Uyazi kakade izindaba ezimbi: umzukulu wakho ophelele une- diagnosis ye- autism . Kodwa kunezindaba ezinhle futhi: njengo-grandparent wengane ene-autism, unethuba lokudlala indima ebalulekile ekusizeni ingane yakho endala nomzukulu wakho basinde futhi baphumelele ngenselele engalindelekile. Ungase futhi kusimangale lapho ufunda ukuthi ukuba "i-autism grandparent ephelele" akuyona into enzima kakhulu njengoba kuzwakala.
Gwema ukushaywa icala
Yebo, kungenzeka ukuthi ubonile indodakazi yakho ishaya umzukulu wakho phansi phambi kwe-TV ngesinye isikhathi, noma uthatha isinqumo sokushiya induku futhi uvumele ukushayisana okuningi. Kodwa zonke izicucu zocwaningo zenze kucacile ukuthi i-autism AKAZI (futhi ayizange ibe) umphumela wezitayela zokubazali ezingabaza . Ngokusobala, uma ucabanga ukuthi umzukulu wakho usesengozini uzodinga ukungena futhi wenze izinsolo. Kodwa kungakapheli inkinga enkulu, gxilisa isifiso sakho sokubeka icala kubazali bomzukulu bakho.
Lalela
Ingane yakho ekhulile iyobe ithola ulwazi oluthe xaxa mayelana ne-autism kusuka kuzo zonke iziqondiso - odokotela, othisha, abahlinzeki, abangani, kanye nomakhelwane. Njengomkhulu, akuwona umsebenzi wakho ukwengeza ngaphezulu kwi-cacophony. Kunalokho, sebenzisa amakhono akho okulalela asebenzayo. Vumela ingane yakho nomlingani wakhe ukuthi bakutshele ukuthi kwenzekani, kuyini inselele, yini ephazamisayo, okusebenzayo, nokuthi yini engekho. Buza imibuzo, usize ukucacisa ukucabanga, kodwa yenza okusemandleni akho ukugwema ukungena ngemvume ngolwazi oluthe xaxa, iseluleko noma imibono.
Kunalokho, sebenzisa amakhono akho okulalela asebenzayo. Vumela ingane yakho nomlingani wakhe ukuthi bakutshele ukuthi kwenzekani, kuyini inselele, yini ephazamisayo, okusebenzayo, nokuthi yini engekho. Buza imibuzo, usize ukucacisa ukucabanga, kodwa yenza okusemandleni akho ukugwema ukungena ngemvume ngolwazi oluthe xaxa, iseluleko noma imibono.
URuthe Nemzoff, umbhali nesiphakamiso sokuthi Ungabambi ulimi lwakho: Indlela Yokugqugquzela Ubudlelwane Obuzuzayo Nezingane Zakho Ezikhulu uthi: "Ugogo akafanele akwehlise ukukhathazeka kwengane omdala, kodwa kufanele asekele."
Thola Ukukhathazeka Kwakho Ngezidingo Ezikhethekile.
Iningi labantu abaneminyaka yobudala ekhulile lakhula ngesikhathi lapho izingane "ezikhethekile" zihlukaniswa khona kude nezwe elivamile ngangokunokwenzeka. Ungase futhi ukhulile ngomqondo wokuthi izinselele ezingqondweni nezentuthuko ziyihlazo. Ukuze usize ingane yakho endala futhi uhlanganyele nomzukulu wakho, kuzodingeka uzuze. Lokhu kungase kusho umsebenzi othile womzwelo kuwe, kodwa kuwufanelekile umzamo: awukwazi ukuba umkhulu omuhle kumntwana onamahloni ngawo!
Yazi Amandla Okuba Nomzukulu Wakho
Enye yezinto ezinzima kunazo zonke mayelana nokubeletha ingane ene-autism yiqiniso lokuthi abantu abaningi bayombona "njengezimpahla ezilimele." Izikole, abahlengikazi, nodokotela bonke bagxila ezinselele kunokuba babe namandla. Njengomkhulu, unelungelo lokuthola umzukulu wakho njengomuntu. Cabanga ukuthi nguyena othola ithalenta elifihlekile lomzukulu wakho wokudweba, ukucula, noma izibalo - umuntu oyedwa oqaphela empeleni kuqala, futhi ubeka izinselelo eceleni.
Funda i-Lot, Yabelana nge-Little
Kukhona njalo okunye okungaziwa nge-autism, futhi ungakwazi ukunikela kalula nsuku zonke nobusuku ku-TV, umsakazo, izincwadi, amawebhusayithi, ama-podcasts, nama-athikili mayelana ne-autism. Khona-ke, ungabonisa endlini yakho ingane nge-ream yephepha ngosuku ngalunye. Njengoba kungenzeka ucabanga, noma kunjalo, wonke lawo maphepha angase aqhubekele phansi ekugcineni kwezinyoni. Esikhundleni sokuhlanganyela i-autism yakamuva tidbit kusukela "Izindaba Zasekuseni," amathambo emithonjeni yokwelapha umzukulu wakho uyakwamukela, ufunde okuthile mayelana ne-autism nemfundo - futhi ulungele ngolwazi uma luyadingeka ngempela.
Siza Ukuphatha Umndeni Owandisiwe
Umntanakho omdala unelungelo lokuphatha ngaphandle kokuzama ukubhekana neseluleko "esiwusizo" somfowabo womthetho wakhe, ukukhathazeka komzala wakhe ("Ingabe indodana yami izobamba i-autism ?!"), futhi amazwi akhe omusa kodwa engenamsebenzi ("uzoba kuhle, umnike isikhathi! ").
Njengoba ungakwenza, hamba phambili kusengaphambili ngemithetho nemibono yokuhlangana komndeni okuzosiza ukubhebhethekisa umgwaqo kokubili ingane yakho endala kanye nomzukulu wakho nge-autism. Imithetho efana ne "akukho iseluleko se-autism esivumelekile," futhi "yebo, ingane ene-autism ithola ikamelo layo" kufanele ixazululwe imibuzo ngaphambi kokuba ivuke.
Ukunikeza usizo lwe-Hands-on and Financial
Uma kunezinto ezimbili umzali we-autism adinga, yisikhathi nemali. Isikhathi sokuthatha ikhefu, ukuxhuma kabusha nomlingani wabo nezinye izingane, ukuthenga izinto zokudla, uthole isikhathi sokunquma izinwele, isikhathi esivamile, i-autism yokuphila mahhala. Futhi imali. Imali yokukhokhela izinyathelo zokwelapha, noma ukubuyisela imali engenayo. Imali yokukhokhela izingane ezikhethekile, izinhlelo ezidinga usizo emphakathini, izinyango ezingahlanganiswa nomshuwalense. Unganikela ekunakekeleni umzukulu wakho, noma ungakwazi ukusibekela isitifiketi; ungakwazi ukukhokhela izidingo ezithile noma uhola imali engenayo. Ungakhokha izidingo zomzukulu wakho we-autistic, noma unikeze izingane zakithi "mina nomkhulu" okhethekile . Noma yikuphi okusebenza kahle kuwe kuyoba yisipho esikhulu kumntanakho omdala nomlingani wakhe.
Njengoba ubona, ukubeletha ingane nge-autism kufana nokubeletha noma yimuphi umntwana, noma kunjalo, njengamanothi we-Nemzoff, "ngisho nangaphezulu." Njengoba uthola umzukulu wakho futhi ufunde nge-autism, uzothola amathuba amaningi okuhlanganisa isibopho esiyingqayizivele nesingenakunyakaziswa nengane ekudinga ngempela.