Ngake ngibona isiguli esithinteka engozini yemoto futhi sibhekene ne-whiplash. Ingozi yamshiya ngosizi lwezintamo , ubuhlungu besandla, ubuhlungu obuphansi emuva , nobuhlungu bomlenze. Ngisho konke okulimazayo. Ukuphahlazeka kwemoto kwakuyizinyanga ezimbalwa ngaphambi komhlangano wethu wokuqala, ngakho-ke ngingalindela ukuthi ukuthuthukiswa okuyisimangaliso kuzokwenzeke ngenkathi ehamba emtholampilo wami.
(I-tincture yesikhathi ingasisiza izimo ezibuhlungu zomzimba.)
Noma nini lapho ngibonana nesiguli, ngibuza imibuzo eminingi engisiza ukuba nginqume ngendlela engcono kakhulu yokusiza isiguli. Ingabe le nkinga iyanzima? Ingozi? Zikhona yini izinkomba ezitshela ukuthi kungase kube nezinye izithiyo zokwelashwa? Ingabe isiguli sikhathazekile ngokuhamba futhi? Zikhona yini izimpikiswano ezihlobene nokwenyuka kwesibili okungenzeka?
Omunye umbuzo engiwubuzayo uqondene nohlobo lobuhlungu. Ingabe ubuhlungu buhlala njalo noma buphakathi? Lo mbuzo ungisiza ukuba nginqume ukuthi kukhona yini isimo sokuvuvukala esikhona, noma uma ubuhlungu bomuntu buyimishini emvelweni. Ngokuvamile, kodwa hhayi ngaso sonke isikhathi, ubuhlungu obuqhubekayo kungenzeka ukuvuvukala, kuyilapho ubuhlungu obuphakathi phakathi kungenzeka buyimishini.
Ngezinye izikhathi, ubuhlungu obuqhubekayo, ikakhulukazi ubuhlungu obuqhubekayo obuqhubekayo, obuye kwaba khona isikhathi eside kungaba uphawu lwekhazamiso ekwelapheni. Njengoba ngithe, izimo eziningi zezinyosi ziba ngcono ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Uma ubamba izinyosi zakho kuzolimaza izinsuku ezimbalwa. Lokho ubuhlungu bokuqala bokuvuvukala buyobe buhlala bunjalo emvelweni. Ngemuva kwezinsuku ezimbalwa, ubuhlungu obukhulu buzokwehlisa, bese izinzwane zakho zizolimaza kuphela uma zicindezelwe ngokuzenzakalelayo. Ngemuva kwamasonto ambalwa, kungekho usizo olungaphandle noma ukwelashwa, izinyosi zakho zizobuyela ezijwayelekile.
Lesi siguli sangitshela ukuthi ubuhlungu bakhe buhlala njalo. Akukaze kuhambe. Uma othile engitshela ukuthi ahlale ezwa ubuhlungu, ngivame ukubuza ukuthi ubuhlungu buyashintsha - ingabe buba ngcono noma bubi nakakhulu kulo lonke usuku? Lapho ngicela isiguli sami uma ubuhlungu bakhe buba ngcono noma bubi kakhulu, wangitshela ukuthi kubi kakhulu, kodwa angcono nakakhulu.
Kungenzeka kanjani lokho? Kungenzeka kanjani ukuthi kukhona okubi nakakhulu njengoba usuku ludlulayo, kodwa lungalokothi lube ngcono? Kwadingeka ngibuze. Isiguli sami siphendule ukuthi ubuhlungu bakhe bubukeka "bubi kakhulu" kuya "hhayi bubi nakakhulu."
Hmm. Sinenkinga. Lesi siguli sasibuke ubuhlungu bakhe kanye nenkinga yakhe ephathelene nengozi yemoto njengento engaphumeleli, hhayi nje nakakhulu. Ukuthi ubonile isimo sakhe sishintsha njengalokhu ngosuku nosuku kungitshela ukuthi kungaba khona isikhawulo ekwelapheni lapha. Lesi siguli singase sibhekane nobuhlungu obungapheli obuyimpumelelo.
Ukwelashwa ngokwemvelo kungasiza abahluphekayo abangapheliyo , kodwa ngithola imiphumela yami engcono uma ngithola isisombululo semishini ebuhlungu. Uma ngingathola ubuhlobo obususa imbangela nokunyakaza kwesiguli noma ukuhamba kwakhe nobuhlungu bakhe, khona-ke amandla ami okusiza akhula kakhulu. Uma isiguli sibona isimo sakhe ngokuthi "sibi kakhulu" noma "asibi nakakhulu" khona-ke ngingaba nesikhathi esinzima ekusizeni ukuthi abuyele emsebenzini ojwayelekile.