Ezinsukwini ezilandela ukuxilongwa komdlavuza womuntu, lo mlingani noma oshade naye uzovotelwa ngokugcwele ekuboneni othandekayo wakhe ngaleyo nkinga. Akuyona into engavamile ukuba imibhangqwana ibuyele kuyo yonke indawo yokuqashwa nodokotela kanye ne- chemotherapy ndawonye, noma ukubona umlingani ophethe imithi, imisebenzi yasendlini, izingane, ukuhlela, ukudla, kanye neminye imisebenzi ngaphandle kokungabaza noma isikhalazo.
Kodwa-ke, emva kwezinyanga noma ngisho neminyaka yokuzinika isikhathi somuntu nomoya njengomlingani nomnakekeli, imizwa yentukuthelo nentukuthelo ingaqala ukungena. Ngokungazelelwe, ukwehlukana ebuhlotsheni buqala ukwakha, okuletha ukungabaza ngokuthi ngabe umshado ungakhona ngempela basinde ukwelashwa komdlavuza.
Njengoba kuphazamiseka njengoba le mizwa ingase ibe, kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi zijwayelekile. Singase singabathandi - bangase basiphathe kabi - kodwa ukusebenza ngokuzizwa ndawonye kukuvumela ukuthi ugcine umshado wakho nobuhlobo bomuntu siqu.
Qondisisa Izizathu Zokwethukuthela
Lapho sibhekene nento enkulu njengokwelashwa komdlali omthandayo, sivame ukuzama ukubamba isimo futhi senze izinto kahle. Sifunda yonke incwadi, sifunde yonke into, futhi senze konke okudingeka sikwenze ukuze sifinyelele ekupheleni komgqa wokugcina: ukutakula.
Kodwa akusebenzi njalo njalo ngaleyo ndlela. Ekugcineni, umdlavuza awunayo inkambo ehleliwe.Kuyoba nezinsuku ezinhle nokubi, futhi ukutakula kungadlulela ngaphezu kwanoma yikuphi okungahle kulindeleke.
Njengoba ubhekene nalezi zingokoqobo, kungaba kuhle ukuzwa ukukhungatheka - ngisho nokufutheka - njengoba ukukhathala ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo kuqala ukuthatha umthamo wabo.
Ezimweni eziningi, le mizwa iyasuswa, okusho ukuthi into yangempela yentukuthelo yakho ayiyona umlingani wakho kodwa umdlavuza womlingani wakho. Abathandekayo bakho bamane banike umdlavuza ubuso kanye negama ongayibonisa futhi uvuse intukuthelo yakho.
Izimbangela Zokuthukuthela Nokufutheka
Imicimbi ethile noma izimo zingabangela lezi zimzwelo, ezinye zazo ongazi futhi nabanye obonakala bengabikho ndawo.
Ezinye zezinto ezivame kakhulu zihlanganisa:
- Uqala ukuzwa isisindo somhlatshelo wakho. Ngaphambi komdlavuza, kungenzeka ukuthi usebenze isikhathi esengeziwe sokulondoloza indlu entsha noma iholidi; manje usebenza ukukhokhela imithi nokwelashwa umshwalense wakho ngeke uhlanganise. Awunawo ukhetho; udinga imali. Kungakabiphi, impilo yakho yomphakathi kanye nomsebenzi iqala ukuhlupheka, futhi imihlatshelo owenza ngokuzumayo ibonakala iphoqelekile futhi inzima kakhulu.
- Unomuzwa wokuthi unemisebenzi eminingi ongayisingatha. Lapho oshade naye egula, uvame ukuphoqeleka ukuthatha imithwalo yemfanelo ongakaze uyenze ngaphambili. Kungenzeka ukuthi uzothola ngokuzumayo umsebenzi wekhaya kanye nomsebenzi wesikhathi esigcwele. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ungaqala ukungabaza ukuthi 'wenza kahle yini. Izinselele ziqala ukungena.
- Oshade naye ulahlekelwe isithakazelo kwezocansi nobudlelwane obuseduze. I- libido ephansi ingaba nomthelela ohlangothini wokwelashwa komdlavuza. Kungabuye kubangelwe ukuzithoba okuphansi ngenxa yokulahlekelwa izinwele, ukulahlekelwa isisindo, nokucindezeleka kwansuku zonke kokugula. Uma ngabe ubulili obuphilile ngaphambi kokwelashwa, kungase kube nzima kuwe ukuba ubaleke esondelene isikhathi eside. Uma uzama ukufihla lo mzwelo, kubiza imizwa.
- Ukucindezeleka kokuba umnakekeli kuye kwaba nzima kakhulu. Ukunakekela izidingo zansuku zonke zomngane wakho kungabangela ukucindezeleka. Ungabaza amakhono akho, unenkinga yokuhlela isikhathi sakho, futhi uzizwe sengathi impilo yakho ayisona eyakho. Ukunakekelwa ngendlala kuyinhlangano ebalulekile ukuthi ngisho nasezimo ezihle kakhulu kungaholela ekunakekelweni komnakekeli .
Amathiphu Okubhekana Nokucindezeleka Lapho Oshade Naye Egula
Okubalulekile yilokhu: noma yikuphi ukufutheka okungenzeka ube nomuzwa kumuntu oshade naye kungenzeka ngenxa yesimo somqondo, ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo ongaphakathi. Ngokuqinisekile, akekho ojabulela ukuzwa le mizwa, kodwa uma ukhululekile futhi uphelelwe amandla, kungenzeka ukuthi uvele uma uthanda noma cha.
Kukhona izinto ezimbalwa ongayenza ukuze ubhekane nalezi zinzwa kangcono:
- Gcina amehlo akho kumklomelo. I-Cancer kungenzeka ukuthi iyingxenye yalokho oshade naye, kodwa ayizichazi. Gxila ezimfanelweni ohlala uthanda ngazo ngesigamu sakho, kungaba ukuhleka, ukumomotheka, noma i-quirk yakho engekho omunye umuntu ongayithola. Lezo zimfanelo zisesekhona.
- Yenza izinhlelo ngekusasa. Khumbuza ukuthi kukhona ikusasa ngemuva komdlavuza. Zama ukwenza izinhlelo nomlingani wakho. Uma ephikisa, yamukela njengento ongayiphindela emuva kwesikhathi. Ungase umangale ukuthi isikhathi sesibili (noma sesithathu), umlingani wakho uzoba khona lapho.
- Xoxa imizwa yakho. Ayikho indlela yokusingatha imizwelo yakho uma uwagwinya. Ukuveza imizwa yakho , kokubili okuhle nokubi, ikuvumela ukuba wabelane ngendlela ozizwa ngayo kunokuba ugxile emcimbini okungenzeka wawushukumisa leyo mizwa. Imizwelo yizinto ongakwazi ukubhekana nazo nokushintsha; izenzakalo nezimo ngokuvamile azikho.
- Funa usizo . Njengomlingani womuntu onomdlavuza, awukwazi ukwenza sengathi uyedwa. Amaqembu asekela, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi bendabuko kanye ne-intanethi, yizindlela ezinhle kakhulu zokuhlanganyela imizwa yakho ngokukhululekile nangenacala. Amalungu abefundisi, abeluleki, nabangane abathembekile nabo bangaphandle. Uma usekelwa ngokwengeziwe, uzohlomele kangcono ukusekela othandekayo wakho.
- Thola usizo ngaphambi kokuthi uludinge. Esikhathini samakethe samanje e-intanethi, kunezindlela eziningi zokuthola usizo ngokupheka, ukuhlanza, ukunakekelwa kwezingane, ukuthenga, kanye neminye imisebenzi oyitholayo. Finyelela kubangani nomndeni, noma uvakashele omakhelwane usizo ngotshani noma ezitolo. Ngokuvamile lokhu kuphazamiseka okuncane okubangela ukucindezeleka okukhulu ngokomzwelo.
- Thatha amakhefu. Ukukhulula ekunakekeleni kubalulekile ekuziphatheni kwakho ngokomzwelo nangokomzimba. Ngisho noma uzizwa unecala ngakho, ukuthatha ikhefu ngezikhathi ezithile kukuvumela ukuthi ubuyele emuva futhi uzuze umbono ukuze uphathe kangcono ukucindezeleka ekhaya. I-ejensi yezempilo yasendaweni yangakini ingasiza ekutholeni abahlinzeki abakwaziyo ukungena phakathi kwehora noma amabili, ukusiza ngemisebenzi yasendlini kanye neminye imisebenzi ngesikhathi uzinika isikhathi sokuvuselela amabhethri akho.