Uma ingane yakho ithola ukuthi une-autism - ngokuvamile ephakathi kweminyaka engu-2 no-4 - ukuphila kubonakala kungena kwi-overdrive. Kukhona ukuqokwa kwabadokotela ukuhlela, abahlinzeki bokuvakashela , ekhaya ukusiza ukuphatha. Kunezincwadi namawebhusayithi okumele afunde, ulwazi oluzobuyekezwa ... futhi, mhlawumbe okubaluleke kakhulu, isikhathi sakho sasekhaya nomntanakho ngokuzumayo sibe "isikhathi sokuthiwa".
Esikhundleni sokuphumula ngaphambi kwevidyo noma ukuxhuma ngemuva, usebenza nengane yakho ukwakha amakhono okuxhumana, amakhono omphakathi, namakhono okudlala.
Akulula ukuthatha umhlaba wonke wemithwalo yemfanelo ngenkathi futhi unikeza umqashi wakho isikhathi sakho esigcwele, ukunakwa okugxile.
Uma ungumzali ongayedwa, kunethuba elihle lokuthi awunawo ukhetho kodwa ukuthatha izinsizakalo ezinikezwe ngesikhungo sakho esikoleni noma ejensi lendawo, bese wenza okusemandleni akho ukunikeza okuningi uma ufika ekhaya kusuka emsebenzini. Futhi, isikhathi esiningi, ingane yakho izoba kahle. Ngenkathi isikole, ukungenelela kwangaphambili, noma uhlelo lwesifunda kungase kungabi yi "Cadillac" yezokwelapha, kungenzeka ukuthi kufake izinhlobo ezahlukene zokwelapha, ezinikezwe abasebenzi abaqeqeshwe, futhi isikhathi sakho esibucayi lapho ufika ekhaya sizosiza ukugcwalisa noma yiziphi izikhala.
Indlela Yokucabangela Ngokushiya Umsebenzi Wokunakekela Izingane Ezizimele
Kubazali abahlangene, ukukhetha kuyinkimbinkimbi.
Ezimweni eziningi, ucabanga ukuthi uzimisele ukuzidela, kungenzeka ukuthi umzali oyedwa angashiye umsebenzi wakhe ukuze anakekele ingane ye-autistic okusho ukuthi kunesinqumo sokwenziwa.
Uma ungumuntu, kungenzeka ukuthi uzizwa ucindezeleke kakhulu ukuyeka umsebenzi wakho ukuze utholakale nengane yakho nge-autism.
Nokho, lokho akusho ukuthi lo mqondo awunqamuli ingqondo yakho. Kwezinye izimo, ikakhulu lapho uMama ehola ngaphezulu noma enomsebenzi ngezinzuzo, eba yi-autism yesikhathi esigcwele Ubaba angase abe yinto engokoqobo futhi enengqondo.
Uma ungowesifazane (futhi ingxenye yombhangqwana), amathuba ukuthi uzizwa ucindezeleke ngokwengeziwe ukuze ube ngumama ogcwele izidingo ezikhethekile. Phela, omama abaningi bayeka imisebenzi yabo ukuze bathole izingane zabo ezijwayelekile, futhi ingane yakho idinga okungaphezulu kakhulu kwezingane ezijwayelekile.
Wenza kanjani leso sinqumo? Nazi izici ezimbalwa okufanele uzicabangele:
- Ungayithola ngempela? Uma ushiya umsebenzi wakho kusasa, ingabe umholo womlingani wakho ukhokhela impilo oholayo? Uma kungenjalo, ingabe kunezinye izindlela ezizenzekelayo, ezikhululekile ezizosebenza kahle kuwe (ukwabelana isikhala, ukunciphisa izindleko, njll)? Uma impendulo inguye, ungayenzi: ingane yakho ngeke isetshenziswe kahle ngumzali ohlale ekhathazekile ngokuthola izidingo.
- Ingabe ingane yakho idinga ukunakwa kwakho isikhathi esigcwele? Ezinye izingane ezine-autism ziyakwazi ukusebenza ngokuhlelekile ngezilungiselelo ezijwayelekile futhi zidinga ukwelapha okuncane kancane ngaphandle kokuhlelwa kwesikole, kanti ezinye zinokuziphatha okunzima nakakhulu nezidingo.
- Zingakanani izinsizakalo ezisekelwe ezikoleni nasezindaweni ezihlinzekwa nguhulumeni endaweni yakini? Uma uhlala endaweni edolobheni, noma kwezinye izingxenye ezithile zezwe nezwe, ingane yakho izothola ukufinyelela okuzenzakalelayo ku- ABA , ukwelashwa komsebenzi , ukwelashwa ngokomzimba, ukwelashwa kwenkulumo, ukwelashwa kwamakhono omphakathi , kanye / noma ukwesekwa okungafani ngaphandle kwakho, umzali, uchitha isikhathi esiningi esilungiselela noma okwenze kwenzeke. Kwezinye izindawo, kungcono kakhulu kuwe ukukhuthaza, ukukhokha, kanye / noma ukuhlinzeka ngemithi yokwelapha.
- Uzizwa kanjani ngokuba ngumngane wakho wesikhathi esigcwele? Kuhle ukucabanga ukuthi bonke abazali sebekulungele, bazimisele, futhi bayakwazi ukuchitha usuku olunomntwana we-autistic, kodwa iqiniso liwukuthi i-gig enzima. Ngokuqinisekile, abazali abaningi bayakwazi ukuhlinzeka amahora ambalwa okulashwa ekhaya, kodwa amahora angu-12 noma angu-18 ngosuku yisikhathi esiningi. Uma uthola umcabango ukhathaza kunokuba ukhuthaze, wena nomntanakho kungase kusetshenziswe kangcono ngokusebenzisa izinsizakalo zobuchwepheshe. Futhi, uma usebenza, ungabakhokhela.
- Uzizwa kanjani ngokuyeka umsebenzi wakho? Abanye abantu bayayithanda kakhulu umsebenzi wabo kanye nabalingani babo behhovisi lapho abanye beqaphela ngokucophelela ushintsho lomsebenzi. Uma ujabule ngempela emsebenzini, ukushiya inzuzo yomntanakho kungaholela ekuthukutheleni nasekukhungathekeni okuyingxenye yakho okuholela ekuhlangenwe nakho okungalungile kwengane yakho. Ngaphandle kwalokho, lokhu kungase kube nje isizathu sokuthi udalule umsebenzi ongawuthandi!