'Ukuxoshwa ekufeni' kuyinkulumo evamile. 'Ungamesabi ukuthi afe,' noma 'lokho okwangesaba ukuthi ngizokufa,' kusetshenziswe njalo izinkulumo. Umqondo wokuthi ukwethuka okungazelelwe kungaba nzima kangangokuthi kungabangela ukufa okusheshayo kuye kwaba izizukulwane.
Ukucabanga ngemuva komqondo wokuthi 'ukwesaba ukufa' kungomqondo wokuthi ukubona okuthile okwethusa kunganciphisa ngokuphelele umuntu, ngokuyisisekelo kubangele impendulo enamandla kunazo zonke yokuphila, okungukuthi ukufa.
Nakuba izwi elithi 'wesaba ukufa' livame ukubhekwa njengento engavamile, abaningi bayazibuza ukuthi kungenzeka ngempela yini. Ake sihlole ukuthi kunezici zesayensi eziqinisekisiwe zokusekela umqondo wokuthi umuntu angesaba ukufa.
Ingabe Kukhona Imibiko Yezincwadi Zabantu Ezihlaselwe Ukufa?
Njengoba kunikezwe umbono wokuthi umuntu angesaba ukufa, futhi izinguquko zomzimba ezaziwayo ezingabangela ukwesaba, kungengqondo ukubuyela ebufakazini besayensi ukuze ubone ukuthi kukhona yini, empeleni, noma iyiphi imibhalo yezokwelapha yabantu abayesabayo ukufa.
Njengoba kuvela akukho cishe imibiko yokufa okungazelelwe okubangelwa ukwesaba, kodwa empeleni kukhona.
Ukufunisisa izincwadi zezokwelapha ezineminyaka engama-30, kunemibiko ekhomba ubuhlobo obuthakathaka phakathi kokukhathazeka kwesikhathi eside kanye nokukhukhumeza kwezinkinga zenhliziyo kakade, kepha ngokuvamile hhayi ngezinga elingalindeleke ukuba lihlasele inhliziyo, ukushaywa noma ukufa.
Imibiko yangempela yabantu ababesaba ukufa ngokweqile nayo iyingqayizivele ngokweqile, ngokuhlanganiswa okuphawulekayo kwemibiko ye-coroner eyafaka ukuthi kufakwe ukufa okubhalwe ku-10 ezindaweni ezikhona zokwesaba okukhulu. Lezi zigameko kuthiwa zibandakanye abantu ababazi izifo zenhliziyo futhi bechazwa njengento eyenzeka ngesikhathi sezehlakalo zobugebengu lapho isisulu esesaba khona, kukholakala ukuthi sishonile ngenxa yokwesaba, hhayi ngenxa yokulimala.
Umonakalo wobunongo kanye nokushaya noma ama- TIA akuvamile ukuhlotshaniswa nokwesaba. Ngakho-ke lapho ukwesaba kuholela ekuphenduleni ngokomzimba, akuvamile ukuthi kunzima kakhulu ukudala ukufa. Ngokuqinisekile, ukwesaba kuvame ukuhambisana nokuhlaselwa kwesibindi, ukuphazamiseka, ukukhathazeka, ukuphefumula okuncane, ukuphefumula, ukuguqulwa kwenhliziyo nokuzizwa kwenhliziyo noma ukushaya inhliziyo, futhi okungajwayelekile, ukufa.
Izwa sengathi i-Scared
Ukuzwa ukwesaba ngokuqinisekile kunomthelela wangempela emzimbeni wakho. Izenzakalo zokungalindelekile zokuphila ezibangelwa ukwesaba okungazelelwe zivusa imizwa engathandeki ngokomzwelo ngenxa yento eyamangalisa, umuzwa wangempela wengozi eseduze, kanye nokungaqiniseki okuyiqiniso ngomphumela wokugcina wezenzakalo ezesabekayo.
Ngaphezu kokusaba okungavumelekile nokungenakulinganiswa, abantu abangenakubalwa bafuna ngamabomu ukuzwa kwesaba ngokuzumayo ngokuzijabulisa okudakayo, ikakhulukazi ngenkathi ye-Halloween.
Futhi-ke kukhona uhlobo lwesithathu lwesipiliyoni esesabekayo, okwenzekayo lapho uhlangana kancane kancane, ehamba kancane kancane, noma ephazamisa ukwesaba okuqhubekayo. Lokhu kungenzeka uma ubhekana nezimo zokuphila ezikhathazayo, njengokumesaba ukulahlekelwa umsebenzi wakho noma ukwesaba ukugula okukhulu.
Ukuhlambalaza Kuphazamisa Umzimba Wakho
Umzimba wakho usabela ekuhlangeneni kokwesaba cishe ngokushesha.
Izimpendulo ze-hormonal zingenza lokho okuvame ukuchazwa njengokuphendula komzimba 'noma empini'. Le mpi yezinto eziphilayo noma impendulo yendiza yokwesaba ingabandakanya izimpendulo ezihlukahlukene zomzimba, ezinye zazo ongazibona ngokucacile, kanti ezinye zazo zingabonakali kakhulu.
Ungase ukhumbule uthola ezinye zalezi zimpendulo zokwesaba okuvamile ngesikhathi sokugcina uzizwa ukwesaba. Uma wesaba, kungenzeka ukuthi uke waphawula ukuthi ukuphefumula kwakho kuba okusheshayo futhi okungajulile, izintende zezandla zakho ziba zibandayo, zibuhlungu futhi zikhukhumele futhi umzimba wakho uphelelwa amandla, ikakhulukazi endaweni engaphansi kwe-underarm.
Eminye, imiphumela engathandeki yokwesaba ifaka umlomo owomile, umbono obheke phansi kanye nomzwa wezimvemvane esiswini sakho.
Ngokuqondene nokuphendula kwengqondo kokwesaba, abantu abaningi bayabheka ukucabanga okukhathazekile lapho besaba. Ukwesaba akubangeli ukukhubazeka kwangempela kobuchopho, ubuthakathaka, ukuphazamiseka noma ukudideka kwangempela, kodwa kunalokho, kuqondisa amandla omzimba ukuze ungakwazi ukugxila. Kukhona njalo imibiko yokudlula noma yokuphelelwa amandla ngenxa yokwesaba, futhi lezi ziqephu azijwayele ukuhambisana nenkinga yezempilo ehlala njalo.
Futhi, kwezinye izimo ezimbi kakhulu, abantu abavele besaba ngokungazelelwe bangase babone ukulahlekelwa okucindezelayo kokulawula kwesibindi noma isisu.
Umuntu owesabayo angase futhi athole ushintsho ekucindezelweni kwegazi, ikakhulukazi ukuphakama komnene kuya ekunciphiseni kwegazi. Ukwesaba kungase kubangele ukushaya kwenhliziyo ngokushesha. Iningi labantu abakwazi ukuzwa noma ukuqonda ukucindezelwa kwegazi okwedlulele, kodwa izinga lokushaya kwenhliziyo elisheshayo lingenza umqondo wokuthi inhliziyo yakho igijime noma inhliziyo yakho ishaya.
Kuzo zonke lezi zindlela zokusabela, ukhathazeka kakhulu, futhi, mhlawumbe imiphumela engokwenyama engokwenyama yokwesaba ingcindezi ephakeme yegazi nokushaya kwenhliziyo okusheshayo. Iningi lokuphendula okwesaba okujwayelekile ngokomzimba akusizi kahle, lihlazo futhi, ngezinye izikhathi ngisho nokucindezeleka ngokomzimba. Umbuzo omkhulu wukuthi ingcindezi ephakeme yegazi kanye nenhliziyo yokugijima ekhishwayo uma umuntu esaba kungabangela umuntu ukuba 'abe nesaba ukufa.'
Imiphumela Ejwayelekile Yokwesaba
Ukwesaba ngenxa yokubukela i-movie esabekayo noma ukuvakashela indlu yokuzijabulisa ehehayo kungase kubangele izinkinga zesikhashana ezinjengezikhathi eziningi ezicabangela ukukhala okungajwayelekile, ukungahlali isikhathi esifushane, ukulala okuphazamisayo okuhlala izinsuku ezimbalwa noma amaphupho amabi. Ngisho nokuhlangenwe nakho okuphawulekayo kokuphila okuvusa ukuzwa ukwesaba akunakwenzeka ukuba kubangele izinkinga ezinkulu zempilo, kodwa kungenza kube nezinkinga ezingokomzwelo zesikhathi eside ezifana nezinkinga ezimbi eziqhubekayo, ukukhathazeka okungapheli, kanye nokucindezeleka okuqhubekayo kokucindezeleka.
Izwi elivela
Umqondo wokwesaba ukufa usuwedlule iminyaka eminingi. Ngenkathi amaqiniso ezokwelapha angase axhumanise ukwesaba okwedlulele futhi ngokuzumayo ngezehlakalo ezinkulu zezokwelapha, imibiko yeqiniso yabantu abesaba ukufa ayitholakali. Lokhu akusho ukuthi izenzakalo ezinjalo azikho. Ngakho-ke, uma ucabanga ukuthi ufuna 'ukujabulela' i-movie eshaqisayo noma ukuvakashela 'endlini engasetshenziswanga,' kungenzeka ukuthi uhle kahle. Kodwa, uma uqala ukuzulazula noma uzizwe ukugijima kwenhliziyo yakho, mhlawumbe kufanele ushintshe indawo, ukuze uphephile.
> Imithombo:
> Ukuxoshwa ekufeni? Isifo sokukhathazeka jikelele kanye nezenzakalo zenhliziyo ezigulini ezinesifo senhliziyo esizinzile: I-Heart and Soul Study. UMartens EJ, de Jonge P, Na B, Cohen BE, Lett H, Whooley MA. I-Arch Gen Psychiatry. 2010 Jul; 67 (7): 750-8
> "Ukudabuka ekufeni" - isifo senhliziyo esibulalayo esibangelwa ukucindezeleka ngokomzwelo, uGips H, Zaitsev K, uHiss J. Harefuah. 2009 Feb; 148 (2): 84-6