail nentombazana encane eyayimangalekile ukuthola ukuthi unesifo se-STD ngisho noma sisengumfana. Kwadingeka ngitshele ukuthi abantu bavame ukuchaza ubuntombi njengesimo sokungahambisani nobulili. Kodwa-ke, kusengenzeka ukuba intombi ivulelwe kunoma iyiphi inombolo ye-STD ngeminye imisebenzi yezocansi - kuhlanganise nokuzivocavoca , ukukhuluma ngomlomo , nokulala ngokocansi.
Kubalulekile ukuphawula ukuthi incazelo yobuntombi njengokuba ingaboni ubulili obuyinkimbinkimbi iyinkinga ngezizathu eziningana. Akukona nje kuphela ukubhekana nhlobo ngokugcwele ngengozi yezocansi ngaphandle kokukhulelwa, kokubili i-ableist ne-heterosexist. Ngamanye amazwi, ikhuluma ngokuziphatha kocansi kwabantu abesilisa nabesifazane abangakwazi ukuhlanganyela emsebenzini owodwa. Amadoda alala nobulili namadoda nabesifazane abalala nabesifazane bangase bafeze izimpilo zobulili ngaphandle kokuzwa ubulili. Ngakho-ke imibhangqwana engabesilisa nabesilisa abangayithandani nabo, ngokuzikhethela noma ngenxa yezizathu zempilo, abahlanganyeli emlonyeni wesitho sangasese. Bambalwa kakhulu kulabo bantu babezozichaza njengamantombazane aphila isikhathi eside.
Impendulo: Kunezindlela eziningana.
Ayikho incazelo eyodwa yobuntombi (ngezinye izikhathi ukungena ngemvume okungenalutho). Kubantu abathile, kusho ukuthi akukho ukuxhumana okungathí sina nomunye umuntu. Kwabanye, kungasho ukuthi akukho ubulili besifazane.
Izincazelo zomuntu ngamunye zobuntombi zingathembela kunoma yikuphi okuvela kumuntu womuntu ocansini kuya ezinkolelweni zabo ezingokwenkolo edolobheni abakhuliswe kuzo. Ngenxa yalokhu, abantu abazibona njengezintombi kungenzeka ukuthi babe namafomu othintana nabo obuseduze abangaholela kuma-STD.
Isibonelo, abanye abasha bazama ubulili ngomlomo futhi njengezindlela zokwenza ucansi nabalingani babo ngenkathi belondoloza ubuntombi babo.
Bangase bazame lezi zinhlobo zobulili ukuze bagweme ukuvezwa engozini yokukhulelwa. Bangase bajabulele nje lezi zinto njengezindlela eziphansi kakhulu ezingozini zokuhlola ubulili babo. Lokho kungaba yiqiniso ngisho nasebudlelwaneni obuhle bobulili. Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile kwentsha (kanye nabantu abadala!) Ukuqonda ukuthi nakuba lezi zinhlobo zobulili ziphephile, azikho ingozi ngokuphelele.
Ukwehla okumile kanye nezinye izinhlobo zokuxubha umzimba kungadlulisa izifo ezithwabanisa othintana isikhumba nesikhumba. Isibonelo, i- herpes namagciwane omzimba angasakazwa ngale ndlela. Ukulala ngocansi kungadlulela lezi zifo, kanye nalabo abasakazwa ngamanzi omzimba.
Ukuqaphela izingozi zezindlela ezihlukahlukene zokukhuluma ngokobulili, ngisho nezincane, zingasiza abantu benze izinqumo ezinolwazi mayelana nokuphila kwabo ngokobulili. Ngaphambi kokuya ocansini, noma ngisho nokukhohlisa eduze nomunye umuntu, kungcono ngaso sonke isikhathi umqondo omuhle ukukhuluma ngezikhathi zangaphambili zobulili nokuchayeka. Ukuhlola kungase kube nokukhetha okuhle. Abantu bangaphinda baqede ubulili obukhuluma ngokuphepha ukuze banciphise izingozi zabo. Bangasebenzisa imikhawulo yokwenza iphephile eyomile. Isibonelo, ukuxuma okomile ngenkathi ugqoke izingubo kungumsebenzi ophephile kakhulu, ngisho noma umuntu oyedwa ephethe ukutheleleka okusebenzayo.
Ukulondoloza ubuntombi bakho, uma uchaza lokho njengokugwema ukulala ngokomzimba, kuyindlela ephumelelayo yokugwema ukukhulelwa. Kungakusiza ekugwemeni ukuhlaselwa komzali noma kwenkolo. Kodwa-ke, uma uhlanganyela eminye imisebenzi yezocansi, usengabonakaliswa nezinye izingozi zocansi. Lokho kuyiqiniso noma ngabe usaphila, ngokwempela, intombi.
Qaphela: Ukungabi nokuqonda okubanzi kwalezi zihloko kungase kubangelwa yizinhlelo eziningi zemfundo yezocansi ezigxile ekutheni ubuntombi kunemfundo ephelele yezocansi . Lezi zinhlelo zingashiya abantu abasha bengazi kahle izingozi nezinjabulo zemisebenzi yezocansi ngaphandle kokulala ngokobulili. Baphinde bashiye ubusha ngaphandle kwamathuluzi abawadingayo ukuze benze izinqumo ezinhle mayelana nobulili futhi bazigcine bephephile.
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