Amathiphu ayisithupha okubhekana nokulahlekelwa ngesikhathi seHholide
Noma ubani obhekana nokugula, usizi, noma ukulahlekelwa othandekayo, amaholidi angase abe yisikhathi sokudabuka, ubuhlungu, intukuthelo noma ukwesaba. Kungaba nzima ukubhekana nalokhu, ikakhulu uma ubona izinto nemisindo yeholidini injabulo nxazonke.
Ukuhlukumeza nokudabuka kungabangela ukukhunjulwa ngamagagasi ezinkumbulo, ikakhulukazi phakathi noSuku Luka-Valentine, i-Thanksgiving, neKhisimusi.
Ukudabuka kungakhulisa nokucindezeleka okuvame ukuyingxenye yamaholide. Ungaqala kanjani ukugcwalisa ukungabi nalutho ozizwayo lapho kubonakala sengathi wonke umuntu ugcwala injabulo? Kunezinyathelo ezimbalwa ongazisebenzisela ukukusiza ukuthi uqhubeke ngalesi sikhathi.
Zinikeze Wena Ngomunye Umusa
Enye yezinto ezinhle kakhulu ongayenza uzinike imvume yokuzizwa noma ngabe uyini. Zama ukungabi yisisulu senkolelo yokuthi kufanele uzizwe ngendlela ethile noma wenze izinto ezithile ukuze wenze iholidi "livamile." Uma uzizwa udabukile, vumela izinyembezi zize; uma uzizwa uthukuthele, vumela ukuba ushaye isivini.
Yiba nomusa kuwe
Kubalulekile ukuthi uthola konke okunye nokudla okudingayo bese uzama ukuthi ungathathi okungaphezu kwalokho ongakwenza. Uma udinga ukuba wedwa, khona-ke uhloniphe lokho. Uma ufisa inkampani nokuthandwa kwabanye, funani. Yenza noma yikuphi okukuzwakalayo kuwe ngalesi sikhathi esinzima.
Cela futhi Wamukele Usizo
Isikhathi seholidi akusona isikhathi sokuveza amandla nokuzimela uma usizi. Uzodinga usizo nokusekelwa kwabanye ukuze uphumelele, ngakho ungazizwa sengathi ungumthwalo. Abantu ngokuvamile bathola ukwaneliseka kanye nenjabulo ngokusiza labo abakhathalelayo.
Ngemuva kokufa, abantu bavame ukufisa ukusiza kepha nje abazi ukuthi kanjani. Uma udinga othile ukukusiza ukulungisa ukudla, ukuthenga, noma ukuhlobisa, lesi yisikhathi sokukhuluma nokwenza izidingo zakho ziziwe. Ngokuvamile, bayojabula ukuzwa sengathi bayakusiza ngandlela-thile.
Okufanayo kuyavumelana nezidingo zakho ezingokomzwelo. Abangane namalungu omndeni bangase bazizwe bengakhululekile ukukhuluma ngodaba lwakho. Bangase bacabange ukuthi awufuni ukukhuluma ngakho futhi akafuni ukukhunjulwa ubuhlungu bakho.
I-American Psychological Association (APA) iphawula ukuthi ukungakhulumi ngokufa komunye umuntu kuholela ekusongeni futhi kudangele labo abakhona ukukusekela. Futhi, kuzodingeka utshele abathandekayo bakho indlela engcono kakhulu engakusiza ngayo. Uma ufuna ukukhuluma ngalokho okubhekana nakho, noma nje udinga ihlombe ukukhala, bazise.
Thola ukwesekwa
Ukuhlanganyela imizwa yakho ngokuvamile kuyindlela engcono kakhulu yokuthola ngayo futhi ukuthola abantu ongakhuluma nabo kuzosiza. Abangane nezihlobo bangaba usizo olukhulu ngesikhathi sosizi. Noma kunjalo, bangase babhekane nemizwa yabo noma bajwayiswe emaholide ukuthi abakwazi ukunikeza ukusekela okudingayo.
Enye indlela enhle ukufuna iqembu lokusekela usizi .
Ungasesha ku-intanethi noma uhlole amasonto asendaweni, izikhungo zomphakathi, imizi yomngcwabo, noma i-hospice ukuthola iqembu elikufanele. Amalungu eqembu elisekelayo ngokuvamile enza abangane abagcina bewumthombo wenduduzo nokunakekela iminyaka eminingi ezayo.
Yenza umehluko
Abantu abaningi bathanda ukusiza abanye ngezindlela ezinkulu noma ezincane phakathi nenkathi yeholide. Singahle sishintshe ushintsho lwethu ebhasikisini losizo, sithenge isipho somntwana oswele, noma sinikele enhlanganweni ewuthandayo. Lokhu kungasisiza sizizwe sengathi sinegalelo elihle kakhulu.
Ngokufanayo, ukusiza ukuthuthukisa izimpilo zabanye kungasiza ukugxila ekulahlekelweni kwakho.
Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi ukuzithandela kungaba nzuzo empilweni yethu yengqondo, ikakhulukazi njengoba sikhula.
Cabanga ngokuzithandela ekhaya lokuhlengikaza, esibhedlela, esibhedlela , endaweni yokuhlala yabantwana noma ekhishini. Ungathola futhi indlela yokusiza elinye ilungu lomndeni noma umngane ongayidinga. Noma iyiphi yalezi zinto zingabonisa i-cathartic futhi isize endleleni yokuphulukisa.
Yeka Ukwenza Ukufaniswa
Kulula ukubona abanye abantu noma imindeni bejabulela imikhosi yamaholide bese uqhathanisa nakho kwabo kulokho okuzizwa ngale nkathi enzima. Lokhu kungenza uzizwe ukhulu nakakhulu noma ukuthi ulahlekelwa ngendlela ethile.
Khumbula ukuthi amaholide acindezela abantu abaningi futhi abavame ukuba yimibuthano "yemilingo" ekhonjiswe emakhadini ombukiso, amabhayisikobho, noma kuthelevishini. Zama ukwamukela lokho onakho kunokuqhathanisa nalokho ocabanga ukuthi abanye banakho.
Izwi elivela
Njengoba kunzima njengoba kubonakala, uzosinda emaholidini owodwa. Ngenxa yosizi lwakho, leli holide lingase libe yinto enzima kakhulu. Kodwa-ke, uzothola kuwo futhi uphume kolunye uhlangothi unamandla kunangaphambili. Akudingeki ukuba ujabulele amaholidi noma ngisho nokuziqhenya ukuze ujabulele imikhosi.
Lokho kusho, kuhle futhi ukuba nesikhathi esihle naphezu kokudabuka kwakho. Uma injabulo idlula ngefasitela yakho yokuhlupheka, vumela ukuthi kwenzeke futhi ujabulele. Ngeke wenze umthandi wakho abe ukungabi nabulungisa ngokuzizwa ejabule. Isipho esingcono kunazo zonke ongasinika noma ubani omthandayo siwukuthi uqinisile kuwe futhi uphile impilo yakho ngokugcwele, njengoba nje ulungisa ukulahleka.
Umthombo:
I-American Psychological Association. Usizi: Ukubhekana Nokulahlekelwa Othandekayo Wakho. 2011.
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