Uma ucabanga ukuthi kulula ukuba yingane ene-autism, cabanga futhi. Akukhona kuphela ukuthi ubhekene nazo zonke izinselele ezihlobene nesifo esiyinkimbinkimbi yentuthuko, kodwa u-ALSO ubhekene ne-raft of expectations eziphakanyisiwe ezinye izingane ezingasindiswa.
Ufunda lokho kulungile. Iqiniso. Izingane ezine-autism zivame ukulindelwe ukuba ziphathe kangcono, zigxile kangcono, futhi zisebenzisane nezigxobo ezingaphezulu zezenhlalo kunezingane ezingenayo i-autism.
Futhi uma kungabi nemiphumela ingaba nzima. Esikhundleni sokuthola "ukudlula" njengezingane ezijwayelekile zingase zibe ("unezinsuku ezimbi," "unamahloni nje," njll.), Izingane ezine-autism ezingabonakali ngendlela ethi "ezifanele" zingayithola imiphumela noma ukuhanjelwa ngokushesha eklasini "ezikhethekile", amaqembu ezemidlalo ahlukanisiwe, kanti namanje imishanguzo eningi kakhulu.
Yenzani lokhu okulindelekile okulindeleke? Nazi ukuqhathaniswa okumbalwa okungakumangaza.
- Ngokujwayelekile izingane ezikhulayo zivame "ukulutha" kumakhalekhukhwini, iPads, namanye amadivaysi. Lapho bekhulunywe, bangase banikeze izinyembezi ngokushesha kubantu abadala abakuzungezile. Lezi zimiso ezingekho emphakathini ngokuvamile zinikezwa ukudlula, njengoba abadala bebheka ukuthi izikhathi - nokulindela - zishintshile kanjani. Akunjalo izingane ezingxenyeni ze-autism. Uma behluleka ukubheka umuntu omdala noma ohlotsheni emehlweni , banenselele ukwenza kanjalo - futhi bangathola imiphumela njengokulahlekelwa ilungelo uma behluleka ukwenza kanjalo.
- I-label is, ake sibhekane nayo, ubuciko obufa. Abambalwa kakhulu abathuthukayo abantwana bacelwa ukuthi basebenzise ngokuqinile nabantu abadala ngenkathi benza ukuxhumana kwamehlo okuqondile bese bethi imigqa efana "kuhle ukuhlangana nawe." Izingane ezine-autism, kodwa zifundiswa nje lawa makghono asemqoka kakhulu-amakhono awuneminyaka nje kuphela engafaneleki kodwa engabonakali "ekhethekile" phakathi kontanga yabo.
- Izingxoxo phakathi kwabantwana, ikakhulukazi abafana, ngokuvamile ziyisisekelo. Izingane zingasho okungaphezu kokuthi "bheka!" "Cool!" "Ngingazama?" isikhathi eside. Futhi kuhle. Ngaphandle kokuthi izingane zenzeke njenge-autistic. Uma kunjalo, becabanga ukuthi bayamazwi, babuzwa ukuba babuze futhi baphendule imibuzo engalungile nezezingane zonyaka. Yiyiphi iminyaka engu-10 ubudala - ngaphandle kwezingane ezizimele ezitholakala eqenjini lamakhono omphakathi , cishe njalo, ngabesifazane abaneminyaka engama-50 ubudala - kuthiwa "bekungakanani ngempelasonto yakho? Ingabe uke wazijabulisa e-zoo? Yiziphi izilwane ozithandayo kakhulu ? saya kuma-movie. Ngangikujabulela ukubona ifilimu entsha ye-Disney. "
- Iningi lezingane ezikhulayo ziyenamahloni noma ziba nesikhathi esinzima sokufunda ulimi lomzimba kanye nezinkulumo zomphakathi. Uma lokho kwenzeka, abantu abadala bangaqaphela ukuthi ingane inamahloni, futhi ingabe ivumela ukukhetha kwabo noma ikhuthaze kahle ukuxhumana komphakathi. Izingane ezigunyazayo azikho inhlanhla. Okukhethwa kukho okuthulile kanye / noma ukuzodwa akubonakali kubonakala njengento eyithandayo futhi kunalokho kubhekwa njengesifo se-autistic. Ngenxa yalokho, kufanele "ilungiswe" ngokusebenzisa inkambo yokuqeqeshwa kwamakhono omphakathi , izenzakalo zontanga "buddy" kanye nezinye izinhlelo zokwelapha.
- Abaningi abathuthukisa izingane banenkinga yokuziphatha esikoleni. Bangase baphendule izimpendulo kunokuba baphakamise izandla zabo, balahlekelwa ukugxila ngesikhathi sokuhlolwa, noma babe nokwabelana okunzima kosuku noma ukusebenzisana. Uma lokho kwenzeka, ingxenye enkulu, othisha baphendula ngemifushane emfushane ukuze "baphakamise isandla," "badlale kahle," noma "sebenze nomlingani wakho." Izingane ezine-autism, noma kunjalo, zinesilinganiso esibucayi kakhulu ukuhlangabezana nazo. Uma "behlukumeza" noma belahlekelwa ukugxila, bangaphansi kwemiphumela ehlukahlukene engase ihluke ekulahlekelweni kwamalungelo ukuze empeleni badluliselwe esimweni sokuhlukaniswa kwesikole.
- Lapho ingane evamile efika ekhaya futhi ichitha isikhathi yedwa yomoya, abazali bavame ukwamukela. Emva kwakho konke, wonke umuntu udinga isikhathi esincane yedwa - kwesokudla? Uma ingane ene-autism yenza okufanayo, noma kunjalo, abazali bayakhathazeka: ingabe wenza abangane? Ingabe udinga ukwelashwa kwamakhono omphakathi? Kunethuba elihle lokuthi isikhathi esedwa ngeke sibekezeleleke.