Umqondo wokuhleka usulu kakhulu futhi udinga amandla amaningi obuchopho kunokuba abaningi bethu baqaphele. Eqinisweni, ngezinye izikhathi izigubhu zihlobene nokwehla noma ukulahleka kwemizwa yokuhleka kwesisu.
Kodwa, kuvela ukuthi akuzona zonke izigubhu ezithinta amathambo omuntu, futhi abacwaningi bezokwelapha baqala ukuthola ukuthi yiziphi izindawo zobuchopho ezinomthelela ekuhlekeleni futhi yiziphi izinhlobo zokulimala kobuchopho ezithinta umuzwa womuntu.
Ulimi nosizi lwamahloni
Ngokuthakazelisayo, amahlaya avame ukusho ngokuphindaphindiwe okuphindwe kabili kanye ne-puns, okuyinto, ekuqaleni, kubonakala sengathi ihlobene nolimi. Abantu abangaba ngu-90% emhlabeni wonke banesandla esifanele futhi abantu abanamalungelo amaningi banendawo yabo yomsebenzi wolimi olusendaweni ye-parietal yangakwesobunxele nesobunxele bobuchopho obungokwesokunxele .
Kodwa amahlaya empeleni alawulwa yi-lobe efanele yangaphambili yobuchopho bakho, ngokuphambene nohlangothi lweelwimi. Lokhu kusho ukuthi umuzwa wokuhleka usulu ikhono elibandakanya amakhono obuchopho obuhlukile ngaphandle kokuqonda ukuhlekisa okushiwo amagama namaphupho.
Impikiswano Yesihlungu Sengqondo Ngendlela Yokuzijabulisa
Ukushaywa komzimba kungashintsha ubuntu bomuntu osinde, futhi enye yezindlela ezicashile zokuthi isifo sishintshe ubuntu kubangelwa ukuhleka kwemizwa. Umuntu osinda ngesifo sohlangothi kanye nabathandekayo bangase bangaqapheli ukuthi ukushaywa yisisusa soshintsho lomuntu, ngokuvamile ukusola ngezinye izici, njengokuthi 'ukuguga.
Ucwaningo eYunivesithi yaseToronto eCanada lwaqhathanisa amavolontiya asebekhulile enempilo neziguli ezalimala lobe yangaphambili. Kwakukhona ukuthi izisebenzi zokuvolontiya ezivuthiwe ezivuthiwe zazuza kangcono ezinyathweni zokuqonda amahlaya kunabantu abalimala ku-lobe yangaphambili yobuchopho.
Lokhu kuqinisekisa imiphumela yezifundo eziningana ezibonisa ukuthi ukuguga okuvamile akuhlobene nokuncipha kwenhlanhla yabantu.
Indlela Ubunjena Bakho Elawula Ngayo Inkolelo Yakho Yehlazo
Ukuzijabulisa kwakho kufaka phakathi kokubili ikhono lakho lokwenza amahlaya amahle noma ukuzithokozisa ngokomzimba kanye nokukwazi kwakho ukubambelela nokuqonda amahlaya nokuhlekisa okuhlekisayo lapho abanye abantu benza amahlaya. Umqondo ojulile wokuhleka usulu uye wahlotshaniswa nokuhlakanipha okuphezulu ngoba kudinga ikhono lokubona ngokushesha ukufana nokufana okucashile.
Ukuthambekela kokuveza umqondo wakho wokuhlekisa ngokuwenza abanye abantu bahleke kuhambisana nezinga eliphakeme lokuzethemba. Kudinga ukuziqinisekisa ukuthi uhleka umlutha ngokuzwakalayo noma ukwenza isenzo esibucayi ngoba wonke umuntu owenza ihlaya usengozini yokulahlwa abanye abangase bangavumi ukuthi ihlaya lihlekisayo.
Ukuba nomuzwa wokuhlekisa kusiza abantu ukuba baqonde amahlaya abanye abantu futhi basize abantu ababoshiwe ndawonye ezimweni zenhlalo. Ngisho noma abantu abangasichitha isikhathi esiningi ndawonye bezwa ihlaya elifanayo embukisweni wethelevishini, kusiza ukwakha uxhumano phakathi kwabantu lapho behlanganyela isiko elifanayo sama-pop, ngisho noma indaba yehlaya ingabaluleki ngokukhethekile.
Ngakho ukuhleka kwemizwa kuyinzuzo engokwenhlalo nangokomzwelo, ngeshwa, ingaphazanyiswa ezinye izinhlobo zesifo.
Izwi elivela
Umndeni nabangane bangadumazeka ukubona ukuthi umuntu obonakala ngokuzumayo ashintshela othandekayo ngemva kokushaywa yisifo. Uma uhlangabezana nomqondo wakho wokulahleka lapho othandekayo wakho elahlekelwe umuzwa wakhe, kubalulekile ukuba uchaze ngomusa othandekayo wakho ukuthi uyazi ukuthi kungani eshintshile futhi egwema ukulindela ngokweqile uma kuziwa ekubuyiseleni.
Ngokuvamile, ubuntu obushintsha ngemva kokushaywa umoya akuzona ngaso sonke isikhathi okuphelele, futhi ungase ubone kancane kancane inqubekela phambili noma mhlawumbe ngisho nokuthuthukiswa okuphawulekayo ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Ukulondoloza ubudlelwane obuhle kanye nokomoya kuyisici esibalulekile sokuhlushwa kwesifo, ikakhulukazi uma kuziwa ngesimo somuntu osindayo nesimo somuntu osinde.
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