Ungacabanga ukuthi abazali bezingane abane- autism spectrum disorder babeba abangane nabalingani abasheshayo. Phela, banokuningi okufanayo. Ukukhulisa ingane nge-autism kungaba nzima futhi kudideke, futhi ubani ozoqonda ukuthi kungcono kunomzali wengane enye ene-autism?
Yiqiniso kuyiqiniso ukuthi kunezigaba ezisekela ngokumangalisayo abazali be-autism ngaphandle, iqiniso lokuthi abazali be-autism abahlali bebona njalo umhlaba ngendlela efanayo.
Njengoba nje abantu abasendaweni ehlukene behluke kakhulu komunye nomunye, kunjalo nabazali babo. Eqinisweni, abazali bezingane (kanye nabantu abadala) e-spectrum bangaba yizibhamu zomgwaqo komunye nomunye.
Kwenzeka kanjani lokho? Nazi ezimbalwa zezizathu ezibaluleke kakhulu.
1. Yonke i-Autistic Child iyingqayizivele.
Cabanga ngesimo lapho omama ababili be-autistic abaneminyaka engu-10 bekhuthaza izingane zabo esifundeni esifanayo esikoleni. Kodwa ngenkathi omunye wabafana esebenza ngokuphezulu , ekwazi ukuphatha izifundiswa ezijwayelekile, kodwa unenkinga ngokuxhumana komphakathi, omunye umfana akayiwo amazwi futhi unezinselelo ezinkulu zokuzwa.
Umama # 1 waqala ngokumemezela kwakhe kuqala futhi wakwazi ukusebenza nesifunda ukusetha ekilasini elikhulu le-autism kanye nezinsizakalo ezifanele zendodana yakhe. Umama # 2, owaqala kancane kancane, ubhekene neqiniso lokuthi kukhona ikamelo elisha lokusekela i-autism esikoleni esinamakhono ambalwa indodana yakhe ayidinga - kanti isifunda sesikole sithi "kuyoba kuhle . "
Umama # 1 ujabule ngalokho akusizile ukudala, futhi akafuni ushintsho olwenziwe; Umama # 2 ukhuthaza izinguquko ezibalulekile kwisakhiwo futhi usekela "ekilasini le-autism."
Abazali Baba Philosophies Ehlukene Mayelana Ne-Autism.
Ubaba # 1 unomntwana one-autism elinganisiwe. Ubhekene nobunzima bokuxhumana nendodana ethola "imidlalo", ayikwazi ukunamathela emithethweni ye-Boy Scouts, futhi ibonakala ingenaso isithakazelo ekuxhumaneni nontanga yakhe efanayo.
Uqhutshwa isifiso sokusiza indodana yakhe ukuba ifunde amakhono adinga ukuhambisana nawo ontanga.
Ubaba # 2 unomntwana onenkinga efanayo - kodwa kuye, akuyona into enkulu. "Kuthiwani uma izingane zethu zihlukile?" uyabuza, "sidinga ukusekela izingane zethu njengoba zikhona, futhi ungazami ukuzenza zibe ngabantu abangaba khona."
Ubaba # 1 ufuna ubaba # 2 amsekele njengoba ezama ukufundisa indodana yakhe izisekelo zebhola lebhola . Ubaba # 2 unesithakazelo esincane noma asikho futhi angase avuselele ukudala imizwa emibi njengoba ebuza ubaba # 1 ukungabi nozwela ngendodana yakhe.
3. Abazali Banenjongo Ehlukile Yezingane Zabo.
Ingabe kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ingane ene-autism ikwazi ukukhululeka esikhalweni se-autism-friendly, noma ukufunda ukuphatha imvelo enobumbano obunzima? Kungcono ukugxila ekutholeni ukwelashwa kwe-autism yengane yakho noma ukugxila ekusizeni ingane yakho ukuba iphile kahle nezinselele zayo? Izinhloso ezehlukene kusho ukuthi abazali banemibono ehlukene mayelana nalokho okubalulekile ekuhlelweni kwesikole noma emphakathini, futhi bangase babe nemibono ehluke kakhulu mayelana nendlela yokubeletha ingane kumbono.
4. Abazali Bamukela futhi Bakhuthaze Imibono Ehlukile Mayelana Nezokwelapha Nezizathu Ze-Autism.
Umzali A uqinisekile ukuthi i-autism yengane yakhe ibangelwa yimigomo.
Umzali B unomuzwa wokuthi inkolelo yinto engenamaphutha amaningi.
Umzali A uzinikezelwe ukwelashwa okuthile futhi ukholelwa ukuthi bonke abazali kufanele balandele isibonelo sakhe. Ukwenza umgomo wakhe wokufinyelela kuwo wonke umzali wengane ye-autistic ukuze ashumayele indlela yakhe ekhethiwe ekwelapheni kwe-autism - ngisho nalapho ethi: "Anginaso isithakazelo."
Lezi zinhlobo zezindlela zonke noma ezingenalutho zingakha ukuphikisa kwangempela.
Uma uzithola ukhungathekile ngabazali be-autism ohlangana nabo, awusiye wedwa. Ngenhlanhla, kuvame ukutholakala iqembu eligxila ohlobo oluthile lwe-autism, ukwelashwa, noma ifilosofi - ngakho-ke ungathola iqembu elungile umzila wakho.