Kuphuma isizathu sokuthi kungani singase sibe nomuzwa wokuthi "siqine" ngezikhathi ezithile.
Abantu abane-multiple sclerosis (MS) banezimpawu eziningi zomzimba nezomzwelo ezingalimaza ukuxhumana nabantu nokuphila komphakathi okumatasa, kuhlanganise nezinkinga zokuhamba, ukucindezeleka nokukhathala. Kodwa-ke, kunezinkinga ezicashile ezingaphazamisa ikhono lethu lokuhlangana kahle.
Ngikhumbula ngibheka inkulumo mayelana nabantu abane-MS abanenkinga ethile okuthiwa "inkolelo yengqondo" eminyakeni embalwa eyedlule, kodwa ngase ngibanjwa ekubhekaneni nezimpawu zami zomzimba kanye nokuthuthukiswa kokwelapha kanye nohlobo lokukhohlwa mayelana it.
Kodwa-ke, ngonyaka odlule noma emibili, ngiye ngaphawula ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi nginenkinga yokuhlola izizathu zabantu kanye nemizwelo. Ngacabanga ukuthi ngingazihlukanisi nabantu abadala nginamawele amancane, kodwa nginqume ukubuyela emuva emfundweni engqondweni emva kokubambisana okukhulu komphakathi.
Imfundiso yengqondo (ToM) ngokuyinhloko ikhono lokuthola lokho omunye umuntu akuzwayo, ukucabanga nokuthi yiziphi izinhloso zabo. Ukuthola zonke lezi zinto ngokuqondile kudinga ukuthi inani elithile lokucubungula nokucindezeleka ngokomzwelo kwenzeke ngokushesha ngesikhathi sokuxhumana komphakathi. Abaningi bethu abane-MS bayazi ukuthi ukukhubazeka kwengqondo kuyisimo esihle kakhulu futhi kungasenza siphume kancane uma sizama ukwenza izinto ezifana nokukhumbula amagama athile, pheka iresiphi, landela ingxoxo - ngokuyisisekelo, ingasithiza amandla ethu okusebenza "ngokucophelela "ezweni lanamuhla lokubhubhisa ama-media amaningi futhi okuqhubekayo.
Ngokwezifundo ezimbili, kubonakala sengathi lezi "blips" ezincane ezingqondweni zingahle zithinte ikhono lethu lokuxhumana nabanye, futhi.
- Esinye isifundo saseHungary sabonisa ukuthi abantu abane-MS "babenenkinga yokuhumusha izimo zomphakathi nokwenza ngezimo zomphakathi," nakuba bengabonakali izimpawu zokunciphisa ukukhubazeka okukhulu noma ukukhubazeka. Lokhu kulinganiswa ngezivivinyo ukukala izinkulumo ezingezona izisho zomphakathi kanye nemibuzo yemibuzo yokunquma amazinga ozwela.
- Ucwaningo lwase-Australia luphinde lwathola ukuthi abantu abane-MS benza okubi kakhulu ekuhlolweni kwe-ToM kunezilawuli ngaphandle kwe-MS. Abantu abane-MS nabo babonisa ubunzima bokubona imizwelo yobuso yentukuthelo nokwesaba. Abacwaningi bacabanga ukuthi lokhu kuhlotshaniswa nokuhluleka ukusebenza "ekuphatheni okuphezulu" nokusheshisa okusheshayo kokucubungula ulwazi.
Lokhu kuye kwabizwa nangokuthi "ukucutshungulwa kwezenhlalo ezingalungile."
Ngakho, lokho kusishiya kuphi? Kumele ngithi, angiyikho ngempela into edabukisayo ngalokhu. Ichaza izingxoxo eziningi ezingavamile. Kubuye kuqinisekise ukuzibophezela kwami okuqinile ukuba "ube mzuzu" lapho ngikhuluma nabantu. Ngenza umzamo omkhulu wokungena futhi ngilalele ingxoxo engiyihilelekile kuyo, ngicime umsindo wangemuva, ngibheke umuntu lapho bekhuluma, ngibeka umcabango omkhulu emaphethweni ami, ngicela othile ukuba aqinisekise ukuthi ngifunde ngomzwa wabo ( uma nginokungabaza ukuthi ngiyiqonda). Abantu basanda kumtshela ukuthi "ngingumlaleli omuhle," isihloko engingakaze ngiyithole ezinsukwini zami zokuzibandakanya ekuthengeni kwengqondo nokubhala ohlwini ngesikhathi sokuxoxa.
Ngomfanekiso ofanayo, ngiphakamise nomuntu engikhuluma naye nokuthi ngizoxoxa ngani. Lezi zinsuku, wonke umuntu unesikhalazo mayelana nezombangazwe, umnotho, imvelo - uyayisho, abantu bafuna ukuhamba.
Ngikhulume imithetho eqinile mayelana nezinto engingakwazi ukuzibandakanya kuzo, nakuba ngizame ukukwenza ngamazwi alula, amnandi. Ngitholile ukuthi ukukhuluma okufana nokuthi, "O, ngiyesaba ukuthi angizange ngikulandele kahle kakhulu abezindaba. Kungcono kungcono uma usebenzisa isikhathi sakho ngokuhlakanipha kunokuba ukhulume nami ngale ndaba" kubonakala sengathi noma yisiphi isidingo esisheshayo sokuhlanganyela ukubukwa okungenakulinganiswa nami. Eqinisweni, lapho sicabanga, cishe abantu bacabanga nje ukuthi ngiyinqaba.
Funda ngalokho abanye abantu abane-MS abakushoyo ngezinselele zenhlalo kanye nobunzima: Izinselele Zomphakathi Abantu abane-MS: Izindaba zabafundi .
Ukufunda okuqhubekayo ekusebenzeni okungaqondakali:
- Ukukhubazeka kwengqondo njengoba Isibonakaliso se-Multiple Sclerosis
- Amathiphu okubhekana nokukhubazeka kwengqondo ku-Multiple Sclerosis
Imithombo:
Banati M, Sandor J, Mike A, Illes E, Bors L, Feldmann A, Herold R, Illes Z. Ukuhlonishwa Kwezenhlalakahle kanye Nokwakheka Kwengqondo ezigulini ezine-multiple-sclerosis. I-Eur J Neurol. 2009 uNgove 17. [Epub ngaphambi kokuphrinta]
UHenry JD, Phillips LH, Beatty WW, McDonald S, Longley WA, Joscelyne A, Rendell PG. Ubufakazi bokuthi ukulahlekelwa ebusweni kuthinteka ukuqashelwa kanye nenkolelo yengqondo ku-multiple sclerosis. J Int Neuropsychol Soc . 2009 Mar; 15 (2): 277-85.