Izinzuzo kanye Nokuqeda Ukuba Nomunye Ingane
Uhlale uhlela ukuba nezingane eziningana. Khona-ke ingane yakho yokuqala yatholakala ukuthi i-autism, futhi uye wazikhandla ukuze uvumelane nakho konke okutholakala khona. Ukuphila ne-autistic ingane kunzima kunalokho okwakulindele, kodwa futhi kuza nezinjabulo zayo. Manje yisikhathi sokubuza umbuzo othi "kufanele siphinde sikhulelwe?"
Umbuzo Onzima Okufanele Uwacabangele
Lo mbuzo uwukuthi kuphela oqondene nemindeni ezwa ukhululekile ngokulawulwa kokuzalwa.
Kodwa kulawo mindeni, umbuzo uyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu. Abacwaningi bayavuma ukuthi imibhangqwana enezingane ezilodwa ze-autistic inomngcipheko owengeziwe wokuba nengane yesibili ene-disorder , nakuba izinga eliqondile lezingozi lingabonakala. Lokhu kusho ukuthi uzodinga ukuzizwa ukhululekile nangethuba lokukhulisa izingane eziningi ezikhubazekile. Ngaphezu kwalokho, lapho becabanga ngalolu daba, abazali kudingeka bahlole imizwa yabo. Nazi ezinye zezingqinamba ezingase ziphakame uma uthi "yebo" kumntwana wesibili:
- Ungase uzizwe unecala ngokuthi "ukushintsha okufutshane" ingane yabo ye-autistic ngokulandela izidingo zomntwana wesibili;
- Ungase uzizwe ukhathazeke ngekhono labo lokuphatha izidingo zengane yesibili, ikakhulukazi uma leyo ngane ibuye i-autistic;
- Ungase uzizwe ukhathazekile ngokuthi ngabe izimali zakho, amandla, kanye nemithombo yakho siqu kuyokwanela ukuphatha umndeni omkhulu ohlanganisa okungenani ingane eyodwa ekhubazekile;
- Ungase uzizwe unethemba lokuthi kungenzeka ukuthi uzoba nengane okuzohlangenwe nakho kuyosondelana nakwezinye izingane eziseduze nabo;
- Ungase uzizwe unemizwa ehlangene ngomqondo wokuletha umntwana ezweni ukuthi uyazi ukuthi uma ekhula, ekugcineni kufanele athathe okungenani umthwalo wemfanelo kubantwana abakhubazekile.
Umbono wezinqondo
URobert Naseef, Ph.D., noCindy Ariel, Ph.D. ngokukhethekile ekusebenzeni nabazali bezingane abanezidingo ezikhethekile. Nasi iseluleko sabo kubazali njengoba becabanga ukukhulelwa ingane yesibili.
Awunabo wedwa, njengomuntu ngamunye noma njengombhangqwana, lapho ubhekana nezingozi zalokho okubonakala sengathi i-lottery lottery. Ucwaningo lwanje manje luqinisekisa ukuthi ingozi yokuba nomntwana ozobe esekutholwe ukuthi uyisisindo se-autistic sikhulu. Yize lokhu kungelutho lokuthatha kancane, namanje amathuba okuba nengane evamile ayakhulu kakhulu. Lokhu kwenza lokhu kube yisinqumo somuntu siqu esizozilolonga yonke impilo yakho nempilo yomndeni wakho.
Kwenzekani uma unayo ingane engaphezu kweyodwa ku-spectrum? Into eyodwa iqinisekile ukuthi: Lezi zingane zihlukile njengabantu ngabanye ngokwezigaba zabo zokusebenza kanye nobuntu babo. Zibuye zixhunyane kakhulu njengabantwana bakini.
Abanye abazali bayabhekana kahle , kanti abanye bayagxeka ngaphandle kokukwazi kwami ukuchaza ngamazwi. Abanye abazisoli futhi bathande futhi bazise ingane ngayinye njengeyingqayizivele futhi ekhethekile endaweni yonke. Abanye bafisa ukuthi babengakaze bazame ukuba nomunye umntwana futhi bazibuze ukuthi yini okungenzeka yayiyiyo. Kukhona nemibhangqwana engakwazi ukwenza izingqondo zabo kanye nemibhangqwana ehlukaniswe ngokujulile ngale ndaba.
Kukhona nabantu abaningi ababenomntwana ojwayelekile futhi bazizwa "bebanomsha."
Ngalokhu konke engqondweni, kubalulekile ukukhuluma ngokukhululekile nangokwethembeka ngezizathu zakho zokufuna enye ingane nokuthi bazizwa kanjani uma benomunye ingane enezidingo ezikhethekile. Futhi, kubalulekile ukucabangela ukuthi yikuphi uhlobo lokuphila olulindeleke-ukuthi ingane ejwayelekile ingase ibe nayo. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukungaqhubeki umlingani wakho ngendlela eyodwa noma enye ngenkathi uqotho ngokweqiniso ukuthi ucabanga ukuthi uzobhekana kanjani nengane yesibili ene-autism nokuthi ungabhekana kanjani ngaphandle kokuzama ukuba nomntwana wesibili.
Abanye abantu bayancika komunye nomunye noma ngabe bahlala bashadile baqala ukuhlala ukuphila okuhlukene ngokomzwelo.
Enye indlela yokubuka impilo esesimeni sakho ukubeka konke amandla akho okubeletha enganeni onayo. Injabulo nokwaneliseka kungakwenza ujabule impilo yakho yonke uma uvikelekile ngalesi sinqumo wena nomshado wakho. Abanye abantu baya emgwaqweni wokutholwa okungekho ngaphandle kwezingozi. Ngakho unezinto eziningi ongacabanga ngazo. Ngokuqinisekile, ayikho isinqumo esifanele noma esingalungile.
Okubalulekile ukuthi ufika kanjani lapho. Uma ungenakukwazi ukufika esinqumweni osuke ukhululekile ngaso sonke isikhathi, ungase uthande ukucabangela ukubonisana nodokotela wezempilo yengqondo onokuhlangenwe nakho okusiza abantu ukuxazulula lezi zinkinga. Ukuba nomntwana onesifo sokukhubazeka njengo-autism ngokuqinisekile kufundisa ukuthi kuncane kangakanani esikulawulayo. Lokho esikuphetheyo yizinqumo esingazenza uma senza kanjalo ngengqondo evulekile necacile.
Izwi kusuka
Uma unayo ingane yesibili yengane, ekugcineni uzohlala nezinkinga zokuba nezingane zakubo ezingahlali ngendlela efanayo nezinye izingane. Kodwa lokho akuyona into embi. Izingane eziningi ezinezingane zakithi ezinezidingo ezikhethekile zihlakulela ukuvuthwa nokubekezelelana okungabonakali kaningi emphakathini jikelele. Ukuba nezingane zakubo kule ndawo kungase kube isibusiso esingaphezu kwesiqalekiso.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yisiphi isinqumo osenzayo, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi awunesibopho kunoma ubani ngaphandle kwakho nabantwana bakho. Akube umkhulu, umngane wakho omkhulu, noma udade wakho unelungelo lokwenza isinqumo kuwe.
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