Akuwona wonke ubuhlobo obuhle. Ukuxilongwa kwe- STD akusona isizathu sokugwema ubuhlobo nomuntu. Kodwa-ke, indlela umlingani olawula ngayo ukuthi ukuxilongwa kungakunika umbono omuhle wobuntu bakhe. Kungakusiza nokuba uhlole ukuthi ubuhlobo bakho buhle yini.
Kukhona abantu abahlukumezayo abazosebenzisa izifo ezithathelwana ngocansi (STDs) ukuzama nokulawula noma ukulimaza abalingani babo.
Lokhu kuvame ukuqhutshwa ngokumemezela ngokuzithandela umlingani ku-STD ukuze uzizwe uzibophezele ebuhlotsheni. Kungenziwa futhi ngokusebenzisa i-STD yomlingani okhona ukuze kuphumele umqondo wokuzibheka.
Ukufeza Abathandi Babo Ngokweqile
Abantu abathintekile nge-STD engelapheki ngokuvamile bazizwa bebhujiswa, bengcolile, noma benamahloni . Ngenkathi abantu abaningi bengathola imizwa enjalo ngesikhatsi kanye nokweluleka, abanye abantu abangekho emthethweni nalabo abahlukumezayo bayomthelela ngamabomu umlingani nge-STD yabo. Umgomo wabo ukukhuthaza imizwa efanayo yehlazo nokugcina umlingani wabo nabo kuze kube phakade.
Ezinye izingcaphuno ezijwayelekile:
- "Uma ngimnika i-herpes, kuzomele ahlale nami."
- "Manje usuchithekile, futhi ungase uhlale nami ngoba akekho omunye ozokuthola."
- "Njengoba manje unesi sifo, akekho omunye umuntu ongakuthanda. Uma ungishiya, uzoba yedwa ukuphila kwakho konke."
Iqiniso liwukuthi noma ubani onithinta ngokuzithandela nge-STD bese ekutshela ukuthi kufanele uhlale naye ngoba "uchithekile," "ungcolile," "ungathandeki," noma yimuphi omunye incazelo akuyona umuntu okufanele uyenze ebuhlotsheni. Akunandaba ukuthi izenzo zabo zivela emizwa yokunganaki noma ukuzizonda.
Ukwelapha umuntu ophethe i-STD ngokuqinisekile, ngenhloso yokusebenzisa lesi sifo ukulawula impilo yomlingani wakhe, kunonya futhi kuhlambalaza. Isibonakaliso esihle sokuthi udinga ukuthola indlela ephephile yobudlelwane obunjalo ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka.
Lokhu kusho, kubalulekile ukuvuma ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi abantu baveze abalingani babo kuma-STD ngokungenhloso. Isibonelo, lokhu kwenzeka njalo uma umuntu enesifo sokungaboni kahle okungaziwa ngakho. Kufanelekile ukuphawula ukuthi abanye abantu baveza ngokucacile abalingani babo kuma-STD ngaphandle kwamahloni, ukungazi, noma ukunganaki kunokuhlukumezeka. Nakuba izimo ezinjalo zingase zibe ukwehluleka kokwethenjwa nokuhluleka kokuxhumana, akuzona njalo ezihlukumezayo.
Ukwenza Wicabange Akekho Ozokuthanda Ngenxa yokuthi une-STD
Uma ubuhlobo buqalile ukuhamba kabi, abanye abantu bazosebenzisa noma iyiphi indlela abangayenza ukugcina umlingani wabo ekushiyeni. Enye indlela enjalo ingase itshele umthandi wabo ukuthi ngeke kwenzeke bona bathole umlingani omusha ngoba baye bathola ukuthi bane-STD.
Ezinye izingcaphuno ezijwayelekile:
- "Unenhlanhla ukuthi ungitholile. Akekho omunye umuntu ongeke abe nawe ngendlela oyikho."
- "Awukwazi ukungishiya. Ngeke uthole omunye umuntu ozokwamukela ukuthi uyayithola."
- "Isizathu esiwukuthi ngingabheka esidlule isifo sakho ukuthi ngikukwazi iminyaka eminingi. Akekho omunye ozokuthatha isikhathi sokukhathazeka."
Ningakholwa amanga. Abantu abaningi abane-STD abavulekile futhi bathembekile mayelana nokuxilongwa kwabo bathole ezinye ubudlelwano obunothando nobulili nobuhlobo. Ama-STD ajwayelekile kakhulu. Kukhona abantu ngaphandle lapho abangacabangi ukuthi yisiphi isifo se-STD sokuba "i-breakerer".
Kuyiqiniso ukuthi abanye abantu ongafuna ukuphola nabo ngeke bakwazi ukubhekana nesifo sakho se-STD. Nokho, lokho akusho ukuthi akunakwenzeka ukuthola uthando. Abantu bavame ukukhetha ukuthatha izingozi ezifanele zokuba nomuntu abazikhathalelayo.
Lezo zingozi zingase zibandakanye nethuba lokuboniswa kwi-STD. Ngokuvamile akubonakali njengento enkulu kangaka uma ukhetha ukuba nomuntu omthandayo.
Okubalulekile
Ngenxa yokuthi unesifo se-STD, ngisho nento engelapheki, akusho ukuthi kufanele uhlale nomlingani wakho wamanje. Kunezindlela zokuthola usizo kokubili ngokutheleleka kwakho futhi uphume ebuhlotsheni.
Ama-STD akwenzi ube ngumuntu omubi, umuntu ongcolile noma umuntu ongafanelwe uthando. Ama-STD akuzona isahlulelo esivela kuNkulunkulu. Awuwona uphawu lokuthi awufanelanga ukujabula.
I-STD ayiyona isizathu sokuhlala ebuhlotsheni obunzima
Thola ulwazi mayelana ne-National Domestic Violence Hotline lapha. Noma shayela u-1-800-799-SAFE (7233) noma i-TTY 1-800-787-3224.