Abazali abaningi banemigomo eqondile yezingane zabo - kanye nemigomo ecacile kakhulu yezingane zabo nge-autism. Ngokuvamile, lezo zinhloso ziqala ngokuthi "Ngifuna ingane yami ijabule." Injabulo, noma kunjalo, kunzima ukulinganisa.
Ingabe usho ukuthi "Ngifuna ingane yami ingabi nomuzwa wokukhathazeka, ukwesaba, noma ukudabuka, nokuthi zonke izifiso ziyaneliseka ngaso leso sikhathi?" Ingabe usho ukuthi "Ngifuna ingane yami ibe nokuphila okufeza izifiso zayo nemigomo yakhe?" Noma ingabe usho ukuthi "Ngifuna ingane yami ibe nempilo engiyibonayo yona?"
Bambalwa abazali abafuna ngempela izingane zabo - ngisho nezingane zabo ezizenzekelayo-ukuba baphile impilo ejabulisayo yokubukela i-TV namazambane amazambane, ehlangene nakho konke okubandakanya ezweni langempela. Kodwa abomama nabesilisa abambalwa banesithakazelo kakhulu emibono yabo yenjabulo kunokuba izifiso zangempela zomntwana noma okuthandayo.
Lokhu kunengqondo ngezinga elithile: izingane ezine-autism zingase zibe nesikhathi esinzima ukucabanga noma ukuveza imibono ethile mayelana nokuthi yini abayifunayo ekuphileni. Ngisho nentsha noma abantu abadala kulesi sikhungo bangase bagxile kakhulu kulo mzuzu kunesikhathi eside. Futhi ukwakha imigomo kudinga ukucabanga okungaqondakali nokuhlela okuphezulu okungenzeka kube okungenangqondo ukulindela.
Kodwa-ke, izinkinga zivela lapho abazali begcwalisa noma yiziphi izikhalazo ngemibono yabo yalokho okufisa, okuthakazelisayo, okukhululekile, noma okukhethayo. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi amathemba namaphupho omuntu omdala we- neurotypical azivami ukufanelana kahle nezingane ezise-autistic, ingane, noma omdala.
Eqinisweni imigomo yabazali ivame ukudala, hhayi ngezingane zabo zangempela ze-autistic, kodwa ngethemba (ngezinye izikhathi elingaqondi kahle) ukuthi ingane yabo ye-autistic izoba ngandlela-thile i-morph ibe umuntu omdala ojwayelekile.
Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, abazali abaningi banethemba futhi baphupha, ingane yabo izongena emigomweni nemindeni yomphakathi - ngaleyo ndlela kwenza umama, ubaba, ugogo, umzukulu nomphakathi bajabule futhi baphumule ngokwengeziwe.
Izinhloso Ezivamile Eziphethwe Abazali Bezingane Ezizimele
Ingabe noma iyiphi yale migomo izwakala kahle?
- "Ngifuna ingane yami ibe neqembu elihle labangane."
- "Ngifuna ingane yami iphile ngokuzimela ."
- "Ngifuna ingane yami ishade futhi ibe nomndeni."
- "Ngifuna ingane yami iphathe futhi icabange ngendlela evamile."
- "Ngifuna ingane yami ibambe umsebenzi omuhle futhi iqhubeke nomsebenzi wayo."
Njengoba kungenzeka ukuphawula, zonke izinhloso ezingenhla - konke okuvame ukuboniswa ngabazali bezingane ezizenzekelayo - zakhiwe ngokuthandwa kwamakhono kanye namakhono adinga amakhono okuxhumana omphakathi aqinile, amakhono okuhlela okuqinile, okukhethwa ukuchitha isikhathi emaqenjini ezenhlalakahle, kanye nesifiso somuntu siqu. Baphinde babe nesifiso sokuthola umlingani ohlala njalo othandana naye futhi (ngokufanele) bakhiqize inzalo.
Abantu abane-autism banamandla amaningi, amakhono, izithakazelo nezifiso eziningi. Kodwa ngenxa yokuthi i-autistic, cishe ayinamandla, amakhono, izithakazelo noma izifiso eziphathelene namaqembu omphakathi noma isifiso sokumjabulisa abanye.
Abantu abaningi abane-autism bakhetha ngokuzikhethela amaqembu. Abanye abantu abane-autism babambisana, kodwa abaningi bathola ukusondelana okujulile ukuze kube nzima.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, umuntu ongavamile onokuzivocavoca othanda ukuzwakalisa futhi afune izingane zakhe noma abazali bakhe.
Imigomo Efanelekayo Ingane Ephethe I-Autism
Ngakho-ke, yimiphi imigomo efanelekayo yengane ene-autism? Njengazo zonke izinto ezihlobene ne-autism spectrum, izimpendulo zizohluka - futhi zizoxhomeka emandleni, izintshisekelo, nezifiso zomntanakho ngamunye.
Iyiphi indlela engcono kakhulu yokuqalisa ngokufaka imigomo, ke? Uma ingane yakho ikhuluma futhi ikwazi ukuxhumana ngezihloko eziyinkimbinkimbi, qala ingxoxo mayelana nokuhlela isikhathi eside. Uma kungenjalo, futhi uma udinga ukusetha ezinye izinjongo ngenjongo yokuhlela ukuguquka , ubukele futhi uhlanganyele nengane.
Uthandani ? Uyini okuhle? Ngabe ukhululekile kakhulu, ukhululekile, futhi uhlanganyela?
Ingane yakho kuphela engakutshela ukuthi yini engcono kakhulu kuye.