Ungabhekana kanjani nalokhu "okuskena" okucasulayo?
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Kungani Izinkomba Zibangela Ukukhathazeka Kanjalo?
Isizathu sokuthi ukucabanga ukuhlolwa kubangele ukukhathazeka okukhulu kubantu abaye babhekana nomdlavuza kubonakala kahle.
Ngisho nalabo abazibuza ukuthi abanayo yini umdlavuza noma abanalo umdlavuza, ukwesaba umdlavuza kuyajula. Kunezimo ezimbalwa zezokwelapha ezenza lokho kwesaba ezinhliziyweni zethu.
Kungani? Siyazi ukuthi noma ubani angathola umdlavuza - noma ngabe "wenze konke kahle" impilo yakho yonke. Siphinde sazi ukuthi umdlavuza ungahlasela nganoma yisiphi isikhathi noma nini. Ngamanye amazwi, akekho kithi ophephile. Futhi labo asebevele benomdlavuza bazi kahle kakhulu. I-Cancer ayifani nezinye izindawo zokuphila kwethu lapho singakwenza khona uma sizama kanzima, noma sithanda kakhulu, noma senza okuningi. Ungumlingisi omkhulu wabantu ngezindlela eziningi. Azikho izinto eziningi empilweni ezishiya sizizwe sisengozini kakhulu.
Yini Ongayenza Ukuze Ubhekane Nalokho?
Siyazi ukuthi kunezinkathazo zokuba nombukiso, nokuthi yilo mthetho ngaphandle kokuhlukile. Ucwaningo lubuye lusitshele ukuthi alukhathazi ngempela ukuthi yini esiyicabanga ukuthi imiphumela yesikrini sethu sizoba khona. Kungaba khona amaphesenti angu-99 ukuthi kuyoba kuhle noma amaphesenti angu-99 amathuba ukuthi kuzoba izindaba ezimbi.
Ngisho noma amathuba ethu alele ohlangothini oluhle, ubuchopho bethu (nanoma yini eqhubekayo yokukhulula ama-hormone okucindezeleka emizimbeni yethu) kubonakala sengathi ubhalise lezo zinamba.
Ngakho ungabhekana kanjani nokuphumelela?
1. Zizungeze Nabantu "Abathola."
Uma ukhuluma nomuntu ongenayo umdlavuza, bangase babe neziphakamiso ezinhle kakhulu.
"Ungacabangi ngalokhu." "Ukucabanga ngakho ngeke kushintshe noma yini." Hmm. Umngane wami usanda kuphawula ukuthi wayengumchwepheshe wokubeletha - aze abe nezingane. Isifaniso lapha siyakufaneleka kakhulu. Kubonakala sengathi abantu baneziphakamiso ezinhle zokubhekana nokubhekisisa - okuyilapho kudingeka babhekane nokukhathazeka mayelana nezikrini zabo.
Zizungeze nabantu abazitholayo, mhlawumbe ngenxa yokuthi bebekhona lapho, noma ngenxa yokuthi bangomunye wale miyoyo emane nje imingcele yemvelo. Siyazi ukuthi akukho lutho ongakwenza uma ulinde. Siyazi ukuthi ngeke ishintshe umphumela weskena ukuze sikhathazeke ngakho. Kodwa ngokuqinisekile kusiza ukwabelana ngalezo zinto ezikhathazayo nomunye umuntu ngakho akudingeki ukuba uphathe wodwa. Labo abaye baphila nge-scanxiety bayaqaphela ukuthi "ukudalula indlovu ekamelweni" akukwenzi kube khona. Kukhona kakade, futhi ngezinye izikhathi ukuvuma nje ukuba khona kwayo kungase kusize ukuthi inyamalale kancane.
2. Zizungeze Abantu Abahle
Cishe uqaphele indlela umbono wakho wonke ongashintsha ngayo ngokuya kubantu ohlala nabo. Cabanga ngabantu abaphila empilweni yakho abahlala bebonakala bekwazi ukuthola izinsimbi zesiliva. Abantu abakhayo abomane bamamukele ngokumomotheka okhathazekile futhi ungazami ukukulungisa.
Encwadini efanayo, lesi yisikhathi esihle sokuhlala kude nalabo bantu empilweni yakho ababi noma abangenangqondo. Ungaba namalungu omkhaya noma abangane abanjengalokhu futhi unomuzwa wokuthi ukuchitha isikhathi nabo kubalulekile. Kuhle - ngemuva kokuskena kwakho.
3. Vumela Udokotela Wakho Akwazi Ukukhathazeka Kwakho
Ungase ucabange, "duh," Yebo udokotela wami uyazi ukuthi ngikhathazekile. Kusukela kokuchitha isikhathi ezinhlangothini zombili wejazi elimhlophe, noma kunjalo, udokotela wakho kungenzeka mhlawumbe asebenzise isikhumbuzo esifanele. Umqondo "we-wheelquake" usebenza emithi kanye nanoma ikuphi. Ukumane ubeke amazwana owakhathazekile kungase kukhuthaze udokotela wakho ukuba ashiye isimiso sakhe kancane ukuze uthole imiphumela yakho kuwe ngokushesha.
4. Yenza uhlelo endaweni yokuthola imiphumela yakho
Ngisho ngaphambi kokuskena kwakho, yenza uhlelo endaweni ukuze uthole imiphumela yakho. Ingabe udokotela wakho uzokubiza efonini? Qinisekisa ukuthi unenombolo yocingo efanele, nemvume yokushiya umlayezo (noma izotholakala ukubuyela emuva). Ukuba nomtholampilo shayela inombolo yendawo esikhundleni senombolo yocingo - ngisho nalapho usesezibhedlela ngemuva kokuskena kwakho - kwenzeka kakhulu kaningi. Uma ngabe uzokubiza, buza nini.
Uma udokotela wakho ezobe esekunikeza imiphumela yakho ngomuntu, qiniseka ukuthi unakho ukuqokwa okuhleliwe ngaphambi kokuthi uqede ukuskena kwakho. Ungase ufune nokuba necebo endaweni lapho kwenzeka khona isimo esiphuthumayo - isibonelo, uma kwenzeka kube khona i-blizzard noma yini enye. Ngiyazi okungenani umuntu oyedwa owabeka ukuphila kwakhe engozini emigwaqweni eyingozi ukuze aqhubekele ekuqeshweni ukuzwa imiphumela.
Kwezinye izimo, njengemiphumela ye-biopsy, udokotela wakho angathola umphumela wokuqala ngaphambi kokufunda kokugcina. Khuluma naye ngalokhu, nokuthi ngabe ungathanda ukuthi akubize ngisho noma yonke imiphumela yakho ingakapheli.
5. Hlela uhlelo lwakho lokusesha ekuseni
Ngezinye izikhathi kungenza umehluko ukuhlela izikrini zakho ekuseni. Buza ngalokhu uma uhlela ukuskena kwakho.
6. Zibuze, "Iyini Into Ebi Kakhulu Okungenzeka?"
Ungase ukhathazeke ukuzibuza ngento engaba yinto engenzeka uma ulinda imiphumela yokuskena. Ngeke yini lokho kukwenze ukhathazeke kakhudlwana? Ngokuqinisekile ukucabanga ngokubi nakakhulu akuyona indawo ofuna ukuyisebenzisa isikhathi sakho, kodwa abanye abantu bathole ukuthi ukuzibuza lo mbuzo kungancipha. Uma sicabanga ngomphumela omubi ubuchopho bethu buvame ukungena ekufeni. Nakuba imiphumela emibi ingasho ukuthi umdlavuza uyaqhubeka, akusho ukuthi uzobulawa ngokushesha. Thatha umzuzu ukuze ucabange ngomphumela omubi owesabayo, bese ucabangela ukuthi uhlelo lwakho B lungaba yini.
7. Cabanga Ngezikhathi Obe Unayo Ama-Scans Ahle
Uma uke waba nezikrini ezenza uzizwe ukhululiwe esikhathini esidlule, cabanga ngendlela ozizwa ngayo ngaleso sikhathi. Bona ukuthi ungayithola yini enye yale mizwa.
8. Ungayifuni yedwa
Ungazami ukuba yiqhawe, noma uzenze sengathi unamandla, ngokuya kuzikrini zakho kuphela. Letha umngane wakho. Lokhu kungase kube yisikhathi esihle sokuhlela ukuphuma okukhethekile - kusho isidlo sasemuva ngemuva kokuskena kwakho. Yini enye ongayenza ukuze wenze usuku olukhethekile futhi uziphathe? Ngaphezu kokuphazamiseka nokwehlula ukwesaba kwakho, lokhu kungaba yindlela enhle yokugcina uxhumano oluvame ukuqiniswa ngesikhathi sokwelashwa. Noma, ngokuphambene, kungaba ithuba elihle lokuvuselela ubungane obubekwe kwi-burner emuva ngenxa yokwelapha.
Uma kungenzeka ukuthi ungumthandi womuntu obhekene nomdlavuza wesifo samaphaphu, hlola lokho okuthandayo ngempela ukuhlala nomdlavuza ukuze uthole imibono embalwa mayelana nokuthi umngani wakho angazizwa kanjani.
9. Ukuzivocavoca
Cishe noma yisiphi isimo ekuphileni singabhekwa ngendlela engaphezu kweyodwa. Isibonelo, ukulahlekelwa izinwele ngenxa ye-chemotherapy kungabhekwa njengesikhathi esibuhlungu lapho kufanele ugqoke i-headcarf noma isikhathi lapho kungadingeki uhlambe imilenze yakho. Kuhle. Lokhu kuwuxosha kancane. Kodwa nakuba kungathatha ukulula, kungase kudingeke ukuzama ukuzama. Ukusuka ocwaningweni kuze kube yimanje kuzwakala sengathi inkulumo ethi "yenza iphutha kuze kube yilapho usenza" ingasebenza ngempela ukushintsha isimo sethu sengqondo lapho sibhekene nomdlavuza.
10. Yenza isimo sengqondo sokubonga
Uma ngabe uke wagcina iphepha lokubonga ngesikhathi somdlavuza, mhlawumbe uye wacabanga ukuthi kunzima ukuzwa ukubonga nokwesaba ngesikhathi esifanayo (nakuba kungenakwenzeka ...) Ungase ufune ngisho nokubhala uhlu lwabambalwa izinto ozithandayo. Uma unenkinga yokuqalisa, qala ngokumane. "Sinephepha elincane lezindlu zangasese endlini." Futhi hamba lapho.
Ungase ufune ngisho nokubhala ezinye zezindlela umdlavuza oye waba nethonya elihle empilweni yakho. Kuyiqiniso, noma okungenani ucwaningo lwezokwelapha luqala ukusikisela ukuthi liyiqiniso. I-Cancer ingashintsha abantu ngcono ngezindlela ezithile.
11. Phinda i-Mantra
Kungase kuzwakale i-corny ukuphinda i-mantra, kodwa ingasiza ukudonsa abanye abantu ekuphumeni. Zama ukuphinda, "Nginamandla kunama-scans wami," noma into efanayo, futhi ubone ukuthi iyasiza. Noma, uma ukhetha ukuthula, cabangela ukuthandaza noma ukuzindla .
12. Yiba Nomsindo
Wake wake wahleka kuze kube yilapho noma yikuphi oketshezi okwedlayo okuphuma emakhaleni akho? Izifundo zisitshela ukuthi amahlaya ngezinye izikhathi yimithi engcono kakhulu, kodwa asidingi ucwaningo lwezokwelapha ukusitshela lokho. Angizange nginconywe ukuthi i-TP'ing yokugeza yangasese esibhedlela - okuyinto ngesizathu esithile esaphuthumayo engqondweni - kodwa cishe cishe imisebenzi engafanele futhi ejabulisayo futhi ephephile engenza lula isimo sakho.
13. Finyelela Abanye Ngomdlavuza
Uma ngifuna ukukhetha umqondo owodwa wokubhekana nokubhekisana ne-scanxiety kungaba lokhu: finyelela kulabo empilweni yakho abafana nokubhekana nomdlavuza noma okunye okukhathazayo. Akusiyo nje kuphela ukusiza omunye umuntu ukuba asuse izingqondo zethu ekukhathazayo kodwa angathatha isimo esinzima futhi asenze sibe into enhle futhi ehlala njalo.
Imithombo:
Isikhungo se-Can Anderson sika-MD. Izindlela ezingu-10 zokunciphisa ukucindezeleka nokukhathazeka ngesikhathi ukwelashwa komdlavuza https://www.mdanderson.org/publications/cancerwise/2015/02/10-ways-to-ease-stress-and-anxiety-during-cancer-treatment.html
I-National Cancer Society. Ukulungiswa Kwegciwane: Ukukhathazeka Nokucindezeleka (PDQ). Kubuyekezwe 01/07/15. https://www.cancer.gov/about-cancer/coping/feelings/anxiety-distress-pdq