Kuyinto engcindezi enkulu yokuba nesimo esihle ngaso sonke isikhathi
Izitolo zezokuxhumana zigcwele imibono evela kubantu abanezinhloso ezinhle ezikhumbuza labo abanomdlavuza webele -fana nomdlavuza wendaba-ukulwa nesifo sabo nokugcina isimo sengqondo esihle. Kungenxa yokuthi lezi zinto ezimbili zibalulekile ekusindeni kwabo.
Abaningi bethu babelane ngomyalezo ofanayo nabangane nabathandekayo abaphila nomdlavuza webele.
Kodwa, ngenkathi lezi zemiyalezo zihloswe ukuba ziwusizo, ngokusho kocwaningo, akuzona ezakhayo noma eziqondile. Bafaka umthwalo kumuntu onomdlavuza, onokwanele epulatifomu yakhe ezama ukubhekana nokumesaba, imiphumela emibi, ukukhathazeka ngokwezimali, nomthelela womdlavuza emndenini wabo.
Ukuxilongwa komdlavuza kuletha inqwaba yemizwelo eyenza ukugcina nokugcina isimo sengqondo esihle sibe inselelo engenangqondo. Ukutshelwa ukuthi uhlale unesimo sengqondo esihle kubangele ukuzwa umuzwa wecala kumuntu onomdlavuza. Izikhathi eziningi, labo abanomdlavuza abahlanganyeli ngendlela abazizwa ngayo ngenxa yokwesaba ukungabi khona okuhle, okuqhubekayo okubahlukanisa ngesikhathi abadinga konke ukusekelwa abangayithola.
Ezinye iziguli ngokwabo, kanye nabanye emndenini wabo nabangane, bafuna ukukholelwa ukuthi banamandla okulawula imiphumela yezifo zabo ezimbi. Nakuba lokhu kungaletha induduzo, akulona iqiniso.
Inkinga yokwamukela isimiso esinjalo senkolelo kwenzeka uma abantu abanomdlavuza bengenzi kahle futhi baqala ukusola ngokwabo ngempilo yabo ehlahlokayo.
Khona-ke kukhona labo abakholelwa abanye abantu, ngokusekelwe ebuntwini babo, cishe amathuba okuthola umdlavuza futhi bafe kuwo. Eqinisweni, imiphumela eminingi yokutadisha ayibonisi ukuxhumana phakathi komuntu nomdlavuza.
Futhi, izifundo ezimbalwa ezisekela lesi sisekelo zitholakale ziphutha ngoba zazenziwe kahle futhi zilawulwa kahle.
Isibonelo, isifundo se-2007 sasihlanganisa abantu abangaphezu kuka-1 000 abanomdlavuza. Ithole ukuthi isimo sengqondo sesiguli sasingekho ithonya ekusindeni kwakhe. Umholi ososayensi nomcwaningi weqembu lokufunda uJames C. Coyne, PhD eYunivesithi yasePennsylvania School of Medicine, babike ukuthi imiphumela yocwaningo yanezela ebufakazini obandayo obukhombise isisekelo sesayense somqondo ovame ukuthi isimo sengqondo sokukhukhumeza sibaluleke kakhulu "sokushaya "umdlavuza.
Ucwaningo lwesayensi olukhulu kunazo zonke olwenziwe kahle kakhulu kuze kube manje lwanyatheliswa ngonyaka ka-2010. Ucwaningo lwalandela abantu abangu-60 000 okungenani iminyaka engu-30 futhi lulawulwa ukubhema, ukusetshenziswa kotshwala, nezinye izinto eziyaziwa ngengozi yomdlavuza. Umphumela awubonisi nje ukuxhumanisa phakathi komuntu nobungozi bomdlavuza jikelele, kodwa futhi ukuthi kwakungekho ukuhlobana phakathi kwezici zobuntu nokusinda komdlavuza.
Kuye kwacwaningwa ezindaweni zokwelashwa kwengqondo nokunciphisa ukucindezeleka, nabacwaningi bebheka imiphumela engaba khona ekusindisweni komdlavuza. Lezi zifundo zaholela ekutholeni okuhlangene, okuholela ekudidekeni kweziguli, amalungu omndeni, abangani, kanye nabezindaba.
Isibonelo esihle salolu hlobo lokudideka singabonakala ekucwaningweni okwenziwe nguDavid Spiegel kanye nozakwabo ngo-1989, okwakubonakala sengathi kuhlobanisa umehluko ekusindeni ngokuba yingxenye yeqembu lokusekela.
Kodwa-ke, lapho abanye abacwaningi benza izifundo ezifanayo, abazange bathole imiphumela efanayo.
Futhi, ukubuyekezwa kokucwaninga kuka-2004-okubheka imiphumela yemiphumela eminingi eyenziwe kahle yeziguli zesifo somdlavuza ukuthola i-psychotherapy-itholakala ukuthi iziguli ezingaphezu kuka-1 000, ezithengiswa emiphumeleni yokugcina, zibonisa ngokucacile ukuthi ukwelapha kwasiza ekubhekaneni nomdlavuza wabo. Kodwa-ke, kwakungekho nethonya ekusindeni.
Ngo-2007, abacwaningi abasha baphinde bahlola zonke izifundo zangaphambilini mayelana nokwelashwa kanye nomthelela walo ekusindeni komdlavuza. Bathole ukuthi akukho luhlolo oluhlelekile lwezokwelapha olubhekwe ekubhekaneni nokusinda nokusebenza kwengqondo kubonise umphumela omuhle ekusindeni kwesiguli.
Kodwa-ke, ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi ukunikeza iziguli zomdlavuza ukuthola ulwazi mayelana namagciwane abo emkhakheni weqembu lokusekela, kanye nokuzinikeza ithuba lokuthola nokusekela abanye eqenjini, kunciphisa ukucindezeleka, ukukhathazeka, ukukhathala, futhi kungasiza iziguli ukubhekana nokucindezeleka.
Ngenkathi amaqembu okusekela enza indima ebalulekile ekuthuthukiseni izinga lempilo yesiguli, ubufakazi obunzima besayensi abukhuthazi umbono wokuthi amaqembu okusekela noma ezinye izinhlobo zokwelashwa kwengqondo angasiza abantu abanomdlavuza baphile isikhathi eside.
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> Isimo sengqondo nomdlavuza, i-American Cancer Society.
> I-Psychology Enhle Ekunakekelweni Kwemdlavuza: Isayensi Engalungile, Izimangalo Eziqakathekileko, Nemithi Engaqinisekisiwe, Amanothi Ezokwelapha.