Umbuzo: Ingabe Ingane Yami ene-Autism inebahlobo Abaningana?
Ngikhathazekile kakhulu ngoba indodana yami manje eneminyaka engu-10 ubudala inabangane abalinganiselwe kakhulu. Empeleni uthanda ukudlala nomunye umfana owodwa onenkinga. Akubonakali kumkhathaza, kodwa ngikhathazekile kakhulu ukuthi uzobe yedwa kanjani lapho esekhulile. Nginabangane abaningi kanye nabanye babo kusukela esikoleni samabanga.
Angifuni ingane yami ukuba ihlupheke njengoba ngesaba ukuthi uzokwenza, ngisho nakakhulu esikhathini esizayo. Ungangisiza yini ngokukhathazeka kwami kanye nendodana yami?
Impendulo: Kusuka kuDkt. Robert Naseef:
Ukukhathazeka kwakho kuphakamisa ukukhathazeka kwabazali abaningi abazinikezele nabothando. Ukuthi ingane yakho ibonakala ijabule manje isibusiso esingacatshangwa kalula, kodwa kusobala lokho akuyona isiqinisekiso sokujabula kwesikhathi esizayo. Izinkumbulo ezijabulisayo zobuntwana bakho nazo ziyinto enhle. Sifuna izingane zethu zibe nokuhlangenwe nakho okujabulisayo okufana neyethu futhi sifuna ukuzivikela kwezinye izigameko ezibuhlungu. Ngalo mqondo, sinomunye owodwa esikhathini esidlule (emindenini esiyitholile), futhi unyawo olulodwa okwamanje, kumndeni esiwudalile.
Ukuxilongwa kwe-autism kubhekene nobunzima ekukhulumisaneni nasekukhulumisaneni, okuthinta lokho okulindeleke kubazali ngezingane zabo. Lokhu akusho ukuthi ingane ayikwazi ukukhuluma nokuxhumana, kodwa kusho ukuthi impilo izohluka kakhulu kunalindelekile.
Ngokungangabazeki isimo somntanakho siye saba yinselele kumndeni wakho. Ngifuna ukunaka inkulumo ethi, "Ungasizi Ukusizwa" nguJim Sinclair. Lo muntu omdala one-autism usiza abazali ukuba balungise lezi zindaba ezibalulekile. Njengoba ebeka, "I-Autism iyindlela yokuba khona. Yande kakhulu; ibalaza konke okuhlangenwe nakho, konke ukuzwa, ukuqonda, umcabango, imizwelo, nokuhlangana, zonke izici zokuba khona.
Akunakwenzeka ukuhlukanisa i-autism kusuka kumuntu - futhi uma kungenzeka, umuntu obengashiyile ngeke abe umuntu ofanayo owaqala naye. "
Ubuhlobo bungenye yalezi zinto ezihlukile. Ukuthi indodana yakho inomngane othanda ukuhlala nayo kufanele igubha. Akumangalisi ukuthi angase afane ngokufanayo nomoya wothando - enye ingane enokuhlukana. Lokhu akufanele ukwehlise noma uphike imizwa yakho. Kubalulekile ukwamukela ukusabela kwakho ngokomzwelo ekuhlukeni kwengane yakho, kuhlanganise nokukhathazeka kwakho ngenjabulo yakhe yesikhathi esizayo. Ukwamukela ukukhathazeka kwakho, ukuwaqaphela, ukuwahlonipha, nokuwavumela ukuba bahlanze phezu kwakho kuyindlela engcono kakhulu yokuzisiza wena kanye nendodana yakho ukuba ujabule futhi ibe yinto engaba nayo. Lokho engicabanga ukuthi sinakho ukulawulwa kunakho konke lokhu: ubuhlobo bethu nengane yethu enenselele yokuphila, ohluke kakhulu, nokuthi ubani omuhle futhi othandekayo nsuku zonke.
Kusuka kuDkt. Cindy Ariel:
Sonke sifuna okungcono kunazo zonke izingane zethu futhi sivame ukuqhathanisa izimpilo zabo neyethu kuzo zonke izigaba. Ngezindlela eziningi, lokhu kusisiza ukuba siwaxhumane nabo futhi sisize futhi sibaqondise njengoba bekhula. Kodwa ngezinye izindlela, kusikhuthaza ukuba senze ezinye zezinkinga zethu kubantwana bethu futhi sibaphathe njengokungathi sizithanda.
Izingane zethu zinjengathi ngezindlela eziningi, kodwa asizona thina .
Kunzima ukufunda ukuhlukanisa izingane zethu kithi. Ikakhulukazi, njengomama, siye sabona ukuxhumeka ngokweqile kwezinto eziphilayo njengoba izingane zethu ngokweqiniso zingaphakathi kwemizi yethu futhi zathinteka kithi; sake sahlanganyela ngisho nomzila wabo wokuphila we-oxygen negazi. Siyazi ukuthi basuke babe yingxenye enkulu kakhulu kithi, kodwa nokho kumele sifunde ukuhlukana nathi futhi siwaqonde njengabantu ngabanye manje abasinda futhi bekhula ngokwabo, ngosizo olulinganiselwe kithi.
Uzwakala njengomuntu onomphakathi. Kuyinto emnandi ukuthi ujabulela abantu kakhulu futhi uyakwazi ukugcina ubungane obunjalo besikhathi eside.
Ngiyaqiniseka ukuthi lokhu kukusizile ngezindlela eziningi kulo lonke impilo yakho. Indodana yakho kungenzeka ingabi njengenhlalo njengoba ukhona. Iqiniso lokuthi unabangane nhlobo kuyinto enhle. Abantu abaningi baphambanise nabangane abayisodwa kuphela noma ababili futhi bazizwa bekhululekile ukuhlala ngale ndlela.
Izingane eziningi eziseqophelweni eliphezulu ziphelela kwezinye izingane ezingase zihluke futhi ziqonde ukuthi zihluke kanjani ukuba zihluke; ngezinye izikhathi bathola ubudlelwane phakathi nokuhluka kwabo futhi kuyaduduza futhi bakhululekile kubo. Akuzwanga sengathi ingane yakho ihlupheka ngendlela ongase ube ngayo uma ungenabo abangane abaningi kangaka. Ungamkhuthaza futhi amathuba okuba abe khona futhi ahlanganyele nabanye kanye nezinga lakhe lokududuza ezungeze abanye lingancipha kancane kancane. Kodwa ukumxosha kungamenza azizwe engakhululekile.
Ingxenye ebalulekile yokukhula okunempilo yikhono lokuthanda nokuthandwa. Ayikho indinganiso yokuthi bangaki abantu okufanele uyithande noma bathande. Zama ukungakhathazeki ngokungabangani bakhe ngaphandle uma ehlanganyela nawe ukuthi kuyabuhlungu kuye. Ukumsiza ngobuhlobo obukhethekile bakhe kungamsiza ukuba azivulele ngokwengeziwe futhi ekugcineni angathinta ezinye ubudlelwane. Indodana yakho inenhlanhla yokuba nawe eceleni kwayo , ngokusobala uyamthanda.
URobert Naseef, Ph.D., noCindy Ariel, i-Ph.D., bangabalingisi be-"Amazwi avela ku-Spectrum: Abazali, Ugogo nomkhulu, Abantakwethu, Abantu abane-Autism, nabasebenzi Ababelana Ngokuhlakanipha Kwabo" (2006). Ewebhu ku-http: //www.alternativechoices.com.