Izinguquko Ezinhle Ngemva Kokuthola I-Cancer

"Ngeke ngifise umdlavuza kunoma ubani, kodwa ngibheka emuva, kunezindlela zokuthi ngingumuntu ongcono kunokuba ngingakaze nginomdlavuza." - Angaziwa

Uke wezwa noma ubani ethi bangumuntu ongcono noma ujabulele ukuphila okuningi kusukela etholakala enomdlavuza? Kungenzeka ukuthi kungaphezu kokucabanga okufisayo. Ucwaningo lusitshela ukuthi iningi labantu lizwa izinga elithile "lokukhula kokuhamba ngemuva." Amazwi amaningi nemishwana asetshenziselwe ukuchaza lezi zinguquko ngemuva komdlavuza, njenge:

• Iziliva zesiliva
• Izinzuzo zomdlavuza
• "Umdlavuza ungifundise"
• Ukwenza okushiwo, ukukwenza ukuqonda, noma ukuthola inzuzo
• Izinguquko zokuguqula impilo
• Izibusiso zomdlavuza, noma ngisho
• Isipho somdlavuza

Ngokuqinisekile, akekho ozobhekana nomdlavuza ngokuzikhethela, kodwa kubantu abayi-14.5 million (nabakhulayo) e-US abaye babhekene nosongo empilweni engumdlavuza, kungase kube yinduduzo ethile ukwazi ukuthi ngokuvamile, kukhona izinsimbi zesiliva ngempela .

Nakuba kungekhona wonke umuntu okhulisa ukukhula komuntu ngomdlavuza, cishe ingxenye eyodwa kwezintathu kwabesindile bayavuma izinguquko ezinhle. Ngokuvamile, abantu bangathola ushintsho oluthe xaxa isikhathi eside kusukela lapho bexilongwa. Ngenhloso yalesi sihloko, sizosebenzisa incazelo ejwayelekile kunazo zonke zomdlavuza. Umuntu osinda umdlavuza kunomuntu onomdlavuza, kusukela osukwini abatholwa ngayo, nangenxa yokuphila kwabo bonke.

Ukukhula kwe-Posttraumatic kwenzeka ezimweni eziningi ezibeka ukuphila noma ezisongela kakhulu, kuhlanganise nomdlavuza. Ucwaningo luye lwabona ubufakazi bokukhula komuntu siqu kubantu abanezinhlobo zomdlavuza nazo zonke izigaba zesifo, nakuba ubukhulu kanye nohlobo lwenguquko luhlukile kumuntu ngamunye. Ngenkathi ukukhula kwe-posttraumatic ibuye kube yintsha, umqondo wokuhlupheka oholela ekuguqulweni uphindela emuva ekuqaleni kwegama elilotshiwe futhi kukhulunywa ngazo ezinengi zezinkolo ezinkulu zomhlaba.

Amakhasi alandelayo achaza izinhlobo eziningana zezinguquko ezinhle ezivezwe ocwaningweni. Njengoba ufunda ngalezi "zinzuzo," cabanga ngokuthi umdlavuza uthinte kanjani impilo yakho. Ungaphuthelwa amakhasi okugcina, noma yiziphi, ezichaza lezi zinguquko kumazwi omdlavuza womdlavuza, okulandelwa amathiphu ekugqugquzeleni ukukhula kwakho okuthunyelwe ngemuva.

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Ukubonga Ukuphila

Ucwaningo oluningi lokukhula kwe-posttraumatic ezigulini zomdlavuza bathole ukwazisa okuvuselelwe kokuphila ukuba kube enye yezinhlamvu zesiliva ezivame kakhulu.

Kungaba nzima ukuchaza lo mzwelo kumuntu ongazange aphile nomdlavuza (noma yisiphi esinye isimo esicindezelayo noma esasongela ukuphila).

Kubonakala emehlweni abantu emhlanganweni wonyaka we-LUNGevity HOPE -baningi abangakaze bahlangane nomunye umdlavuza womdlavuza wamaphaphu-manje ekamelweni eligcwele ngokoqobo abagciniwe bomdlavuza wamaphaphu. Futhi kulaba basindile, ukwazi abaningi bakhona kuphela ngenxa yokwelashwa komdlavuza okwenzeke ngonyaka odlule noma amabili.

Yilokho esikubonayo enjabulweni engapheli yonyaka oneminyaka emibili ebona inyoni entsha, noma olwandle, noma ngisho ne-ladybug okokuqala. Lelo hlobo lumntwana olumangalisa futhi luyamangala.

Umsindisi wesifo somdlavuza we-Lung uJim Morrison uthatha lolu xabiso olusha lokuphila ngokukhululekile encwadini yakhe ethi To See Another Sunrise. Ukushona kwelanga okwamukela ngosuku olusha kuyisici esisodwa sokuphila esingasetshenzisiwe kalula ngemva komdlavuza.

Kungani singabongi ukuphila ngalelizinga ngaphambi komdlavuza? Yebo, abanye abantu abanenhlanhla benza. Kodwa iningi lethu liyabonakala ngokucacile ngoba ezinye zokugxila kwethu ziqondiswa esikhathini esedlule noma ziqondiswe esikhathini esizayo. Ngomdlavuza, abantu bangase bahlale kalula kalula okwamanje. Kungani? Kukhona umcabango ongakhulumi ukuthi lo mzuzu ungase ube nakho konke esinakho.

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Ukuthuthukisa Ubudlelwano

Kukhona into eyodwa engashintshi ngokuxilongwa komdlavuza, ukuthi ukuthi kuyoba khona ushintsho. Abantu ababengabajwayele ukuhlala nabo bangase babe abangane bakho abathembekile kakhulu, kuyilapho ezinye zobungane bakho obuseduze zingase ziphele. Ubuhlobo obuhle buqiniswa, futhi ubudlelwane obuhle buvunyelwa ukuhamba.

Phakathi kobuhlobo obuqiniswayo, abasindile kanomdlavuza bavame ukuzwa uxhumano olukhulu lomzwelo. I-Cancer inikeza ithuba eliyingqayizivele lokuba ngengozini futhi iveze imizwa ejulile. Lokhu kuvuleka kungabangela ubungane obushushu, obuseduze kakhulu.

Ukujula kobudlelwane obuvamile phakathi kwabasindile yomdlavuza kuya kokubili izinkomba. Abantu abaningi abanomdlavuza bayazibonela-ngezinye izikhathi okokuqala-kubaluleke kangakanani kwabanye, nokuthi bangani ababelethi nabathandekayo babo ababanakekela ngempela. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, abasindile kanomdlavuza bavame ukuhlakulela ukuzwela okukhulu, okuholela kubathandekayo babo bazizwe bewuthande futhi banakekelwa kakhulu.

Kubalulekile ukuveza ukuthi ukukhula okuhle akufani nokuba nesimo sengqondo esihle. Eqinisweni, ukujula ebuhlotsheni kubonakala kukwazi ukuveza imizwelo emibi ehambisana nokuxilongwa komdlavuza.

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Uzwela kwabanye

Bobabili uzwela, ikhono lokungena ezicathulweni zomunye, nokuhawukela, ukukhathalela okuvela enhliziyweni, kuvamile kubantu abaye babhekana nomdlavuza.

Ngisho noma ngabe unesihe futhi unesizotha ngaphambi kokuba utholakale, ukubhekana nokucindezeleka komdlavuza kungase kukhulise ukuqaphela kwakho ngokulingwa okunye okungahle kwenzeke.

Uma ungakaqapheli ukunyuka okusobala emqondweni wakho, ungase ubone ezinye zezindaba zokwanda kokwezwela okuvamile kubantu abasindile. Izinto ezifana nezentengiso ze-TV ezibonisa izingane ezilambile eziholela ehoreni lezinyembezi.

Siyabonga ukuthi le lining yesiliva yilo eliqhubeka linikeza. Indlela enhle yokubhekana nokukhathazeka nokungaqiniseki okuhambisana "nokwesabisa" futhi ukwesaba ukuphindaphinda ukuzama ukusiza abanye ababhekana nomdlavuza.

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Ukunika amandla

Ukuxilongwa kwesifo somdlavuza osindile ekuthuthukiseni amakhono okuxazulula izinkinga namasu okubhekana nokungafani nantanoma yini ngaphambili. I-Cancer yi-course crash ekuhambeni kwemikhumbi eqala ngokuqeqeshwa kokucwiliswa komsebenzi ngosuku ofunyaniswa ngalo futhi idinga ukuhlela inkambo ngezinye izikhathi eziphuthumayo ngokusebenzisa ukwelashwa kanye nochwepheshe.

Kuyisibusiso lapho abaningi abasinde emdlalweni, labo abasha abasanda kuthuthukiswa futhi bahloniphekile kungaba usizo ekubhekaneni nezinselelo ezingathintana nomdlavuza kanye. Izifundo zisitshela ukuthi amakhono athola umdlavuza ohambahambayo aya phambili kwezinye izingxenye zempilo yethu. Ukuhlakanipha okuwumkhiqizo wokuxoxisana ngendlela yakho ngokusebenzisa ukwelashwa kungasiza ekulawuleni izithiyo zokuphila ezivamile ngokulungiselela iresiphi ekusizeni ingane yakho ikhethe ikolishi. Futhi amakhono okubhekana nawo avela ekuphile ngisho nesikhashana nje nomdlavuza? Ziyizinto eziningi iningi lethu elizuzisa kuzo zonke izinsuku.

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Amandla Nokuthobeka

Kukhona i-T-shirt eyamemezela: "Awukwazi ukuthi unamandla kangakanani kuze kube namandla kuphela okukhethayo." Akuwona wonke umuntu onomdlavuza ozohamba kuze kube manje uNietzsche wathi, "Okungakubulali kukuqinisa," kodwa abaningi abasinda kumdlavuza bakhuluma ngokuthola "amandla afihlekile" ababengazi ukuthi babekhona ngaphambi kokuba baxilongwe.

Lokhu kunamandla okuza ngokuthobeka-ukuqonda ukulinganiselwa kwakho, nokwamukelwa okukhulu kokungcupheni kwakho. Ngamanye amazwi, iningi labahlengikazi abasinda ngeke libheke njengePapa. Okuvamile esikubonayo amandla angathuli-amandla angasiza nje abasindile ekusebenzeni kwezinye izici zokuphila ezidinga amandla aphansi kodwa abeka umbono wokukwamukela nokusekela iziguli ezisanda kutholakala ukuthi zithola umdlavuza. Eqinisweni, ngaphezu kokunikeza umuzwa wokuthi "awodwa," kungenzeka ukuthi enye yezinzuzo zamacembu okusekela umdlavuza.

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Ukuhlakanipha nokuPhambili

Abantu abaningi baphawula ushintsho olujulile ezintweni eziza kuqala emva kokuxilongwa komdlavuza. Izinto ebezihanjiswe "ngolunye usuku" zidluliselwa kusuka phansi ohlwini kuze kube phezulu. Imisebenzi ephuthumayo yangaphambilini, ibonakala ingaphethuli kangako. Nemisebenzi ebalulekile ngokulinganayo? Bangase basuswe ngokuphelele.

Lolu shintsho ezintweni eziza kuqala akuyona nje inguquko yesikhashana emkhakheni wezenzo zansuku zonke ngenxa yezinhlelo zokwelashwa, kodwa esikhundleni salokho, njalo, ushintsho oluhlala njalo efilosofi yokuphila. Okubalulekile ngaphambi komdlavuza kuhluke kokubalulekile emva komdlavuza.

Ukuguqulwa kwesilinganiso sokusebenza komsebenzi kubantu abaningi abaphila nomdlavuza. Ekuqaleni, ezinye izinguquko zingadingeka ngenxa yokwelashwa, kodwa izinguquko ezihlala njalo zivela ekuguqulweni kokubalulekile. Uma ususebenze amahora omsebenzi amahora angu-60 etshela umndeni wakho uzosika emsebenzini futhi uchithe isikhathi esengeziwe nomndeni "ngolunye usuku," ukuthi ngolunye usuku kungenzeka kube manje. Lokhu akuyona nje kuphela abantu abane-cancer ephakeme abanokuphepha okungaqiniseki, kodwa kubantu abaningi abanezifo zomdlavuza zakuqala.

Inzuzo eyodwa engapheli-ebonakalayo yokubeka phambili njenge "inzuzo" yomdlavuza yilabo abasinda abaningi abakwazi ukukhulula ama-grudges nama-resentment ama-eside. Akuyona nje isifiso sokubuyisela ukuthula, kodwa njengomuntu oyedwa owasinda umdlavuza wathi: "Ngaqaphela ukuthi kuthatha isikhathi esingakanani ukuze ngigcine umama futhi ngilondoloze intukuthelo, futhi angisakwazi ukuchitha leso sikhathi namandla." Yiqiniso, akuzona zonke izintukuthelo ezikhishwayo, futhi ukufunda ukuvumela ukuba uphile kahle nomdlavuza kuyinto eqhubekayo yokuvivinya noma ubani osebenzisana nabanye abantu abangaphansi kuka-okuphelele.

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Ukunakekelwa kwezeMpilo nokuTlhogomela

Izifundo zisitshela ukuthi ushintsho oluvame kakhulu kubantu abasindile umdlavuza yisifiso sokuthi baqonde impilo. Mhlawumbe ukuqaphela ukuthi asivikelekile emdlalweni, noma isifiso sokwandisa impilo noma ukunciphisa ingozi yokuphindaphinda, kodwa abaningi abasinda badla ukudla okunempilo futhi bazama ukwandisa ukuzivocavoca kwabo kwansuku zonke (ngaphandle kokwelapha).

Ukwenyuka kokuqwashiswa kwezempilo ngokomzimba kuvamile, kepha abasindile abaningi baphinde babike ukuqwashisa kokwelashwa ngokomzwelo. Ubuhlobo obubalulekile buyakhuliswa, futhi ubudlelwano obubi buhlolwa.

Ukuphendula iziguli eziningi zifisa ukufaka izinyathelo zomzimba wengqondo ekuguleni kwazo, izikhungo eziningi zomdlavuza manje zihlinzeka ngemithi yokwelapha ehlanganisayo njengokuzindla, ukusikhipha imithi yokwelapha , i- yoga , nokukhwabanisa , kanye nezindawo zokudala, njengezokwelapha kwezobuciko .

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Amathuba Okusha

Lokhu "ukuqoqa isiliva" kungenzeka kungabi ngekwenyuka. Kungani ukuxilongwa komdlavuza-ikakhulukazi uma kungumdlavuza onokuhlushwa kabi-kungaba umnyango wamathuba amasha? Uma unenkinga enkulu ekufanekiseni umdlavuza ngale ndlela, zibuze: "Ingabe ukhona umuntu ongayikuhlangana naye uma ungenayo umdlavuza? Ingabe ikhona indawo ongayi kuyo uma ungenayo umdlavuza? kukhona imisebenzi emisha ongeke uyizame uma ungenayo umdlavuza? "

Iningi lethu lihlangana nabantu abasha phakathi nohambo lwethu lomdlavuza. Kungenzeka kube emtholampilo womdlavuza noma eqenjini lokusekela. Kungenzeka kube omakhelwane noma abajwayele ukujwayele abonakala bephuma emapulini, ngokuvamile ngenxa yokuthi bona noma othandekayo baye bahlangabezana nomdlavuza. Kungaba nje ukuthi indima oyidlalayo ekushintsheni komndeni wakho.

Uma uhlangana nabantu abasha, uhlangana nabantu abajabulela okuhlangenwe nakho okuhlukile, futhi lokhu kuvula amathuba amasha.

Ngokuqinisekile, ekuqaleni kwemisebenzi emisha kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho kokwelashwa komdlavuza yizinto ongaphila ngaphandle. Kodwa ngisho nangesikhathi abahlengikazi belashwa bevame ukuqala-noma ekugcineni bathole-imisebenzi abayithokozelayo. Kungenzeka ukuthi manje ufunda lezo zincwadi, uhlale ufisa ukuba nesikhathi sokufunda.

Njengoba isikhathi siqhubeka, futhi uhlu lwakho olubheke phambili luye lwashintsha, ungase ubheke izinto ohlwini lwakho lwamabhakede-uhlu lolokuphupha lwezinto oye wazethemba ukuzenza ngaphambi kokufa. Kungani ulinde?

Yini oye wathanda ukuyenza njalo? Dlala i-piano? Funda ukudlala igalofu? Ukuhamba?

Abaningi bethu abanomdlavuza baqonda izinzuzo zohlu lwamabhakede. Uma ungazange uqalise eyodwa, namuhla usuku oluhle ukuqala. Futhi ugcine engqondweni: uma ufika ekupheleni kolunye uhlu lwamabhakede, ungahlala uqala entsha.

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Ukujulisa Ukomoya

Ukujula kakhudlwana kokomoya kuvamile kakhulu kubantu abaphila nomdlavuza.

I-National Cancer Society ichaza ngokomoya njengenkolelo yomuntu mayelana nenjongo yokuphila. Kubantu abathile, ingokomoya liboniswa ngenkolo ehleliwe, kwabanye, lokhu ubukhulu buhlangene nobuciko, ukuxhumana nemvelo, noma ukuzindla ngokuthula.

Kulabo abanokholo lwenkolo, lolo kholo luvame ukukhula ngesikhathi sokwelashwa. Kulabo abaveza ingokomoya labo ngokusebenzisa ubuciko, bavame ukuzizwa bexhumeke kakhulu kwabanye abaziveza ngale ndlela. Kulabo abathanda imvelo, ukujula kokuzwa ngesikhathi sokuhamba emahlathini kunganda.

Akukhona lokho okungokomoya okungekho kubantu ngaphambi komdlavuza. Esikhundleni salokho, isimemo "sokuvuka" somdlavuza singase sibe yisisusa esiphumela ekubalukeni kokuphila nemisebenzi yokuphila ibe seduze kakhulu

Njengenzuzo eyengeziwe kulokhu "inzuzo," ingokomoya lingase lidlale indima emdlalweni umphumela ngokusho kwezifundo ezimbalwa ezincane.

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Ukuthola Izinzuzo Ekuhambeni Kwakho Umdlavuza

Kungenzeka ukuthi ukhonjiswe ngenye yocwaningo ngokucindezeleka kokulandela emuva, noma mhlawumbe uzibonele kwezinye zezindaba ezivela kwabanye abasindile bomdlavuza abaye bathola i-silver linings ekuhambeni kwabo. Izifundo ezijabulisayo zibuye zibheke izindlela abantu abangazikhulisa ngazo ukukhula kwabo siqu ngokusebenzisa uhambo lwabo lomdlavuza. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ungase uzizwe udangele, futhi ungase ungafuni ngisho nokucabanga nganoma yini engase ibe nomphumela ngokuba nomdlavuza.

Nanka eminye imibono ekutholeni nasekukhuliseni ama-positi:

• Qhubeka ubheka izinsimbi zesiliva. Abanye abantu abanomdlavuza abaqapheli izinguquko ezinhle ezenzeke baze bahlolisise. Cabangela ukuhambisa uhambo lwakho lomdlavuza . Ungase ufise ukubuza abathandekayo bakho ukuthi bakubonile kanjani ukuthi ukhula kusukela ekuhloleni kwakho.
• Hlola lawa macebiso ukuze ujabule impilo yakho nokufunda ukunambitha umzuzu.
• Cabanga ukuthi ubuhlobo bakho obubaluleke kakhulu buye buphuthuka kanjani ekuhambeni kohambo lwakho lomdlavuza kuze kube manje. Khuluma nalabo bantu mayelana nemizwa yakho.
• Cabanga ngento ongayenza manje ukuthi awuke ucabange ukwenza ngaphambi komdlavuza. Noma, cabanga ngomunye umuntu owayeneli thuba lokuhlangana ukuthi ngabe ngabe wayengeke wahlangana.
• Zikhona yini izinto ezibaluleke kakhulu noma ezingabalulekanga kuwe manje kusukela lapho uthola ukuthi ukhona?
• Ukuba nokuqwashisa kwezempilo akugcini kuphela amandla kodwa kunganciphisa ingozi yokuphindaphinda kwamanye amagciwane. Bheka i-American Institute for Cancer Research Guidelines for Survivors of Cancer.

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