Ukuhlela insimu yomngcwabo , isikhumbuzo, kanye / noma ukuthungula akulula, kodwa umsebenzi uhlala ungenakwenzeka. Lesi sihloko sinikeza amaphutha amathathu okuhlela umngcwabo avamile okufanele uwagweme ukwenza, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uhlela ngaphambi kwakho inkonzo noma othandekayo noma emva kokufa.
Iphutha 1: Awuyikuhlola Abahlinzeki Bamngcwabo
Ngokusho kocwaningo olukhishwe yi-automobile-resource Edmunds ngo-2014, abantu abathengisa imoto entsha bavakashele abadayisi ababili bezimoto futhi baqhuba ezimbili zokuhlola, ngokulinganayo.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, abangu-89% abaphenduli bezinhlolovo babonise ukuthi "bathanda ukulungiswa ngokugcwele ngokucwaninga okuningi ngangokunokwenzeka" ngaphambi kokungena kumthengisi.
Ngokuphambene nalokho, amaphesenti afanayo wabathengi abanokuhlangenwe nakho kokungcwaba (89%) babonisa ukuthi bahambela noma baxhuma ekhaya lomngcwabo owodwa kuphela ngesikhathi senqubo, ngokusho kohlolo olwakhululwa ngoMeyi 2015 nguNational Funeral Directors Association (NFDA) oluhlola umngcwabo -ukuthandwa kwamakhomishini kanye nokuziphatha. Ngokusho kocwaningo lwamuva lwama-NFDA, izizathu ezine eziyinhloko abaphendulayo abakhethile ekhaya lomngcwabo othize zihlanganisa isipiliyoni sangaphambilini kwenkampani; base bevele bebazi umqondisi womngcwabo; indawo; kanye nedumela layo.
Nakuba kunzima ukuphikisana nensizakalo enhle yangaphambili noma ubuhlobo bomuntu siqu, lezi ziphakamiso ezimbili ziphakamisa ukuthi abathengi ngokuvamile babonakala bebaluleke kakhulu ekucwaningeni izinketho zabo ezitholakalayo lapho bethenga imoto entsha kunokuba bazuze ekutholeni umhlinzeki ofanelekayo ofanele ukubhekana nokufa othandekayo.
(Ukuze kube nobulungisa, bambalwa abantu abaphoqeleka ukuthenga imoto entsha ezinsukwini ezimbili kuya kwezingu-7, njengoba kuvame ukukhetha umhlinzeki womngcwabo ngemuva kokufa komuntu othandekayo.)
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi, uma kunokwenzeka, ukuthatha isikhathi sokuqhathanisa abahlinzeki bamangcwaba kanye / noma abathungeleli endaweni yangakini bangakusiza imali kanye / noma bakusize uthole indawo "engcono kakhulu" yomngcwabo, amathuna, ukushisa noma ukugujwa .
Izindleko ezibandakanya nezinsizakalo zokuphela kokuphila zingashintsha kancane ngokuya kumhlinzeki wemikhiqizo / amasevisi afanayo, ngakho ungacabangi ukuthi wonke umuntu endaweni yakini ukhokha imali efanayo. Okubaluleke nakakhulu, ukuthola umhlinzeki ongakusiza ukuthi uhlele inkonzo enenjongo, eyanelisayo ngokwayo ebonisa futhi ehlonipha ukuphila okuhlukile komuntu oshonile, ngenkathi ekusize wena nabanye ukulila futhi / noma ukugubha impilo yakhe, izindaba ngaphezulu ngokubaluleka uzothola.
Iphutha 2: Akusibuza imibuzo
Usizi olubangelwa ukufa komuntu esimthandayo lungase luzizwe lukhulu ngezikhathi ezithile. Yenza kube yinkimbinkimbi engapheliyo yokudabuka nokudabuka, amahora, izinsuku namaviki emva kokulahleka okuvame ukudlula ngokufiphala njengoba abafelwayo bakuthola kunzima ukugxila kokunye okungaphezu kokudabuka kwabo.
Ngeshwa, abantu abaningi kumele bahlele izinsizakalo zomngcwabo kanye / noma izinyembezi kumuntu othandekayo ngenkathi kulesi simo sengqondo, okungabandakanya ukwenza izinqumo eziningi nezinqumo. Kuyaqondakala ukuthi usizi lungangenisa ukwahlulela / ukwahlulelwa kwakho ngalesi sikhathi futhi lungakuvimba ekuhloleni zonke izinketho ezikhona kuwe. Ngakho-ke, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uhlela umngcwabo kusengaphambili, noma ngemva kokufa, kufanele ubuze noma imuphi umbuzo onayo mayelana nensizakalo yakho nokukhetha okusemandleni akho nangaphambi kokuba usayine noma yini.
Umhlinzeki omuhle, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ungumngcwabo, amathuna, ukushisa, noma umkhosi, kufanele aphendule ngokuzithandela yonke imibuzo yakho futhi angalokothi enze uzizwe ugijimela njengoba wenza amalungiselelo akho, noma akuqondise ifomu lokungcwaba noma lomfutho ongekho emthethweni. ngifuna. Ngokufanele, uzothatha isikhathi sokuqala ukuqonda uhlobo lwenkonzo (s) oyifunayo bese uphakamisa ngokuzithandela ukhetho lomkhiqizo nezinkonzo ezitholakalayo ukukusiza ukuhlela insizakalo enenjongo, eyintandokazi.
Uma kungenjalo, kufanele ukuthi uvakashele omunye umhlinzeki ongenakho uma uhlela isevisi kusengaphambili wena noma umuntu omthandayo.
Uma uhlela umngcwabo kanye / noma ukukhala ngemva kokufa komuntu othandekayo, kungokwemvelo futhi kuyamukeleka ukubuza othile othembele ukuthi uzoya enkonzweni yomngcwabo kanye nawe uma ucabanga ukuthi awukho kuwo wedwa noma ufuna ukuzwa omunye umbono ohlonishwayo ngaphambi kokuba uzinikele okuthile.
Iphutha 3: Ukusekela Ngemva Kwokungcwaba
Kukhona inkulumo endala- Umngcwabo awuwona usuku empilweni yonke, kungukuphila kwansuku zonke- nanoma ubani olahlekelwe othandekayo osondelene naye, noma waya enkonzweni yomngcwabo noma yokuxoshwa ukuze asekele futhi aduduze othile oye waqonda kabanzi incazelo yale nkulumo. Ngeshwa, abantu abaningi bacabanga ngephutha ukuthi umngcwabo wangempela noma isikhumbuzo, kanye / noma ukungcwatshwa noma ukushiswa, kusayina ekupheleni kwesikhathi "sokusemthethweni" uma kuyamukeleka ukuzwa ukudabuka ngokufa komuntu oshonile. ( Ukuvalwa yigama elibi elivame ukusetshenziswa kulokhu.)
Okuyiqiniso ukuthi usizi luhlala futhi alupheli nje ngemva kokungcwaba noma ukukhala. Labo abasondelene nomuntu oshonile abatholakali "ukuvalwa" ngokushesha nje lapho umshini wokunakekela izinsalela nokwenza imikhuba efunwayo, amasiko, imikhosi kanye namasiko kuphetha. Kwabaningi, izinqumo eziningi okumelwe azenze lapho ehlela umngcwabo kanye / noma wokugcina esimweni esisweleyo (okungukuthi, emva kokufa komuntu ongazange ahlele umngcwabo); ukutholakala kwamalungu omndeni anothando, asekela nabangane ngenkonzo; futhi imvelo ehlelekile yale misebenzi / imicimbi ingabambezeleka / iphazamise isikhalazo ekuphenduleni kwakhe usizi.
Mane ubuze umfelokazi noma umfelokazi, isibonelo, ukuthi kwakunzima kanjani ukubuyela ekhaya okokuqala ngemuva kokungcwaba ekhaya ayekhuluma naye nomlingani noma umlingani; zama ukucabanga ukuthi ekuqaleni umama noma ubaba wazizwa kanjani lapho engena ekamelweni lokulala elingenalutho lomntwana ngemuva kokubeka indodana noma indodakazi ukuba iphumule; noma ukuzwa kanzima "izinguquko zokugumbana noma ukubeletha". Abantu abaningi abhekana nokushona komuntu othandekayo bangase baphinde baphinde balahlekelwe futhi / noma ngaphezulu ngemuva kokungcwaba noma ukukhala.
Iphuzu lapha ukuthi "umngcwabo omuhle" akuyona nje ukuthengiswa okuphetha uma ukhokhela isikweletu. Okufanelekile, umhlinzeki wakho womngcwabo kanye / noma umxhwele kufanele anikele ngezinsiza, ulwazi kanye nezinye izinsizakalo "zokunakekelwa" ezivuma ukuphikisana nosizi lwakho emasontweni nasezinyangeni ezilandela insizakalo, futhi ngisho nokunikeza amathuba anenzuzo okukusiza ukuba ubhekane ukufa kamuva. Abahlinzeki abaningi, ngokwesibonelo, bameme amalungu omndeni asebenzele imicimbi ekhethekile ngesikhathi samaholide azayo, njengoKhisimusi, iSikhumbuzo Usuku, i-Thanksgiving, njll ngoba lezi zikhathi zingase zibe nzima kakhulu ukusizi. Abanye banikeza ukululekwa kwangaphakathi endlini noma usizo lokulandelela noma bangakusiza ukuthola iqembu lokusekela usizi endaweni yakho uma ufisa. Noma kunjalo, ukwedlulisa okuningi "umtapo wolwazi" wezincwadi namavidiyo ongawaboleka, uma ufisa, lokho kungase kuhlinzeke ngemininingwane ewusizo.
Enza umsebenzi wakho wasekhaya
Njengoba kuphawuliwe ngenhla, uma ukufa komngane wakho othandekayo kwenzeka ngokuzumayo, ngokungalindelekile noma ngaphandle kokuhlelwa kokusebenza kokuphela kokuphila, kusengaphambili ukuhlola izinketho zakho zomngcwabo kanye nomngcwabo kuzokwenza kube nzima ngenxa yokusheshisa kwezimo. Ngakho-ke, akufanele uphinde uqagele umhlinzeki oxhumana naye ngesikhathi sokudinga. Lokho kusho ukuthi, noma ngabe othandekayo ushona, kufanele usabuze ngesikhathi senkomfa yelungiselelo mayelana nohlobo lwensizakalo yokudabuka etholakalayo ngemuva komngcwabo, futhi ubuze noma yimuphi omunye umbuzo ongase ube nawo mayelana nezinketho zakho kanye nemikhiqizo, amasevisi, kanye izindleko ezihilelekile enkonzweni ohlelayo ngaphambi kokuba usayine noma yini.
Uma ulungiselela amalungiselelo akho omngcwabo / ukuphumula, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ungumuntu noma umuntu omthandayo, sebenzisa ngokunethezeka kwesikhathi ngokuhlola ngokucophelela nokuqhathanisa abahlinzeki bemingcwabo / ukuxolisa endaweni yakini ukuze uthole "ukufaneleka" okulungile. Ngaphezu kokucwaninga kwe-intanethi kanye nokuqhathaniswa kwamanani emikhiqizo ethile kanye nezinsizakalo ozifisayo, ungase uvakashele umhlinzeki ongakwazi ukuzenza. Naphezu kwengcebo yolwazi olutholakalayo ku-inthanethi, akukho lutho oluthile oluthile lokuzibonela futhi "umqondo" ozothola mayelana nokufaneleka kwabasebenzi bomhlinzeki kanye nokuzimisela kwabo ukukusiza ukuthi udale umkhosi ofanelekayo, umngcwabo, inkonzo yesikhumbuzo, noma umkhosi wezintambo.
> Imithombo:
> "Izinkambiso Zokuthenga Kwezimoto Zika ," Meyi 21, 2014. Edmunds.com.
> "Ucwaningo Lwezokuqwashisa Kwabathengi no-2015," ngo-May 2015. Inhlangano Yomngcwabo Kazwelonke Yomngcwabo. Iqoqo lomlobi.