Ubufakazi obuningi manje bubonisa ukuthi ukucindezeleka ngokomzwelo, kwezinhlobo ezithile kanye nabantu abathile, kungandisa ingozi yesifo esingenasifo senhliziyo , futhi kungabangela ngisho nezinkinga ezinkulu zenhliziyo.
Ukukhuluma ngokuziphendukela kwemvelo, ukucindezeleka ngokomzwelo kwakuyisindlela sokuzivikela esasiza ukuba okhokho bethu abakude baphile. Ngesikhathi umkhulu wethu omkhulu, omkhulu, omkhulu (njll) ehamba phezu kwenyuka futhi ngokuzumayo wabona inkemba yezinyosi, ukuphakama kwe-adrenaline kwamlungiselela ukuba alwe noma ukugijima njengoba ebheka izinketho zakhe.
Kodwa ezikhathini zanamuhla, akulwi ukulwa noma ukushayela yiyona ndlela efanelekile, ekuziphenduleni kwezenhlalo ezinhlobonhlobo zezimo ezicindezelayo esizihlangabezane nazo kulezi zinsuku. (Awuyikubalekela noma ukujezisa umphathi wakho ocasulayo, isibonelo, kubhekwa njengelungile.) Kodwa sinezici ezifanayo zofuzo njengabokhokho bethu. Ngenxa yalokho, ukuqhuma okufanayo kwe-adrenaline kuhambisana nezimo ezicindezelayo, kodwa ngeke zisakwazi ukuphethiswa kwisiphetho sayo semvelo. Esikhundleni sokukhulula ukucindezeleka kwethu ngokuzikhandla komzimba, siyaphoqeleka ukuba siyicindezele emazinyo amamatheka bese sithi, "Yebo, Mnu Smithers, ngizojabula ukugibela eToledo kusasa ukubona i-akhawunti ye-Henderson . "
Kubonakala sengathi lezi zinhlobo zokungabikho, ukungena ngaphakathi, ukulwa noma ukushaya indiza uma kwenzeka njalo, kungase kube yingozi emisebenzini yethu yezinhliziyo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kubonakala sengathi lo mkhuba uvame ukuvela kubantu abangakaze bahlele izindlela eziphilile zokuqeda intukuthelo, ukukhungatheka, nokwesaba okubangelwa ukucindezeleka ngokomzwelo esivame ukubhekana nakho ekuphileni kwanamuhla.
Ingabe Ukucindezeleka Kwenhliziyo Kubi?
Akuwona wonke ukucindezeleka ngokomzwelo kubonakala kungalimaza. Kuye kwaqashwa iminyaka eminingi, isibonelo, ukuthi abaphathi abaningi abanezikhundla eziphezulu babonakala bengabonakali nje ukujabulela izikhundla zabo zokupheka kodwa nokuhlala bephilile kuze kube yilapho bekhulile. Ucwaningo lwamuva luye lwafakazela ngalesi simo.
Kubonakala sengathi uhlobo lokucindezeleka ngokomzwelo umuntu okuhlangenwe nakho kubalulekile ekunqumeni imiphumela yalo engenzeka enhliziyweni. Ngokuqhathanisa imiphumela yabantu abanezinhlobo ezahlukene zokucindezeleka okuhlobene nomsebenzi, itholakala ukuthi abantu abanokulawula okuncane kakhulu emsebenzini wabo wendawo yokusebenzela (abalobi kanye nobhala, isibonelo) bahamba kakhulu kunabasebenzi babo. (Empeleni, ama-Bosses ayenamandla okulawula impilo yabo kanye nempilo yabanye. Ngakho-ke, kusengcono ukuba yinkosi.)
Ngakho-ke kubonakala sengathi uhlobo lokucindezeleka oluhambisana nokuzizwa lukhuni, olungenakho ukulawula ukuphela kwakho noma ukukhetha kwakho, yizinhlobonhlobo ezicindezelayo zokucindezeleka ngokomzwelo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, uma ungakwazi ukugcina lo mqondo wokulawula, ukucindezeleka okuhlobene nomsebenzi (nezinye izimo ezicindezelayo) kungaba yinto ejabulisayo kunokuba idonsa amandla.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, iziqephu ezinzima kakhulu zokukhathazeka ngokomzwelo-ukucindezeleka okwethusa umuntu emathanjeni-kungaba yingozi kakhulu, futhi kungabangela ngisho nezimo zenhliziyo eziyingozi. Izibonelo zihlanganisa ukufa komuntu othandekayo, isahlukaniso, ukulahlekelwa umsebenzi, ukuhluleka kwebhizinisi, ukuhlukunyezwa, ukuhlaselwa kwezinhlekelele zemvelo (noma ezenzelwe abantu), noma izinkinga ezinkulu emndenini.
Ingabe Bonke Abantu Bayaphendula Ngendlela Efanayo Ukuze Bakhathazeke Ngokomoya?
Ngokusobala, abantu baphendula ngokuhlukile kuzo zonke izinhlobo zokucindezeleka.
Ngempela, ubufakazi obuningi bubonisa ukuthi kungaba umuntu, kunokucindezeleka uqobo, leyo yinkinga yangempela. Abantu abanomuntu onguhlobo lwe-A (ukuzwela isikhathi, ukubekezela, umqondo ongapheliyo wokuphuthuma, ukuthambekela kokuzondana nentukuthelo, ukuncintisana) basengozini enkulu yokugula kwesifo somugudu kunabantu abanoBuntu B (isiguli, ukhiye ophansi, ukuncintisana, isikhathi esingaqondi). Ngamanye amazwi, uma kunikezwe isimo esifanayo esicindezelayo, abanye bayosabela ngokukhungatheka nangokuthukuthela, ukugijimela kwe-adrenaline kanye nemodi yokulwa noma yezindiza, kanti abanye bayosabela ngendlela engcono nangokwengeziwe.
Yingakho iseluleko esivame ukuzwa odokotela ukuba "ugweme ukucindezeleka" akusizi ngalutho. Akekho ongagwema ukucindezeleka konke ngaphandle kokuphuma ngokuphelele emphakathini futhi abe umonki. Ngaphandle kwalokho, abantu bohlobo lwe-A A persuasion bazodala izimo zabo ezicindezelayo kungakhathaliseki ukuthi zingobani noma ukuthi benzani. Uhambo olulula oluya esitolo luzoba yinkinga yabashayela ababi, izibani zomgwaqo ezingekho kahle, ama-aisles abanzile, amabhalane okuhlola angabhekene nawo, nezikhwama ezincane zokugcoba epulasitiki ezivuthayo kalula, nohlobo lwe-A luzobe luphezu kwamehlo amahora: "Izwe ligcwele izinto ezingenayo i-half-brained incompetents enenjongo kuphela yokuthola indlela yami futhi ichithe isikhathi sami." (Akukaze kubonakale sengathi kwenzeka kithi Uhlobo lwe-A ukuthi isikhathi esisichithayo sihlukumeza isikhathi esinjalo noma yikuphi ukuphuma umabhalane angasikhathaza.)
Uma unalolu hlobo lwe-mindset, bese uhlala umhlalaphansi, ukushintsha imisebenzi, noma ukuthuthela eFlorida cishe ngeke kunciphise kakhulu amazinga akho okucindezeleka-ukucindezeleka kwakho kuzobe sekukhona uma kukhishwa ngaphandle, noma ngabe kufanele uyenze ngokwakho. Ukunciphisa amazinga okucindezeleka kulaba bantu, ke, akudingi ukuqedwa okuphelele kwazo zonke izimo ezicindezelayo (okungenjalo, akunakwenzeka), kodwa ushintsho endleleni yokucindezeleka iphathwa ngayo. Thayipha u-A kufanele ufunde ukuthi ube no-B owengeziwe.
Isifingqo
Nakuba ukucindezeleka ngokomzwelo kuhlobene nesifo senhliziyo, akuzona zonke izingcindezi ezingokomzwelo ezingagwenywa, futhi akuzona zonke "ezimbi." Indlela osabela ngayo ekucindezelekeni kubaluleke kakhulu ekunqumeni ukuthi ingozi engakanani osizwayo nsuku zonke ifaka enhliziyweni yakho.
Funda ukuthi ukucindezeleka ngokomzwelo kungaholela kanjani ezifweni zenhliziyo nokuthi yiziphi izinhlobo zesifo senhliziyo ezingabangela.
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