Amathiphu ayisithupha ngocansi kulabo abagulayo

Ubuhlungu bebukhoma bungangena empilweni yakho yezocansi ngisho nokuchitha ubuhlobo bakho uma ungaqapheli. Isihluthulelo ukuthuthukisa amakhono amasha nezimo zengqondo ezilungele kangcono indlela ophila ngayo manje ukuthi uhlala nezinkinga zomgogodla.

Nazi izinto eziyisithupha ongayenza ukuze ugcine uthando empilweni yakho - futhi ubuhlungu bomhlane buvulekile. Amathiphu kanye nokuqonda lapha kunikezwa umhlinzeki wezemvelo uLauren Andrew Hebert, ochwepheshe wezokwelapha nomlobi we- Sex and Back Pain , noWendy Maltz, oyisisebenzi senhlalakahle kanye nodokotela wezocansi.

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Khuluma nodokotela wakho

Iziguli zivame ukungakhululeki ngokuxoxa ngezocansi kanye nezikhundla zocansi nodokotela bazo. Ngokusho kukaHebert, ingxenye enkulu yomthwalo wemfanelo yokungabi nokuxhumana phakathi kukadokotela nesiguli ilala nabachwepheshe bezokwelapha.

"Abahlinzeki bokunakekelwa kwezempilo kufanele bafune le ndaba," usho kanje. Ubulili buhambisana nokubuyela emsebenzini nasemisebenzini yansuku zonke ekuxilongweni nasekwelapha ubuhlungu emuva. Uma umhlinzeki wakho wokunakekelwa kwezempilo engeke aphendule imibuzo yakho mayelana nobulili, uHebert ukhombisa ukuthola omunye ofuna olunye umbono.

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Khuluma nesimo sakho sengqondo

Khuluma isimo sakho sengqondo ngesimo sakho kanye nomphumela oyoba nawo ebuhlotsheni bakho.

UHebert uthi ngokuvamile ubudlelwane buhlukana uma omunye umlingani ezwa ubuhlungu. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi, uthi, ukusabela ebuhlungu kuyindlela yokufunda. "Njengoba unquma ukuba, yilokho oyikho."

Ngokuvamile, umuntu ohlala nobuhlungu uyoba okwedlulele izinto ngokugwema ucansi. "Yilokho okubhubhisa ubuhlobo," usho kanje.

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Khetha ukuziphatha ngendlela yokuziphatha ngokocansi

Yamukela ukuthi ngeke ukwazi ukuba namandla njengoba ukhona ngaphambi kokuqala kobuhlungu bakho. Vula ubuhlakani bakho nomqondo wokutholakala ukukusiza ukuthi uvumelane nokuphila kwakho kobulili ezingeni lakho elingase likwazi ukubhekana nalo.

UMaltz uthi ukushintsha imigomo yakho kungase kube indlela yokugcina impilo yakho yobulili inomvuzo naphezu kobuhlungu bakho. Zama uxhumano lomzwelo futhi ujabulele "ama-orgasms asebenza kanzima," usho kanje.

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Qonda isimo sakho sempuphu

Ukuqonda inkinga yakho yangemuva kahle, kufaka phakathi izikhundla eziletha izimpawu futhi okulungile kungakusiza ujabulele ucansi ngaphezulu.

Ukulimala emuva nemibandela kungenziwa ngezigaba zokunyakaza ezenza izimpawu zibi nakakhulu. Ungasebenzisa lolu lwazi uma ukhetha izikhundla zakho.

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Hlela Izithuba Zakho

Hlela izikhundla zakho futhi ufake umlingani wakho kule nqubo.

Ngezinye izikhathi, ungase ukwazi ukuguqula izikhundla zakho ozithandayo ngenduku noma ithawula. Ngezinye izikhathi, kungadingeka ukuthi ukhulume futhi usebenze le nkinga ngaphandle nomlingani wakho.

U-Herbert usikisela ukukhuluma ngakho phambili bese ulindele, ngezinye izikhathi, ukuthi kuzodingeka ushintshe uhlelo. Ukuhlela izikhundla zakho kuyindlela eqakathekileko, uthi, ngoba ubudlelwane obumelana nobuhlungu emuva emuva kokuthi "singazivumelanisa" nesimo sengqondo kubonakala kuhamba kangcono kunalabo abangenawo umlingani nobuhlungu kuphela.

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Qinisekisa imisipha yezemvelo

Iphoyinti yokugcina ukuthola imisipha yakho ye-pelvic ngendlela . Imisipha ye-pelvic eguquguqukayo enamandla ingaqinisa kakhulu umsebenzi wezocansi futhi wenze izimangaliso ngomhlane wakho. Isizathu salokhu ukuthi ziyingxenye yesistimu yokwesekwa okuyisisekelo ehlukanisa ukusetshenziswa kwemisipha futhi iqinise ukuma komzimba.

UHebert uthi kanye nendima yabo kwezocansi, imisipha yomzimba we-pelvic ibalulekile njengoba izibeletho nezinsipho ezincane ezingemuva empilweni yangemuva.