Amadoda amaningi agwema ukubhekana nezindaba zabo zezempilo isikhathi eside ngangokunokwenzeka
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukhathazekile ukuthi ubaba wakho ukhathele kakhulu noma ukhungathekile ukuthi ubelokhu ehlambalaza emadolweni amakhulu ngonyaka, ukumqinisekisa ukuthi ukubona udokotela kungaba nzima. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uneminyaka emingaki, kunzima kubazali ukuthatha iseluleko sezokwelapha ezinganeni zabo.
Kodwa, uma ukhathazekile ngempilo kababa wakho, ukuqala ingxoxo kungamkhuthaza ukuba ashintshe imikhuba yakhe, ubone udokotela, noma asebenzise kangcono ukunakekelwa okungcono.
Kuvame Amadoda Ukugwema Udokotela
Uma ukhathazekile ngoba ubaba wakho wenqaba ukubona udokotela, awusiye wedwa. Amadoda amaningi enqaba ukuya emizamweni yonyaka bese ephuza ukwelashwa kwezinkinga isikhathi eside ngangokunokwenzeka.
Ucwaningo olwenziwa ngo-2014 olwenziwa yi-Centers for Disease Control and Prevention lwathola ukuthi amadoda angamatshumi amahlanu angabona udokotela ngaphezu kweminyaka emibili uma kuqhathaniswa nabesifazane. Amadoda futhi angaphezu kwamathathu amathuba okugwema udokotela iminyaka engaphezu kwengu-5.
Amadoda futhi angase aphindwe kabili ukuthi angakaze abone ochwepheshe bezempilo njengomuntu omdala.
Ngokudabukisayo, kuvamile ukuba amadoda afake amandla engeziwe ekugwemeni ihhovisi likadokotela, kunokuba anakekele impilo yabo.
Okwenza Abantu Abafuni Ukubona Udokotela
Ngenkathi ubaba wakho ekwazi ukubhala izizathu eziningana ukuthi kungani engakhathazeki ngempilo yakhe, kunethuba elihle lokumboza amahloni nokwesaba kwakhe.
Ucwaningo lwesizwe olwenziwa uhlelo lwezempilo lwase-Orlando Health lwembula izizathu eziphezulu ngoba amadoda enqabe ukubona udokotela:
- Amaphesenti angu-22 athi asematasa kakhulu ukuhamba
- Amaphesenti angu-21 athi ayesaba ukuthola ukuthi yini engalungile
- Amaphesenti angu-8 athi ayengafuni ukuhlolwa okungahambi kahle (njenge- prostate noma i- rectal )
- Amaphesenti angu-8 esaba ukuthi udokotela uzobuza imibuzo engakhululekile
- Amaphesenti angu-7 athi awafuni ukufika esikalini ukuze abone ukuthi balinganisani
Ngakho-ke ngenkathi ubaba wakho engaphandle angasho okuthile okunjengokuthi, "Akukho mqondo ekuboneni udokotela," empeleni angase azizwe engakhululekile ngokuya aphoyintimenti. Isimo sakhe sengqondo esinenkani singase sibe indlela yakhe yokucubungula ukuhlupheka kwakhe.
Amadoda Akunakwenzeka Kakhulu Ukukhuluma Ngempilo Yabo
Odokotela akuyona into kuphela abagwema ngayo amadoda. Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi iningi labantu ngeke likhulume ngisho nangempilo yabo-hhayi ngisho nabangane babo besilisa.
Ucwaningo olwenziwa ngo-2016 yi-Cleveland Clinic lathola ukuthi amaphesenti angu-53 emadodeni athi awakhulumi ngezindaba zezempilo.
Uma bekhuphula impilo yabo, ngokuvamile kuvame ukuziqhenya ngendlela abathola ngayo ukulimala kwabo. Ngakho-ke ngenkathi umuntu oyedwa engabelana ngemigqa eyatholwa lapho iphrojekthi yokuthuthukisa ikhaya ihamba kahle, omunye angase aziqhayise nge-ankle ephukile ayenze ukukhanya.
Ucwaningo lubuthole ukuthi amaphesenti angu-22 amadoda awakhulumi ngezihloko zezempilo nanoma ubani-kuhlanganise nomlingani wakhe nezingane. Ama-Baby Boomers ayezimele ikakhulukazi, enezingamaphesenti angu-29 kuphela ezithi banabantu abangaphezu kweyodwa abangakhuluma nabo ngezindaba zabo siqu. Izinkulungwane zeminyaka zazivulekile kakhulu, kanti amaphesenti angu-47 athi banabantu abangaphezu kweyodwa abakhuluma ngayo ngempilo yabo.
Ngakho abantu bakhuluma ngani lapho behlangana ndawonye?
Ucwaningo lubuthole ukuthi baningi amathuba okuxoxa ngezenzakalo zamanje, ezemidlalo, nasemsebenzini.
Amacebiso Okukhuluma nobaba Ngempilo Yakhe
Ngaphambi kokuba ungenele engxoxweni nobaba wakho, sebenzisa isikhathi esincane ucabange ngendlela ongcono ngayo ukuya esihlokweni. Yenza kucace ukuthi uvela endaweni yothando nokuthi uphakamisa inkinga ngoba ukhathazekile ngenhlalakahle yakhe. Nazi ezinye iziphakamiso zokukhuluma nobaba mayelana nempilo yakhe:
- Buza uyihlo uma enokukhathazeka. Nakuba kukhona ithuba lokuthi ubaba wakho angaqiniseka ukuthi akafi, kukhona ithuba elingcono kakhulu ukuthi wesaba ukuguga-noma ukufa. Angeke afune ukubhekana nezindaba zakhe zezempilo ngoba kuzomkhumbuza ukuthi umzimba wakhe oguga uqala ukwehla. Kodwa mbuze ukuthi unenkinga ngempilo yakhe bese ubona ukuthi uzimisele ukukhuluma.
- Namathela emaqinisweni. Uma usuqaphele izinguquko empilweni kababa wakho, ngubonise ngobumnene amaqiniso. Yisho into ethi, "Baba, lesi yisikhathi sesibili owile kule nyanga," noma "Ngiyabona ukuthi uthola umoya omncane manje uma uhamba egaraji." Amaqiniso angasiza ukwandisa ukuqaphela kwakhe ukuthi inkinga ikhona. Ungamangali uma ubaba wakho ekwehlisa inkinga noma ezama ukushintsha isihloko.
- Veza imizwa yakho nge "I" izitatimende. Ukuthi, "Awunakekeli," cishe uzobeka uyihlo ekuzivikeleni. Namathela ezitatimendeni "I" ezifana nokuthi, "Ngikhathazekile ngempela ukuthi awubonanga udokotela eminyakeni embalwa."
- Inkinga-ukuxazulula izithiyo nezithiyo. Buza ukuthi yini eme endleleni yokubona udokotela. Angase athi akakwazi ukuthatha isikhathi emsebenzini ukuze afike esimisweni sokuqokwa, noma angasho ukuthi akazi ukuthi angathola kanjani udokotela oyinhloko yokunakekelwa kwe-in-network ngoba uhlelo lwakhe lomshuwalense ludideka kakhulu. Ukunikela ukumsiza inkinga-ukuxazulula lezo zithiyo.
- Funa usizo komunye othandekayo othandekayo. Iningi labababa abatholi izeluleko ezinganeni zabo kahle kakhulu. Ngakho-ke ulungele ukuthola abanye abadala abathembekile abathintekayo, uma kunesidingo. Ubaba wakho angase azimisele kakhulu ukulalela umama wakho, unina, umngane womndeni, noma ilungu lezefundisi. Uma ungeke wenze inqubekela phambili, funa usizo kusuka komunye wabo.
- Thatha kancane. Ungalindeli ukuthi ubaba wakho abuyele esenzweni ngemuva kwengxoxo eyodwa. Amazwi akho angathatha isikhathi ukungena ngaphakathi. Lindela isikhashana ngemva kwengxoxo yakho yokuqala bese ukhulume ngokucophelela ukukhathazeka kwakho ngosuku olwedlule.
- Yamukela ukuthi ubaba wakho uyakwazi ukwenza izinqumo zakhe. Ekugcineni, uyihlo unelungelo lokwenza izinqumo zakhe zokwelashwa. Uma engathandi ukuthola usizo, awukwazi ukumphoqa ukuba abone udokotela, aguqule imikhuba yakhe, noma uthole umbono wesibili.
Amasu okugwema
Kukhona ithuba elihle ukuthi uzozizwa ucindezelekile-futhi ukwesaba kakhulu-lapho ubaba wakho engayinakekeli impilo yakhe. Kodwa ungavumeli imizwelo yakho ithole okuhle kakhulu kuwe.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uzizwa unesiphephelo kangakanani, gwema amasu alandelayo:
- Ukuzala ubaba wakho: Ungamphathe njengokungathi akakwazi. Ukumlinda noma ukuphakamisa izwi lakho kuzolimaza ubuhlobo bakho. Futhi akunakwenzeka ukuthi kumshukumise ukuba ashintshe.
- Ukuzihlanganisa: Ungenzi zonke izingxoxo zakho ngempilo yakhe. Ukumbamba naye ukuya kudokotela noma ukuguqula ukudla kwakhe ngeke kusebenze.
- Ukuhlanganyela engxoxweni evuthayo: Uma imizwelo isebenza phezulu, ungase ugcine usho izinto ongazisho. Uma ingxoxo iqala ukufutheka, yiqede manje. Linda uze nonke nizizwe nizolile ngaphambi kokuba niphinde nixoxe ngale ndaba.
- Ukuthi, "Ngikutshele kanjalo": Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ubaba wakho uthola ukuthi udinga ukuguqula idolo noma udokotela uqinisekisa ukuthi udinga usizo lokuzwa, ungasho ukuthi, "Nginitshela kanjalo." Kunalokho, yenze kucace ukuthi uyajabula wanquma ukuthola usizo.
Okufanele Uyenze Ngezimo Ezibucayi
Uma ukuziphatha kukababa wakho kungekuhle kakhulu, akudingeki ukuthi umnike amandla. Uma futhi enamandla ukuhamba ngaphakathi esitolo ukuthenga ugwayi wakhe, akudingeki ukuba uthenge ngaye. Noma, uma ekucela ukuba uthathe ukudla okusheshayo endleleni yakho, awuphoqelekile ukukwenza.
Kunalokho, yenze kucace ukuthi ngeke uhlanganyele ekunciphiseni kwempilo yakhe. Kungaba ingxoxo enzima ukuba nayo, kepha ingasiza ekumkhuthazeni ukuba ashintshe.
Mane ukhumbule ukuthi ushintsho ngeke kwenzeke ngobusuku bonke. Ubaba wakho kuzodingeka eze esiphethweni sokuthi ufuna ukuzinakekela kangcono ngaphambi kokuba adale ushintsho oluhlala njalo.
> Imithombo
> Izikhungo Zokulawulwa Nokuvimbela Izifo: I- National Health Interview Survey . 2014.
> Clinic yaseCleveland: Ucwaningo lweCleveland Clinic luqinisekisa ukuthi abantu bavame ukukhuluma ngempilo yabo ngomunye nomunye. Agasti 2016.
> I-Orlando Health. "Ucwaningo lubona ukuthi kungani amadoda amaningi egwema ukuvakashelwa odokotela: Odokotela ababili badonsela ogwini-kuya-ogwini ngomyalezo wabantu: Yeka ukwenza izizathu!" ScienceSaily, 9 Juni 2016.