Kulabo abalilayo ukulahlekelwa othandekayo, ama-baubles amaholide, amabellane nezibani ezikhanyayo bangase bazizwe bejabule. Nazi amathiphu amahlanu okusiza labo ababulawe ukubhekana nokubhekana namaholide.
Vula isango kumasiko amasha
Umlobi wezandla waseNgisi u-Somerset Maugham ushilo wathi, "Umkhuba uyisiqondiso hhayi umgcini wejele." Naphezu kwalokhu, amasiko amaholide esiba nawo eminyakeni eminingi nemlingani, umntanakho, umzali noma omunye othandekayo othandekayo angase abe nomuzwa wokuthi awunakugwema njengemigoqo yejele. Ukuthumela amakhadi kaKhisimusi, ukupheka lelo dethi elidumile leholide, ukuthenga nge-Friday ngoLwesihlanu, ukuhlanganyela emikhanyeni yezibani / imihlobiso yokuncintisana, njll, kungase kuhambisane nezinkumbulo zakho zekhefu ezijabulisayo, kodwa ingabe inkambo yakho ethile ingakulethela injabulo kulo nyaka? Uma kungenjalo, cabanga ukuthi uyishintsha ukuze uzizwe ukhululekile.
Khumbula, ungahlala uphinde uqale isiko lakho sokuqala phansi komgwaqo uma ungathanda, kodwa ungathola ukuthi isiko elisha liyanelisa nje.
Kulungile ukuthi CHA
Njalo ngonyaka, umndeni wakho ulindele ukuza endlini yakho ngoKhisimusi ngezimoto kanye ne-cocoa. Kodwa kulo nyaka, umcabango wokuhlobisa indlu nokuqothula umuthi wena ngokwakho uzizwa unzima kakhulu. Noma mhlawumbe uhlele umculi womculo weholide esontweni lakho noma isikhungo somphakathi sezinkathi ezimbalwa ezedlule, kodwa manje, inhliziyo yakho ayikho kuwo. Ngenkathi ukucabanga kokushintsha isimiso sakho seholide kungase kube nzima, kudingeka uthole ukuthi unomthwalo wemfanelo onjani okhululekile ukuwusebenzisa bese ukhulumisana ngokucacile lokho kumndeni wakho nabangane. Zibuze ukuthi ufuna nje usizo ngomsebenzi othize noma uma ukhetha omunye umuntu ukuba athathe kulo nyaka wonke. Khumbuza ukuthi kuhle ukuthi "cha" njengoba ulungisa impilo emva kokulahlekelwa.
Akukho okuphelele futhi akunjalo
Iningi lethu lithatha isithombe sengqondo sokuthi amaholide "kufanele" afane nani. Amabhuku, omagazini, amabhayisikobho, izimakethe zethelevishini kanye nezinkumbulo zethu zobuntwana zingenza lokhu kuqondiswe ngokudala isithombe sokuthi "ophelele" uHanukah, Thanksgiving, Christmas, Kwanzaa, [ faka iholidi lapha ] kubukeka sengathi. Lokhu kungadala ukucindezelwa okuningi, okunye okuwumthombo wokucindezeleka akudingeki ukubhekana nawo okwamanje. Ngakho-ke, zinikeze idlule le nkathi yeholide ngokuzamukela izinto njengoba zinjalo . Ubani okhathalelayo uma izibani ezimbalwa zikaKhisimusi zishiswa uma ukufudumala kwezindlu nokukhanya kukhanya ngokukhanyayo? Mhlawumbe awuzange uchithe isikhathi esiningi uhlanganisa lezo zipho zezingane njengoba uvame ukwenza, kodwa nini lapho ingane yokugcina isenqaba isipho ngenxa yokugubha umsebenzi? I-Turkey kancane yomile kulo nyaka? Engeza i-gravy encane ngaphezulu. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwenzekani, phendulela wena: "Vumela uhambe."
Hlonipha Othandekayo Othandekayo
Ngokuvamile, labo abalila ukubuza ukufa, "Ngingakugwema kanjani ukucabanga ngaye ngesikhathi samaholide?" Iqiniso liwukuthi, awukwazi ngokuphelele - ngakho kungani uzama? Esikhundleni sokuhlala ukwesaba ukuthi uzoqala ukukhumbula othandekayo wakho futhi uzizwe udabukile, zizame ngamandla ngokufaka inkumbulo yakhe ezinhlelweni zakho . Uma uhlala nomndeni wakho, khanyisa ikhandlela ekuhlonipheni komuntu othandekayo ongasho ngokuthula ukuthi ubukhona bakhe ezinhliziyweni zakho. Noma yenza amanye ama-popcorn futhi uhlale ndawonye njengomndeni ukuze ubuke i-movie yakhe yamaholide ayizintandokazi. Uma ungumdwebo wokudala, yenza imihlobiso ekhethiwe yeholide nabantwana bakho noma abazukulu bese uwafaka endaweni yokuhlonipha ngesihlahla sakho sikaKhisimusi. Uma uzizwa uphelele, cela umndeni wakho ukuthi wabelane ngezinkumbulo zabo eziyizintandokazi zomuntu othandekayo wakho, noma uvakashele amathuna, isayithi lesikhumbuzo noma indawo ebalulekile ekuphileni komuntu othandekayo ndawonye.
Thola Injabulo Yangempela Yokupha
Sihlale sizwa ukuthi ukupha kungcono kunokwamukela, kodwa bangaki kithi abakholwa ngempela lokho? Ake ucabange ngaleli holide lapho uzofaka i-chestnut endala ngokusiza omunye umuntu ukuba abhekane ne-blues yamaholidi ngendlela encane. Nikela amathoyizi abantwana noma izingubo ezifudumele kubantu abangenamakhaya. Siza ukusiza abadala abalambile noma abasekelayo. Yamukela umndeni oyimpofu noma wenze umnikelo wokusiza ngenkumbulo yothandekayo wakho. Kunamathuba amaningi okuthola injabulo yokupha uma ubheka . Ukuze uthole uhlu lwamathuba okusiza omunye umuntu ukuba athole iholidi elikhanyayo endaweni yakini, sicela uvakashele iwebhusayithi ye-Volunteer Match.
Izihloko Ezihlobene Nalo :
• Ukuyeka Ukudabuka
• Indlela Yokuphunyuka Ukudabuka Kweholide KaKhisimusi
• Indlela Yokuphila Usuku Lokubonga Ngosuku Lokubonga
• Indlela Yokusinda Ukudabuka Kwosuku Luka-Valentine
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