Asifuni ukukhuluma ngomdlavuza wokugcina . Igama elilodwa lingaletha izinyembezi kanye nomuzwa wokulahlekelwa ithemba. Kodwa noma ngabe unikwe ukuxilongwa komdlavuza wokugcina noma wokuphela kwesiteji kukhona ithemba. Yini engakusiza ukubhekana nokubuyisela ithemba ekupheleni kokuphila?
Lokho Okushiwo Uma I-Cancer Isiphetho
Kubalulekile ukuthi uqale uchaze ukuthi kusho ukuthini uma umdlavuza usuphelile.
Nakuba izincazelo zihlukahluka, kunquma ukuthi ukuxilongwa okuyisifo esibulalayo ngokuvamile kusho ukuthi umdlavuza awukwazi ukwelashwa nokuthi kukhona isikhathi esilinganiselwe esisele ukuhlala. Esikhathini sokuhlala esibhedlela, lokhu kungachazwa njengezinyanga eziyisithupha kodwa kungase kube mfushane noma ngaphezulu. Enye indlela yokuchaza ukuhlolwa komdlavuza njengesibulali lapho kufika isikhathi lapho imiphumela emibi yokwelashwa eyenzelwe ukukhulisa impilo ngaphezu kwezinzuzo zalezi zelashwa.
Echaza ukuthi umdlavuza ukuphela akusho ukuthi yonke imithi iyeka. Kunalokho, kuvame ukuthi kusho ukuthi esikhundleni sokugxila ekunakekeleni okwelashwa umdlavuza noma ukuhlala isikhathi eside, ukwelashwa kunalokho kugxile ekwenzeni induduzo kanye nekhwalithi engcono kakhulu yokuphila okungenzeka ngesikhathi esisele.
Amathiphu Wokubhekana Nakho
Ngezansi ezinye iziphakamiso ezisize abanye abantu ukuthi babhekane nokuxilongwa komdlavuza wokugcina. Njengoba nje wonke umuntu ehlukile, ungathola amanye ala macebiso ukuba awusizo, kanti abanye abahlangabezani nezidingo zakho ezithile.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, njengoba nje kunezinyathelo eziningi zesimiso esingahle kwenzeke ukuze ezinye zalezi zeluleko zingabasiza ngosuku olulodwa kodwa hhayi olunye.
Engeza i-Dose of Humor
Umngane othandekayo wathola ukuhleka usulu ukuba yisisekelo sezinsuku zakhe zokugcina ngomdlavuza. Ucele abangani ukuba bathumele amazwi akhe ahlekisayo namacaphuno, ukuthumela amakhadi ahlekisayo nokuletha amavidiyo akhe amahle ukuba abukele.
Uthole ukuthi ukuhleka akuzange kumsize nje ukubhekana nosuku ngalunye kodwa kunciphise ubuhlungu bakhe kakhulu.
Kubalulekile ukuzwela uma unomuntu othandekayo ekubhekaneni nalesi sifo sokuxilongwa nokuzithethelela ngokwakho uma ubhekana nokuxilongwa kwakho. Kuzoba nezinsuku lapho ungafuni ukuhleka. Kuzoba nezinsuku lapho udinga ukuveza usizi lwakho nezinsuku lapho okugcina okudingayo ukuthi umuntu aveze ukuthi ube "omuhle." Noma kunjalo-ukuvula inhliziyo yakho emandleni okuhleka nokuhlekisa.
Khetha ilungu lomndeni noma umngane njengoMkhulumeli wakho
Kungaba ukukhipha ngokumangalisayo ukuze uphendule imibuzo ngokuphathelene nokuthi wenza kanjani, hhayi ukukhuluma ngokuchazela izinqumo ozenzile noma ezingenziwanga ngezokwelapha. Cabanga ngomuntu ofana nomuntu phakathi komndeni wakho nabangane. Okungcono umuntu oqinile, ongakhuluma ngezifiso zakho uma ungenamandla ngokwanele ngokwakho. Cabanga ngomuntu oguquguqukayo (kunzima ukubikezela lapho ungase udinge ukusekelwa kwabo) nomuntu ongakhathazeki ukufaka izingcingo, ukuthumela ama-imeyili, nokubuyekeza indawo yakho ye-Caring Bridge uma unayo.
Zizungeze Ngezizwe Ezifana Nabantu Abahle Futhi Abahle
Ake sibhekane nakho. Sonke sinabantu emiphilweni yethu esiyithandayo, futhi abantu esiyibekezelela nje kuphela.
Uma utshelwe ukuthi uphelile, umndeni nabangane bangaphuma emahlathini bethemba ukukubona ngesikhathi sokugcina. Ungase wesabe ukuthi uzocasula abathandekayo ngokuma uqinile lapho ungafuni izivakashi noma udinga isikhathi sodwa. Akukho lutho olungalungile ngokuba yiqiniso ezidingweni nemizwa yakho. Akukho lutho lobugovu ngokufisa ukuchitha isikhathi kuphela nalabo bantu abakhuthazayo. Kungasiza ukuthatha isikhathi futhi uxoxe nabantu empilweni yakho nomkhulumeli wakho futhi ukhulume ngezindlela zokubamba ngobumnene kodwa ngokuqinile ukubeka imingcele oyidingayo ukuze uzizungeze nalabo bantu abazokusiza ukuba ujabulele izinsuku zakho zokugcina ngokugcwele.
Hlola lawa macebiso ekugcineni isimo sengqondo esihle ngomdlavuza , kuyilapho ukhumbule ukuthi akudingeki ube njalo. Zizungeze nabantu abahle abakuvumela ukuba ube nguwe futhi ubonise imizwa yakho emibi ngomdlavuza.
Phila ku-Namuhla
Ungathola ukuthi izigaba zokugcina zomdlavuza ngezinye izindlela zikhululeka. Ukungenalo ikusasa elilindelekile elikude kungakusiza ukuba uphile okwamanje-yisikhathi kuphela ukuthi noma ubani kithi unayo ngempela. Asikwazi ukuguqula okwedlulile, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi sisaphila okwamanje okweqile ngakho.
Buyekeza izinqumo nezinketho
Lapho unikezwa isifo sokuxilongwa, ukuxilongwa kuthinta inethiwekhi yakho yonke yomndeni nabangane. Ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa kwakho, ukufutheka kungathuthuka futhi ukungezwani kuvele phakathi kwamalungu omndeni. Nakuba lokhu kuphazamisa, kuvamile kakhulu. Sonke sibhekana nezindaba ezibuhlungu ngezindlela ezahlukene. Kuvamile kakhulu ukuthi amalungu omndeni akhuthaze ukwelashwa okulodwa kuphela. Noma mhlawumbe ukwelashwa okunye noma ukuhamba eJalimane.
Into yokuqala ukuqonda ukuthi yini oyifunayo. Ukuthatha isikhathi esifushane ukulalela abangane bakho abahlose kahle kanye namalungu omndeni kubonisa inhlonipho yakho ngokukhathalela kwabo. Kodwa emva kwalokho, abathandekayo bakho badinga ukuvumela ukuthi wenze izinqumo zakho futhi uhloniphe wena. Mhlawumbe ukuthola imibono yesibili noma ukuhlola enye yezinsizakalo zokulinganisa izivivinyo zomtholampilo kuzosiza abathandekayo bakho ukuba bafinyelele esiteji osukhona manje ukwamukelwa.
Ukubhekana nokwesaba kwakho
Ukwesaba kungabangela ukukhubazeka uma uzwa ukuthi ukuhlolwa kwakho kuphelile. Ungase ukhathazeke ngobuhlungu . Ingabe ukwesaba ukufa? Kuzokwenzekani emndenini wakho? Futhi enye yezinkathazo ezinkulu, ukwesaba ukufa yedwa. Ukuthatha isikhathi sokuletha lezi zimo ngaphandle kokwazisa kwakho kungabasiza babonakale bephethe futhi beyesaba kakhulu.
Siyabonga Abathandekayo Bakho Ukusekela
Kubonakala sengathi ukukhuluma ngokuthi ukubonga ngeke kudingeke ukushiwo. Yebo, uzizwa ubabonga kulabo abakusizile. Sifaka lokhu njengento okudingayo ukuyenza kwabanye, kodwa wena ngokwakho. Yiqiniso, abathandekayo bakho bayazi ukuthi uyabathanda futhi bayajabula ngokuba khona kwakho empilweni yabo. Noma kunjalo, lapho ukhuluma nabantu abaningi eduze kokufa, le mibuzo ibuyele emuva. " Ingabe abathandekayo bami bayokwazi ukuthi bangithinte kangakanani? " " Ingabe abathandekayo bami bayokwazi ukuthi ngibathanda kangakanani ?"
Mhlawumbe uthathe isikhathi esincane nomkhulumeli wakho bese ubhala inothi kubathandekayo bakho abangenzi lutho ngaphandle kokuthi "Ngiyabonga" nokuthi "Ngiyakuthanda." Yebo, abathandekayo bakho bayazi. Kodwa uma uvuka ngokubuza imibuzo ngo-2 ekuseni futhi ugijime, ungabuyela emuva ukuze ulale ukuthi u-yebo, uthathe umzuzu owengeziwe ukusho lawo mazwi.
Veza ngokwakho
Uma kukhona okufisa ukusho, ungesabi ukuveza. Akudingeki ube "nesibindi" naphezu kokuziqhenya okubonakala kubonga ukungazinaki imizwa yakho yangempela.
Yilungele Ukuthi Uxolo
Uma ubuhlungu, mhlawumbe ucasuliwe ekuxilongweni okubambezelekile noma emingcele yokunakekelwa kwezokwelapha nokulila impilo ababeyithemba yona ngeke kube njalo, kungadingeka ukuveza intukuthelo yakho. Njengoba kwenzeke ukuthi intukuthelo ivame "ukulahla" kulabo abenza okungcono kakhulu futhi abanothando kakhulu. Ukuthatha isikhashana sokuthi uxolise kungasiza abathandekayo bakho ukuba baqhubeke ngokunethezeka ezinsukwini ezilandelayo.
Ukuhlanganisa Ubuhlobo Obuqhekekile
Uma utshelwe ukuthi uphelile, ungase uzizwe isidingo sokuxazulula ukungezwani kobudlelwano. Ngezinye izikhathi lokhu kungenzeka, ngezinye izikhathi, akunjalo. Ukhona yini umuntu ofisa ufisa ukukhuluma naye okwesikhashana?
Ukugubha Ukuphila Kwakho
Abanye abantu bafisa ukudlala indima ebambe iqhaza ekuhleleni ukugubha impilo yabo (umngcwabo) ngenkathi abanye bengenaso nhlobo nhlobo. Akukho okulungile noma okungalungile futhi umndeni nabangane kudingeka bahloniphe izinqumo zakho. Uma befuna ukuthi wenze izincomo futhi awufuni, kuhle. Noma bangase bangathandi ukukhuluma ngomngcwabo wakho, kodwa abantu abaningi bathola okuningi ekunikezeni inkonzo yabo yokugcina futhi unelungelo lokwenza kanjalo. Kungenzeka ukukhetha izingoma zakho ozithandayo. Noma wabelane ngezikhumbuzo futhi uveza isifiso ngezikhathi ezithile zokufakwa kwi-eulogy.
Ukuthola Ithemba
Uthola kanjani ithemba ezinsukwini zakho zokugcina? Incazelo ejwayelekile yesichazamazwi yethemba isho isifiso noma isifiso sokuthi okuthile okuhle kuzokwenzeka. Izinguquko zokugcina ukuxilongwa, kodwa kusekhona ithemba. Ungakwazi:
- Ithemba ngenjabulo ezinsukwini zakho zokugcina
- Ithemba lokududuzeka
- Ithemba lokuphila okulandelayo nokuhlangana nabathandekayo
- Ithemba lezibusiso ezinganeni zakho nabathandekayo abazohlala emva kwakho.
- Ithemba lomndeni wakho
- Ithemba lomhlaba.
Abantu abaningi bathola ithemba kulokho okuzayo emva kokufa.
Futhi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi izinkolelo zakho zingena kulezi zigaba, abantu abaningi bathola induduzo ekufundeni izindaba zalabo abaye bahlangabezana nokufa, okuhlangenwe nakho kwezihlengikazi zokubeletha lapho bezwa ngalabo abafa "bevakashelwe" ngezihlobo ngaphambili, kanye nezindaba zabanye abaye babona izenzakalo eziletha isiqinisekiso mayelana nokuphila ngemva kokufa. Okuthandwa nguwe yiqoqo lezindaba ezimi phakade: Izindaba zangempela zokungafi nokuphila ezibhalwa yisifo se-Forensic Pathologist esabiwe nguJanis Amatuzio, udokotela wezilwane oye wabelana izindaba ezenziwa amalungu omndeni naye eminyakeni edlule-izindaba ezaletha induduzo kubaningi.
Izwi elivela
Labo bethu abangenayo umdlavuza wokuphela ngokuvamile banomuzwa wokuthi sinikela ngokusekela ezinye izinketho. Uma lokhu kwenzeka, labo abaphila nalesi sifo akudingeki babhekane nokuzwa kwabo nokwesaba kwabo kuphela kodwa baqede ukuzama ukusixhasa.
Njengomphakathi, kudingeka sifunde kabanzi mayelana nokusekela abantu ekugcineni futhi hhayi ukulinganisa "ukunqoba" ngokungeza izinsuku ezimbalwa. Ukuphila impilo enhle nokubhekana nokufa okuhle kubalulekile kumuntu ngamunye kithi. Futhi ukuze ukwazi ukwengeza isichazamazwi esithi "okuhle" kokubili, sidinga ukuba nethemba elinenjongo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukuchaza kwakho, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukholwa yini, futhi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ubuhlobo bakho bunjani, kunezizathu zokuthola ithemba.
Izinsuku zokugcina nezinyanga zokuphila kungaba yisikhathi esihle sokukhumbuza ngezikhathi ezinhle, ukulungiswa (uma kungenzeka) ubuhlobo obuphukile, qinisekisa ukuthi ukhululekile nazo zonke izinqumo zokwelashwa kwakho, futhi kulokhu, zizwa induduzo ekupheleni kokuphila . Ukuphila nomdlavuza wokugcina akusona isikhathi sokuba yisitoki. Uma unenkinga yalokhu, cabanga ngesibonelo ofisa ukushiya ngemuva kwabathandekayo bakho ukuba balandele. Ingabe ufuna ukuthi abangane bakho nomndeni wakho bavuleke ngalokho okusenhliziyweni yabo bese beveza imizwa yabo? Lesi yisikhathi sokwenza okufanayo. Ukubhekana nomdlavuza obulalayo kukhanga inhliziyo kulabo abafayo nalabo abasele. Kodwa ngenkathi wena noma othandekayo wakho esabathanda, kusekhona isikhathi sethemba.
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