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Qaphela obaba: Ingabe ubaba wakho wakhuluma nawe ngokusobala mayelana nokukhathazeka kwezempilo? Kuye ngeminyaka yakho, impendulo cishe ayikho. Kodwa kunezibonakaliso lokhu okuzoshintsha.
Ucwaningo lukazwelonke lwembula ukuthi amaphesenti angama-62 obaba obaba namadodana afisa ukuthi ubaba wabo ubelokhu ekhuluma ngokuphathelene nezihloko zezempilo. Ngenxa yalokho, amaphesenti angama-43 kababa omndeni wabo ongakhulumi ngokukhululekile ngempilo yabo bathi bafuna ukwephula iphethini.
Izizathu zokugwema lezi zingxoxo zenza i-gamut kusuka emasikweni ukuze kube namahloni. Abanye bathi abakwazi ukukhuluma namadodana abo mayelana nezihloko zezempilo ngoba uyise (umfanekiso) akakaze akhulume nabo ngakho, noma kunjalo.
Abanye bazizwa benamahloni noma bathi bangakwazi ukuthola amagama. Abanye besaba indodana yabo ngeke bafune ukukhuluma ngale ndaba noma bangakwazi ukuthola isikhathi esifanele sokuphakamisa inkinga.
Njengodokotela ogxile empilweni yamadoda, ngiphakamisa ukuthi ungumuntu futhi ube nalezizingxoxo ezibalulekile namadodana akho. Ungase uthole izinkulumo zingakhululekile. Ungase ubathole kungabonakali. Kodwa gcina lokhu engqondweni: Akuncane ngawe kunokuba indodana yakho.
Ukuxhumana Kuyathuthukisa-Ngandlela-thile
I-Cleveland Clinic yenza lolu cwaningo, "MENtion It," kubantu abangaphezu kuka-500 abaneminyaka eyi-18 ubudala nangaphezulu abahlala kuleli zwekazi lase-US. Ucwaningo lwalunzima ukuba lube ngummeli kazwelonke mayelana nesifunda, iminyaka nobuhlanga / ubuhlanga.
Bonke ababambiqhaza babeyizibalo zokhokho noma ubaba kumfana futhi babe nobaba noma ubaba babala.
Cishe amaphesenti angu-70 kababa athi imindeni yabo ikhulume ngokukhululekile mayelana nezindaba zezempilo kanye nokukhathazeka, ngisho nalapho beyizingane. Cishe ezimbili kwezintathu (amaphesenti angu-62) abaphenduli ababesele babefisa abababa babo.
Futhi amaphesenti angaba ngu-47 athi awazi umlando wempilo yomndeni wabo aze afike kudokotela njengomuntu omdala.
Obaba banamhlanje banamadodana abonisa ukuqonda okubalulekile ukukhuluma mayelana nezihloko eziphathelene nempilo.
- Cishe amaphesenti angu-80 aye ahlola ezinyangeni ezimbalwa zokugcina noma ngonyaka odlule.
- Amaphesenti angamashumi ayisithupha nambili atusa ukuncintisana nodokotela ukuze bahlole ukuhlolwa kahle kwezempilo .
- Cishe ingxenye (amaphesenti angu-52) weluleke abanye obaba namadodana ukuze bathole okuningi ngangokunokwenzeka ngomlando wabo wezokwelapha emphakathini futhi (amaphesenti angu-50) batshele izingane zabo ngakho.
- Amaphesenti angamashumi ayisishiyagalolunye ayisishiyagalolunye aneluleka ukukhuluma ngokuphathwa kwezempilo ngaphambi kokugula noma isidingo sokunakekela udokotela kwenzeka. (Lesi seluleko siphezulu!)
Ukuthula Akusiwo Amandla Alinganayo
Ingqinamba enkulu ezingxoxweni zezempilo kubonakala kungenqikanqika ukuxoxa ngokukhathazeka kwempilo yomuntu ngenxa yokwesaba ukubangela umndeni ukhathazeke ngokungadingekile, ngenxa yokukhetha komuntu siqu okungenzeka kube negalelo empikweni yezempilo, noma kubonakala buthakathaka. Ungase uziqhenye ngokuba yi-stoic, kodwa ukwehluleka ukuletha izibonakaliso udokotela akubeka wena kanye nomndeni wakho engozini.
Ngineziguli ezinegazi emcimbini wazo iminyaka embalwa ngaphambi kokubona udokotela. Igazi emcimbini luwuphawu lomdlavuza wesisu , okuyinto evame ukuphiliswa uma kutholakala kusenesikhathi.
Ngesikhathi sekuphele iminyaka embalwa, lesi sifo sinobudlova noma singelapheki.
Uma uthula ngoba uzizwa ukhululekile ukusho amagama athile, ngiyakwazi ukuxoxa. Ngesikhathi ngiqala ukuqeqeshwa kwami kwezokwelapha, ngathola ukuthi kungakhululekile ukusho amagama afana ne "penis" nethi "scrotum." Asikho isizathu esisizwakalayo salokhu ukungakhululeki; kungukuthi i-taboo kuphela yomphakathi okukuvimba. Ngiyaqinisekisa ukuthi ukhuluma la mazwi kaningi kangakanani, kulula ukuthola.
Izingozi Zokungazi
Ukuvimbela umdlavuza yisona sizathu esiyinhloko sokudinga ukwazi umlando wakho wezokwelapha emndenini bese uyidlula. Ngokuvamile, lapho ngicela iziguli ngomlando womndeni wazo womdlavuza wesifo sofuba noma isifo abakhathazekile ngabo, bathi, "Ubaba wayenento ethile, kodwa angazi ukuthi kwakungakanani."
Ukuchaza okuhlangenwe nakho kwakho ngenkinga yezokwelapha kungase kuvikele impilo yendodana yakho. Amagciwane amaningi, kuhlanganise nomdlavuza we-prostate kanye ne-colon, anezici eziphilayo. Uma wena noma ilungu lomndeni osondelene naye unesifo somdlavuza wesibeletho ngaphambi kweminyaka engama-50, kubalulekile ukuthi indodana yakho iqale ukuhlolwa okujwayelekile kwesifo eminyakeni engama-40. Ngenxa yokuthi abantu base-Afrika baseMelika basengozini enkulu kakhulu yomdlavuza we-prostate, singase sincoma ukuqala ukuhlolwa ngisho nangaphambili, uma kunomlando womndeni wesifo.
Ukufundisa indodana yakho ukuthi uzenze kanjani ukuhlolwa okusemthethweni kubalulekile ngenxa yesizathu esifanayo. Umdlavuza we-testicular uqala ukuphazamisa amadoda amasha avela eminyakeni engama-15 ubudala futhi anesilinganiso sokuphulukisa samaphesenti angu-98 lapho ebanjwa futhi ephathwa ngokushesha.
Ukubaluleka kwe-Quarterback yeDokotela
Ucwaningo lwabonisa ukuthi abantwabancane abaningi abanezingane bazizwa bengakhululekile ukuxoxa ngomlando wezempilo lomndeni nonina, kunokuba ubaba wabo. Futhi amadoda abo bonke ubudala abaye bahlolisiswa bakhetha ukukhuluma ngezindaba ezithile zezempilo nobaba baba, kunokuba babe nobaba wabo ophilayo. Konke kuhle futhi kuhle, kodwa basadinga udokotela.
Wonke umuntu osemusha kufanele ahlakulele ubudlelwane nodokotela oyinhloko wokunakekelwa okuzosebenza njengengxenye yesine yeqembu lezinyanga, uma kuvela inkinga yezokwelapha. Lo dokotela uzoqaphela zonke izinhlobo zezinkinga zezokwelapha, hhayi nje lezo ezihlobene nempilo yabantu, futhi uqinisekise ukuthi indodana yakho ithola izivivinyo ezifanele zokuhlola ngesikhathi esifanele.
Emva kokuhlolwa kokuqala kahle kwesiguli, indodana yakho ingase ingadingi ukubona udokotela futhi iminyaka eminingana. Iqiniso liwukuthi awusoze wazi ukuthi uzoba nengxaki yezokwelapha. Uma umuntu ehluma, akufanele ube yingcindezi ukuthola usizo.
Uma unesihlobo nodokotela oyinhloko, ungabiza uma unenkinga bese ubuza ukuthi yini okufanele uyenze ngokulandelayo. Udokotela uzokubona noma ahlele ukuthi uvakashele i-urologist noma esinye isazi esifanele.
Ukuqeda Ukuthula
Uma uphakathi kwamadoda angesabi ukuxoxa ngezinkinga zezempilo nemindeni yakho, bhekisela kuwe! Uma usulungele ukuqala ukukhuluma namadodana akho mayelana nezindaba zezempilo nokukhathazeka, nansi okumele ukhulume ngakho:
- Lapho uchaza ubulili, xoxani ngezingozi zezifo ezithathelwana ngocansi kanye nencazelo yokuthi amantombazane akhulelwa kanjani.
- Babonise ukuthi bangakwenza kanjani ukuhlolwa okubufakazi eshaweni. Batshele ukuthi kufanele bakwenze njalo nyangazonke futhi babatshele ukuthi bakwazi uma bezwa noma yiziphi izimbungulu noma ama-bumps.
- Khuluma ngokungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile nokuthi kungaba uphawu lwezifo zenhliziyo lapho bekhula.
- Batshele ukuthi babone udokotela ngokushesha uma benesibonakaliso noma izimpawu zanoma yikuphi inkinga yezokwelapha nokuthi ukuthula akusibonakaliso samandla.
- Batshele umndeni wakho nomlando womuntu siqu wezinkinga zezokwelapha. Uma ungazi lezi, cela uyise noma ezinye izihlobo zegazi ukuthi akutshele lokho abakwaziyo.
Obaba asebevele bekhuluma namadodana abo mayelana nempilo yabo noma bahlela ukwenza njalo bathi ubudala 11 kuya ku 12 yisikhathi esihle sokuqala. Uma ukhetha ukulinda kuze kube yilapho ingane ingumuntu omdala, bhala phansi umlando wakho wezokwelapha kanye nomndeni bese uyishiya endaweni ephephile uma usudlula ngaphambi kwesikhathi.
Yenza Umsebenzi Wakho
Uma wenza umsebenzi wakho njengobaba, uzoba nezingxoxo eziningi ezingakhululekile nezingane zakho njengoba zikhula. Ukukhuluma ngempilo kufana nokukhuluma ngokwezimali ngokweqile, ukuthi ungaba kanjani umlingani omuhle noma umzali, noma uchaze ukuthi ukufa kukuphi. Kufanele ufune ukujula ukuze uthole amagama okuxoxa ngalezi zinto. Yebo, kumnandi ukukhuluma namadodana akho mayelana nemidlalo, isimo sezulu, noma umsebenzi, kodwa ekugcineni, impilo yabo-neyakho-ibaluleke kakhulu.
> Umthombo:
> MENtion Survey, Cleveland Clinic, 2017.