Njengomdlavuza womdlavuza wekoloni , kungenzeka ukuthi uchithe amahora ucabanga ukuthi kungani, njengomuntu omdala onempilo ongenayo ingozi eyaziwayo, wakhethwa ukuthuthukisa umdlavuza. Ukungabi nabulungiswa kwalo akukwenzeki futhi kungashintsha ukuphenduka intukuthelo, uma kungashiywa isikhathi, kungakapheli isikhathi.
Kubalulekile ukucacisa ukuthi akuwona wonke umuntu oyozizwa ethukuthele ukuxilongwa. Abantu abaningi banomuzwa wokwesaba, ukuzisola, noma ngisho nomuzwa wecala lapho utshele ukuthi unomdlavuza.
Lezi - kanye nentukuthelo - imizwelo yemvelo kanye evamile empeleni iyinxenye enempilo yokwamukelwa kwakho , ekuqaleni .
Ngemuva kokufunda ukuthi unomdlavuza, ungase ucabange ngokuthi impilo yakho yayiyokwenjani uma ungabhemi, uphuze ngokweqile, noma uthathe ezinye izimo zokuziphatha ezingozi. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ungase ubanjwe ukwesaba ukubuza ukuthi uzosinda kanjani ukwelashwa oluzayo futhi uqhubeke ukondla umndeni wakho. Lena yonke into evamile - futhi evamile - ukukhathazeka. Yingakho izikhungo eziningi zokwelashwa zomdlavuza empeleni zifaka ukwelapha njengengxenye ebalulekile yokwelashwa kwakho.
Ukubuyela ekuthukutheleni, kunezindlela ezinhle zokubamba lo mzwelo, kunokuba uvumele ukubhubhisa ubuhlobo bakho bomuntu siqu futhi ekugcineni, wena.
Hlola imizwelo
Lokhu kungase kuzwakale kuvelele, kodwa kungenzeka ukuthi awuzange uqonde kahle ukuthi yikuphi okukukwenyusa. Uyakhathazeka yini ukuthi wadla ama-saladi esikhundleni sama-cheeseburgers kule minyaka eyishumi edlule futhi kubonakala sengathi akunakulungile ukuthi ikholoni yakho ayikubongi?
Noma, ingabe udangele ukuthi ushiye ukubhema eminyakeni yakho engamashumi amabili futhi ucabanga ukuthi, " Kuningi okuhle okwenzile. Ngangiphelile ngomdlavuza ." Ngokuhlolisisa lokho okuthukuthele ngakho kungakusiza ukuba uqhube phambili futhi udlulele umzwelo. Sihalalisele ngokuziphatha kwakho okunempilo futhi usebenze ekwamukeleni ukuthi izikhathi eziningi, umdlavuza awulungile .
Asisazi ukuthi kungani abantwana bezalwa nalo noma kungani umuntu oneminyaka engu-20 ubudala enempilo ethola khona.
Vumela Abangane Bakho Nomndeni Bazi Lapho Ukhona Ngamazwi
Abaningi abasengozini yomdlavuza bazama ukufaka imizwa mayelana nokuthola ukuthi banomdlavuza . Esikhundleni sokuvikela umndeni nabangani, njengoba kuhloswe, ngokuvamile ugcina ukulimaza ubudlelwane nokuthukuthela okuthukuthele okungahlosiwe ngempela lowo muntu. Kuhle ukuxolisa bese uvumela umngane wakho noma ilungu lomndeni ukuthi azi ukuthi uzizwa kanjani. Ukuqagela kwami ukuthi uyomangala futhi uzoqonda futhi.
Shift Your Priorities
Ngemuva kokuxilongwa komdlavuza, kungenzeka ukuthi lokhu kwenzeka kakade ngokwemvelo, ngaphandle kokuzikhandla okukhulu kuwe. Ukuchitha lezo zikhathi ezengeziwe ebheka umsebenzi wesikole wendodakazi yakho noma ukukhuluma nomngane omdala olahlekile kuthatha ukukhanya okusha lapho uphoqeleka ukukhumbula ukuthi isikhathi sethu lapha sinqunyelwe. Kodwa-ke, uma usebenza ngokucophelela ukuchitha isikhathi esithile usuku ngalunye ukushintsha imizwa yentukuthelo ngokubonga ngalokho onakho, kungasiza ukuvuselela isimo sakho sengqondo.
Cabangela ukululekwa
Cishe ucabanga: Angazi nokuthi ngizokwenza kanjani isikhathi sazo zonke lezi zelashwa. Kungani emhlabeni engingathanda ukusetha ukwelulekwa futhi ngibe nokuqokwa okungaphezu kwalokho?
Impendulo ilula. Uma intukuthelo yakho iqhubekela phambili empilweni yakho futhi awuzange uyidlulile, ingaholela ezinkingeni ezinkulu nakakhulu. Intukuthelo engahlosiwe ingabonakalisa ngokukhathazeka ngokomzimba ukufaka:
- Umfutho wegazi ophezulu
- Ukukhathazeka
- Ukucindezeleka
- Ukubangela ukuziphatha okuyingozi
Ngendlela yokuziphatha engozini Ngikhuluma imisebenzi esingase sihlanganyele kuyo uma singacabangi ngokucacile, njengokuphuza ngokweqile noma ukuzithiba, ukukhetha ukulwa, ukuthukuthela komgwaqo, noma umsebenzi ongacindezelwa ocansini ukuze uvimbele intukuthelo. Uma uzithola uhamba ngalezi zindlela, kuwukuhlakanipha ukuxoxa ngokukhathazeka kwakho nodokotela wakho futhi ukhumbule ukuthi awuhambi ngale ndlela kuphela.
Imithombo:
I-American Cancer Society. (nd). Impembelelo Yomzwelo We-Cancer Diagnosis. Kufinyelelwe ku-intanethi ngomhla ka-29 Agasti 2015.
I-National Cancer Institute. (nd). Ukubhekana nalokhu: Imizwa neCanscer. Ifinyelelwe ku-intanethi ngomhla ka-30 Agasti, 2015.