Iningi labantu lizwile isifaniso sokuqhathaniswa nomdlavuza webele. Uma utholakala ukuthi okwesibili, lowo mzwa wokuthi "awunasiphinde" ungasusa umoya wakho njengendwangu enkulu kunazo zonke ngisho nakuhambo olubi kakhulu. Futhi umdlavuza wesifuba we-metastatic uletha ngisho nakwezinye izimpikiswano.
Lolu hambo luhlukile nangenye indlela. Ngenkathi ungakwazi njalo ukucabanga futhi ulindele ukuphela kokuhamba ngekhanda lomdlavuza wesifuba-sinezindebe eziphunyukayo ezisekhona-ukuphela kohambo akuqinisekisiwe, noma kungacabangi nezifo ze-metastatic.
Akukho lutho olungaqeda imizwelo "engekho" ngaphandle kokusho ukuthi kuvamile ukuzwa ukuthi kunzima manje kulokhu. Kungase kudingeke ukuthi wamukele ukuthi umphakathi, ngisho nabesifazane nabesilisa abanesifo somdlavuza webele esifushane, bangase bangaqapheli ukuthi kuhluke kanjani ukuthi unesifo se-metastatic, kodwa kukhona abantu abakutholayo. Umphakathi wesifo somdlavuza webele we-metastatic uqinile futhi ukhula.
Ukudweba Amandla Akho Ukubhekana Nezokwelapha
Abesifazane abaningi abanezinkulumo zomdlavuza webele we-metastatic eziphindaphindiwe mayelana nokuthi kunzima kanjani ukudonsa ndawonye amandla okulwa empini futhi. Lesi esinye isici sokuthi "asisekho futhi." Nakuba okokuqala ungase uzizwe ulungele ukubhekana nanoma yini-ungathola "uphenyo" ukuze uthathe inselele yokwelapha kalula-manje ungase uzizwe ukhathele.
Ungazihlanganisa kanjani futhi ulungele ukulwa nalawo maseli womhlaza ongenawo futhi?
Kungase kubonakale kunzima kakhulu ekuqaleni, kodwa akudingeki ukuthi uthole indlela yokuziqinisa.
Isinyathelo sokuqala esihle ukuthola abangane abaningana noma amalungu omndeni angakwazi ukukuthola ngenye indlela. Unayo yini abangane abangabehlobo lwe-cheerleading? Umusa ohlala ngaphandle lapho ejabule ngisho nalapho elinye iqembu liwina?
Uma kungenjalo, ingabe unayo iqembu lokusekela umdlavuza wesikhumba se-metastatic? Uma impendulo yakho isabha, hlola umphakathi wokusekela umdlavuza webele we-metastatic. Vumela abanye bakusize ukuletha amandla empini yakho.
Kuyasiza futhi ukuba ube mnene phezu kwakho futhi uzinike isikhathi esithile. Abesifazane abaningi bathi kuthatha isikhathi eside ukulungela ukuthatha umdlavuza futhi, futhi lokho kulungile. Esikhathini esiningi, ngisho nomdlavuza wesifuba we-metastatic, akudingeki uqale ukwelashwa ngosuku otholakala ngayo.
Ukuveza Imizwa Yakho
Siye safunda ukuthi kunezigaba ezilandela ukuhlolwa kwesifo somdlavuza we-metastatic esifana nalabo abonakala ngokufa nokufa: ukuphika, ukuthukuthela, ukuxoxisana, ukucindezeleka, nokwamukelwa. Noma kunjalo akekho umuntu oqhubekayo ngokusebenzisa lezi zigaba ngokulandelana. Kunalokho ungase ubone zonke lezi zibukeka sengathi zihlelekile, ngezinye izikhathi zonke ngosuku olulodwa noma ngisho nehora.
Intukuthelo ivamile. Akulungile ukuthi noma ubani kudingeka abhekane nomdlavuza webele we-metastatic. Kuyinto evamile ukubuza imibuzo yezigidi ukuthi kungani. Eminye yale mibuzo ingase ikhube inhliziyo. "Ngabe kufanele ngabe ngibe nomsakazo?" "Kuthiwani uma ..." Ungase uzizwe sengathi umzimba wakho uhlulekile wena futhi uvumele phansi. Ungase uzwe ukwesaba, hhayi nje ngokwakho, kodwa emndenini wakho.
Ukwabelana Ngezizwa Zakho
Lezi zemizwa zijwayelekile, kodwa awukwazi ukuzenza zodwa. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukukwazi ukuveza lokho ozizwayo, futhi uzihlonipha ngokwenza kanjalo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, iningi lethu sibonile okwenzekayo lapho sibamba imizwelo ngaphakathi. Intukuthelo ibuyele emuva kokunye into ingabangela ukuthukuthela okweqile noma okungahambisani.
Ngeshwa, umphakathi wethu wenze kube nzima kubantu abaningi abanomdlavuza we-metastatic ukuveza ngokugcwele imizwa yabo ecasulayo futhi ephikisanayo. Sifunda imikhosi yabantu ukuthi "banesibindi" futhi "bayithatha konke." Sizwa abantu bethi kufanele uhlale uhle.
Lokhu kwenza abantu abaphila nesifo esingelapheki.
Enye yezinto ezinhle kakhulu ongayenza wena ukukhomba umngane noma ababili ukuthi ubani ongayeka phansi izinwele zakho futhi uphinde uhlasele futhi ubonise konke ozizwayo. Ubani owazi ukuthi ngubani ongenamacala? Ubani owazi ukuthi ubani okhululekile ukulalela nje, futhi azizwa enesidingo sokulungisa izinto ezingenakulungiswa? Thola lowo muntu noma abantu empilweni yakho bese wabelana. Ngomuntu ofanelekile, akusiyo kuphela ukuphulukisa ngokomzwelo nokuzihlonipha ukwenza kanjalo, kodwa kunesibindi kakhulu ukuba yiqiniso.
I-Duckling Ugly ye-Cancer Breast
Ngesikhathi i-ribbon ukunyakaza kwe-ribbon kuye kwaba yinto emangalisayo ekukhuliseni mayelana nokuhlolwa kanye nomdlavuza webele wekusasa, kushiye isithunzi esingabafihla labo abasaphila nezifo ezingelapheki. Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi amaphesenti angu-50 abantu abaqapheli ukuthi umdlavuza webele we-metastatic awuphiki. Lezi zinganekwane nokungaqondi kahle kungaholela ekukhulumeni okulimazayo. "Ngeke ujabule uma usuqedile ngemithi futhi?"
Ngomdlavuza wesifuba we-metastatic ukuzwa ukuthi uyedwa esixukwini kungaba nzima. Imikhosi eminingi yomdlavuza wesifu igcwele abasindile bokuqala. Abantu abanomdlavuza wesifuba we-metastatic baye bakhishwa ngisho nakumaqembu asekela ; kunzima kakhulu kubantu abathile abanezifo zakuqala ukuhlola ukuthi abanye abantu bafa ngesifo.
Asinaso iziphakamiso ezinhle mayelana nokuthi ungabhekana kanjani nalezi zinkinga zokuthi unomdlavuza omubi wesifo somdlavuza webele. Kunezinhlangano eziningana ezizama ukuqwashisa ngomdlavuza webele we-metastatic. Manje kudingeka sigxile emizamweni yethu ekutholeni ukwelashwa ukuphilisa izifo ze-metastatic.
> Imithombo:
> Society of American of Clinical Oncology. I-Cancer.Net. Ukubhekana nomdlavuza weMetastatic. Kubuyekezwe i-01/2016. https://www.cancer.net/coping-with-cancer/managing-emotions/coping-with-metastatic-cancer