Uma kufanele utshele umuntu omdala "ungaba yi-autistic?"
Umngane wakho omdala, isihlobo, noma osebenza naye ubonakala sengathi uhlala emphakathini "evulekile," ngokungajwayelekile emidlalweni yokudlala inthanethi, okulinganiselwe kakhulu ekugqokeni nasekukhethweni kokudla. Uye wadluliselwa ukukhushulwa, ukuxoshwa komphakathi noma ngisho nokuxhashazwa.
Kuwe, isizathu salezi zinkinga kubonakala kubonakala: umngane wakho noma isihlobo cishe i-autistic.
Yini okufanele uyenze ngokulandelayo?
Qala Ngokuhlola Ukuqonda kwakho kwe-Autism
Ngaphambi kokwenza noma yini, kubalulekile ukwazi okwengeziwe nge-autism kunalokho okuvame ukwabelwana ngakho kumabezindaba noma phakathi kwabahlobo.
Ukuze ufanele ukuthola i-autism ye-autism-diagnostic diagnosis, umuntu kufanele abe nezimpawu eziningi-futhi lezo zimpawu kumele zibe nzima ngokwanele ukuba zithinte ngokujulile ikhono labo lokuphila impilo evamile. Ngokubaluleke kakhulu, izimpawu kumele zibe khona kusukela ngesikhathi umuntu engumntwana omncane kakhulu.
Uma umngane wakho noma umngane wakho enesimo esisodwa nje se-autism-like, inselelo, inezinselele ezingathinteli impilo yakhe, noma ezithole izinselelo ezithile nje nje, akayena autistic.
Nazi ezinye izinkolelo ezingalungile mayelana nokuthi i-autism ibheka kanjani ngempela:
- Umsebenzi wami osebenza naye uye waba namahloni kakhulu kusukela ehlukanisile. Unabangane abambalwa kuphela . Uma umngane wakho bekungumphakathi futhi MANJE amahloni, i-autism akuyona inkinga. Ngaphezu kwalokho, akubona bonke abantu abane-autism abanamahloni! Abantu abane-autism bangase babe namahloni noma bezenhlalakahle-kodwa kungenzeka bathole ukukhulumisana kwezenhlalo ngokukhohlisayo. Bangase bangathathi ngokuhlekisa, bakhulume ngezihloko "ezifanele", noma bazi ukuthi kufanele bajoyine nini nokuthi nini ukuhamba ingxoxo yangasese.
- Indodana yami endala yaqeda ekolishi futhi ibambe umsebenzi-kodwa lapho ehlala ekhaya, uyathandwa kakhulu yi-inthanethi yokudlala ukuthi akafuni neze ukuphuma endlini. Uma umuntu ephothule ekolishi, ubambe umsebenzi, futhi kwenzeka ukuba athakazelise ukudlala kwe-inthanethi, akunakwenzeka ukuthi u-autistic. Ngenkathi abantu abane-autism bangase babekezelele (ukugxila ngaphezulu) ezintweni ezithakazelisayo, ukubekezelela kuphela akukwanele ukufaneleka ukuxilongwa. Ngaphezu kwalokho, uma inkinga yokukhuthazela intsha, i-autism akuyona inkinga.
- Umfowenu ukhathazekile kakhulu ohlelweni lwekhompyutha, kodwa akakaze athole intombi. Abantu abaningi abane-autism banetalenta yokuhlela, futhi bambalwa abathola kulula ukuxhuma ngokuthandana. Kodwa lokho kungashiwo abaningi, abantu abaningi abangekho i-autistic.
- Udadewethu unemigomo efanayo okufanele ahambe ngayo nsuku zonke . Abantu abane-autism ngokuvamile bakhetha amashejuli avamile ngokuphambene nokuzenzekela. Kodwa isidingo sokuthi, isibonelo, uthinte izinto ngendlela efanayo ukuze unciphise ukukhathazeka, ngokuvamile akuhlobene ne-autism. Uma umuntu obhekene naye engenazo ezinye izimpawu, kungenzeka ukuthi unenkinga efana ne-Obsessive Compulsive Disorder-kodwa akunakwenzeka ukuthi i-autistic.
Yini Okufanele Uyenze Uma Usacabanga Ngomunye Umuntu Ekuphileni Kwakho Kuyi-Autistic?
Ukuqala, ngenkathi umuntu omdala empilweni yakho, eqinisweni, angase ahlolwe nge-autism ephezulu yokusebenza (i-Asperger syndrome), akudingeki neze ukwenza noma yini. Kungenxa yokuthi (1) kunzima ukuthola ochwepheshe onokuhlangenwe nakho ekutholeni abadala abane-autism ephezulu esebenzayo futhi (2) kunezindlela ezimbalwa zokwelashwa ezizenzekelayo kubantu abadala .
Ngaphambi kokusho noma yini, kubalulekile ukuthi kwenziwe ukuhlolwa okusheshayo kokuhlomula.
Zibuze:
- Ingabe yindawo yami ngempela ukusho noma yini? Uma ungumngane oseduze noma isihlobo, impendulo ingase ibe "yebo," ngaphandle kwalokho impendulo cishe "cha."
- Ingabe kuyoba usizo ukusho noma yini? Uma umuntu obhekene nombuzo ubonakala egculiswa nokuphila ahlala kuyo-noma ngabe kunomkhawulo-angeke kube nzuzo ekukhulumeni. Uma yena enesizungu, ekhungathekile, noma ezwa sengathi uyaphathwa kabi, ukuxilongwa kungasiza.
- Kungenzeka kanjani ukuthi lo muntu uphendule? Abanye abantu bayakhululeka ngokuxilongwa, kanti abanye bayathukuthela-kanti abanye bakwenqaba nje ukuthi kungenzeka futhi baphumele esithunywa.
Uma ucabanga ukuthi usondelene nomuntu obhekene naye, kufanele ukwazi ukuphendula le mibuzo ngokufanele futhi ufike esinqumweni.
Uhlobo luni lwezokwelapha olutholakala kumuntu omdala ophethe i-Autism?
Ngokuvamile, abantu abadala abane-autism bathola ukwelashwa ngezibonakaliso ezithile ngokusebenzisa inhlanganisela yokwelashwa kwengqondo (inkulumo), imfundo eqondile yezimo ezithile zomphakathi, kanye nemithi efanelekile. Bangase futhi bakhethe ukufuna usizo kumuntu osebenza umsebenzi wezinkinga ezinengqondo: Abantu abaningi abakubukeli be-autism noma abangaphenduli ngokuzwakalayo, ukukhanya, ubuhlungu nokunye.
Inkambo ephumelela kakhulu yokulandela umuntu omdala we-autistic yilokhu:
- Funa udokotela wezifo zengqondo ongasebenza naye ekukhathazeka kwakhe kwezenhlalakahle nasenhloni (kwezinye izindawo kungase kwenzeke ukuthola umqondo wezifo zengqondo onokuhlangenwe nakho ukusebenza nabantu abadala ku-autism spectrum, kodwa akuyona into ebaluleke kakhulu);
- Cabanga noma yimiphi imithi umhlengikazi angase ayincome;
- Cabanga ukusebenzisa amavidiyo, izincwadi kanye namanye amathuluzi anikeza imfundo eqondile ekusingatheni izimo zenkinga emsebenzini noma emphakathini;
- Cabanga ukuxhuma namaqembu asekela inthanethi kubantu abadala abane-Aspergers nezinkinga ezihlobene.
Imithombo:
UGaus, u-Valerie. Ukwelashwa Okuzicabangela-Ukuziphatha Kwe-Asperger Syndrome Yabantu abadala. Guilford Press, 2007.
Mandy, Roy et al. I-Asperger's syndrome esemdala. I-Dtsch Arztebl Int. 2009 Jan; 106 (5): 59-64. Ishicilelwe ku-inthanethi ngo-2009 Jan 30.