Ukwesaba ukuguqulwa komdlavuza noma ukuqhubekela phambili kuwukuphela kwabantu abakhathazekile lapho becabanga ukuthi umdlavuza ungabuya noma uthuthuke.
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Ukuqonda Ukwesaba Ukwelashwa Kwemdlavuza noma UkuqhubekaLokhu kwesaba kuvame kakhulu. Kulabo okwamanje abangenalo umdlavuza (akukho bufakazi besifo, noma ukuxolelwa okuphelele,) okungenani amaphesenti angu-70 anokwesaba okuncane noma okulinganisela ukuthi umdlavuza uzophinde ubonise ubuso bawo. Kulabo abanomdlavuza okwamanje ozinzile, cishe amaphesenti angu-50 anesilinganiso esifanayo sokwesaba okukhulu ukuthi umdlavuza uzokhula noma usakazeke.
Ukukhathazeka okunye kulesisindo somdlavuza. Yilokho okusishukumisela ukuba senze ama-aphoyintimenti ethu wokulandelela bese sishayela odokotela bethu uma sibona noma yiziphi izimpawu ezintsha.Kodwa kwabanye abantu, lokhu kwesaba kungenza okungaphezu kokugqugquzela, futhi kungabangela ukuvimbela ukusinda, ukunciphisa izinga lokuphila.
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Yamukela Ukwesaba KwakhoKungase kubonakale kulula ukuvuma ukuthi uyesaba, kodwa akusilo lokho okulula. Ngemuva kokuzwa izindaba, noma mhlawumbe ufunda enye enye into ebalulekile ekhuluma ngokuhamba komuntu ngesibindi ngomdlavuza, kungase kungabi nomuzwa wokuthi kufanele uzikhathaze. Phela, unomdlavuza noma umdlavuza onayo unzinzile. Lokhu ukungafuni ukukhuluma ukwesaba kugcizelelwa ngumphakathi ngenye indlela. Ngaki izikhathi esizwa ngazo ukuthi kudingeka sibe nesimo sengqondo esihle sokushaya umdlavuza?
Zinike imvume yokuzwa imizwa yakho. Khumbula ukuthi imizwa ayilungile noma ayiphutha, ikhona nje. Ukuvumela ukuthi uvume ukwesaba kwakho akukona okuhlukile kokuba nesimo sengqondo esihle. Esikhundleni salokho, iqinisa imizwa iningi labasindile yomdlavuza okwenzeka ngesikhathi esifanayo phakathi nohambo lwabo.
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ZifundiseSitshelwa ukuthi ulwazi ngamandla, futhi uma kuziwa ngokuphindaphindiwe lawo mazwi angaba yiqiniso ngempela.
Qala ngokuqonda ingozi yakho yokuphindaphinda (noma ukuqhubeka.) Ngokuqinisekile, akekho kithi onamanani, futhi izibalo yizinombolo, hhayi abantu, kodwa ukukhuluma nodokotela wakho ngengozi yomdlavuza wakho ubuya noma usakazeka kungakusiza ukubeka ukukhathazeka kwakho umbono.
Kungasiza ekuqondeni ukuthi kungani ezinye izinhlobo ze-khansa ziphinde zibuyele , nokuthi hlobo luni lwezimpawu ongalindela uma umdlavuza wakho ubuzobuya, noma ukhule futhi usakaze.
Okokugcina, cela i-oncologist yakho uma kukhona ongakwenza ukuze unciphise ingozi yokuphindaphinda. Ngezinye izikhathi ukugxila kulezi zenzo wedwa kungakusiza ukuhambisa ezinye zezinkathazo zakho.
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Yisho ukwesaba kwakhoUma usuqonda ingozi yokuphindaphindiwe, kanye nezinyathelo ongazithatha ukuze unciphise le ngozi, phindela emuva uphinde ubheke ukwesaba kwakho. Kuyamangalisa ukuthi ezinye izinto zilula kangakanani uma sinikeza igama elicacile.
Yisho ukwesaba kwakho. Uyesaba ukuthi umdlavuza uzobuya? Yiziphi amathuba okuzokwenza?
Bese usho amagama akho wesaba. Ingabe ukwesaba ukufa? Ingabe ukwesaba lokho okuzokwenzeka ezinganeni zakho uma ungapheli umdlavuza wakho? Ingabe ukwesaba ubuhlungu, noma mhlawumbe wedwa?
Ukuqamba ukwesaba kwakho akusizi kuphela ngokuziqondisa kodwa ngokuhlolisisa ukwesaba kwakho okwesaba ukuthi usesikhundleni esingcono sokuthatha izinyathelo zokunciphisa lezi zimo. Isibonelo, ingabe usesikhathini esizayo uzochaza lokho ongathanda ukukubona kwenzeke nezingane zakho uma kwenzeka ungapheli umdlavuza wakho?
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Yabelana Ukwesaba Kwakho Ngomngani, Othandekayo, Noma Iqembu LokusekelaUkukhuluma nomngani noma othandekayo kungaba isinyathelo esimangalisayo ekubhekaneni nokwesaba ukuphindaphindiwe. Lokhu akugcini nje ukunciphisa isizungu esithinta ukwesaba kwakho, kodwa kuqinisekisa ukuqinisekisa ukwesaba kwakho. Akubona bonke abangane abazokhululeka ngezinga lokuthembeka lokhu okudingayo, futhi ungase ufise ukucabanga ngokucophelela ukuthi ngubani ozokwenza kahle le nxenye empilweni yakho. Lesi yisinyathelo esinzima, futhi awufuni imizamo yakho igxiliwe ngumuntu ophikelela ukuthi udinga ukuhle.
Ngaphandle kwalokho, abanye abantu bangase bakhululeke ukuhlanganyela ukwesaba kwabo njengengxenye yeqembu lokusekela umdlavuza. Ekubekeni kweqembu lokusekela umdlavuza ngeke nje ube nethuba lokuzwa kwabanye abanemizwa efanayo (ngeke uzizwe wedwa) kodwa uyoba nenzuzo yokuzwa lokho abanye abakwenzile ngomzamo wokubhekana nalabo ukwesaba.
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Qaphela ukuthi yini ebangela ukwesaba kwakhoKunezimo eziningi ezingabangela ukwesaba ukuphindaphinda noma ukuqhubeka komdlavuza. Kungaba ukuhweba kwi-TV, ukufunda umuntu osanda kutholakala ukuthi unesifo noma umdlavuza, ukuqokwa okuzayo noma uphawu olusha. (Abaningi bethu abasinda umdlavuza bayazi ukuthi noma yiluphi uphawu olusha ngumsolwa.)
Kodwa ngisho nezinsuku ezinhle kanye nezikhathi ezihloselwe ukuba umkhosi zingabangela ukwesaba ukuphindaphindiwe. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uneminyaka engu-3 "isithwebuli somdlavuza," unyaka ongu-1, unyaka wakho oneminyaka emihlanu, noma uma uke wahlala nomdlavuza amashumi eminyaka, ukukhumbula usuku lokuxilongwa kwakho kuyisikhumbuzo sokufa kwakho. Njengoba sigubha ngaphandle, abaningi bethu bazizwa benomdlavuza osindayo , ukwazi ukuthi abanye abazange bakwenze lokhu kuze kube manje, futhi isikhumbuzo ukuthi nathi, umdlavuza ubuyele emuva.
Futhi-ke, ehlangothini lwe-flip lethaba elivela ekuzileni ukuthi senze usuku oluthile-njengesibonelo, usuku lokuzalwa, umshado, noma ukuphothula iziqu-kuza umbuzo ongavunyelwe: Kungabe kungaba ngowokugcina?
Njengoba nje ukwazi ukuqaphela ukuthi kuzokwenzeka, futhi ucabange ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nalabo besaba esikhathini esingaphambili, isinyathelo esikhulu ekugcineni lezi zikhathi zingathinteki kakhulu izinga lakho lokuphila. Kuyinto engaqiniseki-umuzwa wokuthi into ethile ayilungile kodwa ayikwazi ukuyibiza-okuyinto evame ukubhekana nayo.
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Ukubhekana Nezindlela Zokuhambisa Ukuhamba Kwakho UkwesabaKunezindlela eziningi zokunciphisa ukwesaba ukuphindaphinda.
Enye indlela enhle kakhulu ukuphazanyiswa -kufaka kwenye into ukuze ucabangele ukwesaba kwakho. Ukuphazamiseka kungathatha uhlobo lokuzivocavoca, noma mhlawumbe ukuthuthukisa indawo yokudala oyithandayo. Ukuhambisa uhambo lwakho lomdlavuza kungasiza kwabanye abantu, kodwa kufanelekile ukuqapha okukhethekile. Ukubhala imicabango yakho kungase kube nomthelela ohlukile uma uvumela ukwesaba kwakho. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, abanye abantu bathola ukuthi kusiza ukugcina iphepha lokubonga. Kunzima ukuzwa isimo sengqondo sokubonga ngenkathi ngesikhathi esifanayo ugcina ingqondo yokwesaba.
Uhlobo lokuphazanyiswa ngezinzuzo eziphindwe kabili ngumsebenzi osebenza ukukuphazamisa ukwesaba kwakho ngenkathi unciphisa ingozi yokuphindaphinda futhi. Kubantu abathile lokhu kuyisenzo sokuzivocavoca. Uma unenkinga yokucabanga ngomsebenzi onjenawe, cela i-oncologist yakho uma ingacubungula noma yikuphi "imisebenzi ephindwe kabili" nawe.
Ngizizwe ngokuphindaphindiwe ukuthi indlela ephumelela kakhulu yokuphazanyiswa iwukusekela nokukhuthaza abanye abanomdlavuza. Hlola ezinye zezinhlangano ezisebenzayo ekusekeleni abantu ngohlobo lwakho lomdlavuza. Kunezindlela eziningi zokubandakanyeka, kungakhathaliseki emakamelo okuxoxa, usebenze ngokubodwa nabantu "ohambelana" nabo ngokusho kohlobo nesigaba somdlavuza noma ngokuba ngummeli womdlavuza.
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Ukusebenzisa I-Mind-Body Therapies Ukusiza Ngokwesaba UkuphindaphindiweNgaphandle kokuphila okusebenzayo futhi okunempilo, kunezinhlobo eziningi zokwelashwa kwengqondo eziye zabasiza abanye abantu ukuba babhekane nokumesaba ukuphindaphinda umdlavuza noma ukuqhubeka. Lezi zingabandakanya:
- Ukuzindla - Kunengqondo ukufunda indlela yokucabangela ukucabanga okusekelwe ekucabangeni ukubhekana nokumesaba ukuphindaphinda, futhi ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi lo mkhuba unganikeza ukuthuthukiswa okuhlala njalo ekunciphiseni lezi zimo.
- Ukwelashwa kwe-massage - Akukona kuphela ukukhipha imithi yokwelapha ukunikeza ukuphazamiseka emicabangweni yakho esabayo kodwa kunganciphisa ukungezwani kwemisipha okudalwe yilezi zinkinga. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kuyindlela enhle yokuziphakamisa njengomuntu osinda.
- I-Qigong - Qigong ihlanganisa amasu okuphefumula ngokuzindla, futhi ingaba nezinzuzo zomdlavuza womdlavuza ohamba ngaphezu kokusiza ukwesaba ukuphindaphindiwe. Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi lungasiza ngokukhathala okuhlobene nomdlavuza , i- chemobrain (leso sibonakaliso esinesifo esibuhlungu esivela ku-chemo esenza kube nzima ukuthola imoto yakho imoto) futhi uzuze ngisho nesistimu yakho yomzimba. Kungaba nzima ukusho futhi kubonakale kungaphandle, kodwa kunamavidiyo amaningi alula we-youtube.com "osentshonalanga" angalandela ukuze athole isici.
- Ukucindezeleka ukuphefumula ukuphefumula - Izindlela zokuphefumula zingasebenza ngokushesha ukunciphisa ukukhathazeka nokucindezeleka okuhlobene nokwesaba ukuphindaphinda, futhi kulula ukufunda.
- Ukwamukela umzimba - Ngokujabulisayo, akudingeki ukuthi uqonde ukuthi ukusebenza kahle kwesikhumba kusebenza kanjani ukuthola izinzuzo njengabantu abasindile umdlavuza. Akukhona nje kuphela ukuthi lo mkhuba ungasiza abanye abantu ukuthi babhekane nokukhathazeka okuhlobene nomdlavuza, kodwa kungasiza ngezinhlungu, ubuthongo, ngisho nangomphumela omubi wecala lokwelapha kwe-neuropathy ephathelene nezokwelapha .
- I-Pet therapy
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Ukugcina Ukwesaba Kwakho UkungakulawuliUma usabhekene nokwesaba ukuphindaphinda ngemva kokuzama ezinye zalezi zindlela zokubhekana nazo, noma uma ukwesaba kwakho kunciphisa ikhwalithi yakho yokuphila, kungase kube yisikhathi sokukhuluma nochwepheshe. Uma kunjalo, sicela ungazizwe uhlulekile. Kunzima ukubhekana nalezi zemizwa yangempela. Mhlawumbe lokhu kungesinye isizathu sokuthi izifundo ezimbalwa ziye zathola izinga eliphakeme lokuphila, futhi ngisho nokuphila, kwabanye abantu abanomdlavuza abafuna ukululekwa.
Asikwazi ukudlula ukubaluleka kubheka ukwesaba maqondana nekhwalithi yakho yokuphila. Phela, noma ngabe umdlavuza wakho uphinde uqhubeke noma uthuthuke, ufuna ukuhlala ngokugcwele ngangokunokwenzeka namuhla.
Ukwelashwa kwengqondo-yokuziphatha, okunye okubizwa ngokuthi "ukwelashwa kokukhuluma" kungakusiza uqhubeke uqonde ukwesaba kwakho, futhi ulethe ukukhanya ezindabeni ongazange uzicabangele.
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