Amathiphu okusiza oshonelwe abhekane nesikhathi seholide kaKhisimusi
Isikhathi sikaKhisimusi singase sibe nzima kunomuntu olila ukushona komuntu othandekayo. Akukhona nje kuphela ukuthi izinto, ukuzwakala nokuphunga kweholidi kuzungezile futhi cishe akunakwenzeka ukugwema, kodwa amasiko, amasiko, nemibuthano esivame ukuhlangana nayo ngenkathi yeholide iphinde igcizelele ukuthi ilungu lomndeni othandekayo noma umngane asisekho nathi, ehlanganisa imizwa yethu yokulahleka.
Lesi sihloko sinikeza amathiphu amahlanu okukusiza ukuba ubhekane nesikhathi seholide sikaKhisimusi uma usizwa ukufa komuntu othandekayo.
Zinike Wena Isipho Sokuvumela
Ukucindezeleka okushiwo ukufelwa ukuba wenze ngendlela ethile lapho ukulila nokufa kufaka umthwalo oswelekile futhi ongadingekile kulabo abalahlekelwa ukulahlekelwa nganoma isiphi isikhathi, kodwa lokhu kuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi ngesikhathi seKhisimusi. Injabulo nokuhleka okuhlotshaniswa naleli holide kungenza umqondo wokuthi ukudabuka nokukhala akuveli futhi kungaphathisa abanye iholidi.
Uma uthola lesi sikhathi sikaKhisimusi nomuzwa wokuthi kufanele uzifihle izinyembezi zakho noma ufake ubuso obusibindi (noma, ngokuphambene, ungahleki noma uzijabulise ngezinye izikhathi), khona-ke udinga ukuzipha isipho semvume, okungukuthi, uzitshele ukuthi Kuhle ukulila ngendlela yakho . Naphezu kokucindezelwa komphakathi - okungokoqobo noma okucatshangelwe - noma ukungaqondi ukuthi abantu balandela izigaba ezifanayo zokudabuka , akukhona nje indlela engalungile yokulila ukulahlekelwa othandekayo.
Futhi njengoba nje ukufa kungalokothi kuthathe iholide, futhi akusizi usizi, ngakho kufanele wenze noma yini okudingeka uyenze ukuze ubhekane nayo.
Zenza ukuzithanda
Usizi luwumsebenzi onzima futhi alithinti nje kuphela umonakalo ongokomzwelo kulabo abalilayo ukufa kodwa futhi ngokomzimba. Ngokuvamile, abafelwayo bazizwa bephelelwe amandla ngenxa yokudla okubi, ukungabi nokuzivivinya kanye / noma ukulala ngokwanele.
Ngeshwa futhi okumangalisa ukuthi, ukuvuthwa kwamaholide ngokuvamile kubangele izinkinga ezifanayo kubantu abangabhubhi ukufa, okungukuthi uKhisimusi ingabangela lezi zinkinga kulabo abafelwe.
Uma lokho kukuchaza, bese uqhuba ukuzithanda ngokwakho phakathi kweholidi ngokuqaphela izidingo zakho ezingokwenyama . Uma uhlela ukuya esikhwameni seholide, utshele umphathi noma umnakekeli ngaphambi kwesikhathi ukuthi ungashiya ekuseni uma uzizwa ukhathele futhi udinga ukulala (futhi qiniseka ukuthi ushayela ngokuhlukile ukuze usuke noma nini lapho ufisa). Esikhundleni sokuzibopha e-buffet yeholide, yenza lezi zindlela eziyisithupha zokudla okunempilo ngesikhathi samaholide. Ngisho nokuvivinya umzimba okulinganayo kuzokusiza ulale kahle futhi unciphise izinga lakho lokucindezeleka, ngakho qiniseka ukuthi uthatha inja yakho ukuhamba noma ucele umngane ukuba ahambe nawe epakini noma emakethe yendawo.
Ukubhekana Nokwesaba Kwakho
Ngokufanayo ne-Thanksgiving, sivame ukuhlanganisa iholide likaKhisimusi ngezinkumbulo ezijabulisayo zamalungu omndeni nabangane, kanye namasiko amaningi azungeze imikhosi yethu ethile yonyaka. Ngeshwa, emva kokufa komuntu othandekayo, leyo miyambo kanye namasiko angaba umthombo wobuhlungu kwabafelwayo. Lapho ukuhlobisa isihlahla sikaKhisimusi kwakuwumsebenzi owusizo, ohlonishwa yisikhathi, umndeni, isibonelo, lelo bhokisi elilula lemihlobiso manje lingaba yindawo yokudabuka ebangela ukudumazeka nokukhala njengoba izinkumbulo zikhukhula izingqondo nezinhliziyo zethu.
Uma ukhathazekile noma ukwesaba ukuthi ngeke ukwazi "ukukhohlwa" othandekayo wakho oshiye ngesikhathi samaholide, kufanele uqonde ukuthi awukwazi futhi akufanele uzame ngisho. Esikhundleni sokuvumela ukwesaba ukuthi uzoqala ukukhumbula othandekayo wakho futhi uzizwe udabukile kusho ukuthi iholide lakho, zizame ngamandla ngokufaka inkumbulo yakhe ohlelweni lwakho lweholide likaKhisimusi . Isibonelo, faka umhlobiso owodwa - noma ngabe ukhona noma omusha oyithenga noma owenzayo - okukuhle kukukhumbuze othandekayo wakho endaweni yokuhlonipha esihlahleni sakho sikaKhisimusi, noma ubeke isithombe sakho ozithandayo somthandekayo wakho ikhandlela elikhanyayo endaweni elinezintathu ezikhombisa ukubonakala kwakhe enhliziyweni yakho kulo lonke leli holide.
Ukuthatha ngokuzithandela izenzo ezinjengalezi kusisiza ukuba sibhekane nosongelo lwethu, kungabonisa ukuthi kukhona i-cathartic ephawulekayo futhi kusisiza ukuba sithole izikhathi zenduduzo kanye nenjabulo ngesikhathi sikaKhisimusi.
Qedela u-Conspiracy of Silence
Ukulandela ukufa komuntu othandekayo, abangane bethu, amalunga omndeni, osebenza nabo kanye nabanye bavame ukulwa nendlela engcono yokududuza nokududuza abafelwe. Ngokuzethemba ukuthi sinethemba lokusenza sizizwe kangcono ngesikhathi sethu sokudabuka, labo abaseduze kwethu bayesaba ukwenza noma ukusho okuthile okuyokwenza sikhale noma sibangele izinkumbulo ezibuhlungu zothandekayo wethu osele. Umphumela wenetha ngokuvamile udala "ugobe lokuthula" lapho kungekho muntu okhuluma noma esebenzisa igama lomuntu oshonile oseduze nathi - cishe sengathi wayengakaze abe khona - okungabangela usizi lwethu.
Uma unomuzwa wokuthi lokhu kungenzeka emibuthanweni yakho yomphakathi, kufanele ungabasizi kuphela abantu obaziyo kodwa nawe ngokwakho ngokutshela abakuzungezile ukuthi kuhle ukuhlanganyela izinkumbulo zomuntu oshonile nokusebenzisa igama lakhe ngokukhululekile ngesikhathi seholide likaKhisimusi , uma wayefisa. Uma ngabe unikezwe imvume yokubasiza ukuba banqobe ukunganaki kwabo kwezenhlalakahle, iningi labantu lizoxoxa kalula ngezindaba zabo kanye nezinkumbulo zomuntu othandekayo. Ukwenza kanjalo akuvumeli nje kuphela izimfanelo ezimangalisayo zabathandekayo bakho kodwa futhi kufakazela ukuthi awodwa wedwa usizi lwakho nokuthi labo abakuzungezile bayakuthanda futhi bakunakekele.
Yamukela Iqiniso Lakho
Njengoba kuphawuliwe ngenhla, usizi olwenzeka ngemva kokushona komuntu othandekayo luba nomzimba wangempela, ngokomzwelo nangokwengqondo kithi okufanele kunganakwa. Okushiwo lokhu yilokho, njengoba uqhubeka nohambo lwakho lusizi, cishe uzothola izikhathi ngesikhathi seholide uma ungenalo amandla akho avamile kanye / noma ukujabulela kwakho amasiko akho e-Yuletide, phakathi kwezinye izinto. Ngamanye amazwi, awusona "ovamile" wakho okwamanje.
Ngakho-ke, kufanele unqume futhi wazi imingcele yakho kusengaphambili . Isibonelo, uma umcabango wokulwa nezitolo ezinkulu ezigciniwe nezindawo zeminyango ukuthenga izipho zikaKhisimusi uzizwa unzima kakhulu kulo nyaka, bese ucabangela ukuthenga lezo zipho online. Uma ngokujwayelekile uhamba edolobheni noma ngaphesheya kwezwe ukuchitha uKhisimusi namalungu omndeni noma abangane kodwa ungazizwa usufike kuso manje, ngakho-ke kuyamukeleka ngokuphelele ukusho kanjalo wenze ezinye izinhlelo zihambisane nokuhambisana nemizwa yakho Izinga lamandla. Futhi uma ufisa ukunciphisa imisebenzi yakho yenhlalo kule nkathi yeKhisimusi ngoba nje ungathanda ukuba yedwa, khona-ke wazi ukuthi lokhu kujwayelekile, futhi. Noma ubani othanda ngempela futhi owazi ubuhlungu obhekene nawo uzoqonda ngokuqinisekile.
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