Abantu abambalwa kakhulu abathola umdlavuza webele kuphela. Umdlavuza wesibeletho yisifo somndeni, futhi umuntu ngamunye uthinteka ngezindlela ezahlukene. Kuningi esingabelana ngakho ngokuphila komndeni nomdlavuza webele we-metastatic , kodwa ake sikhulume ngokukhathazeka okuvame ukushiywa phansi: abanakekeli bomdlavuza womndeni.
Ukunakekela Othandekayo
Ukunakekela othandekayo ngomdlavuza we-metastatic cishe kungenye yezinto ezinothando kunazo zonke ongayenza.
Cishe uzobukeka emuva kulezi zinsuku unomqondo wokuzondla iminyaka ezayo, ukukhohlwa izikhathi lapho imizwelo isebenza khona. Kodwa manje, ungase uzizwe udangele futhi uphelelwe amandla.
Kungenzeka uzwe noma yiliphi inani labantu elikukhumbuza ukuthi uzithathele kahle, futhi amathuba okuba (mhlawumbe ngokuthula) uthi "yebo ngakwesokudla" ngezwi elidabukisayo. Amagama kulula kakhulu ukukhuluma kunokulandela.
Abantu abaningi abangaqapheli-ngokushesha nje-yilokho okushiwo izidingo zakho siqu kungabuya bese kukuluma. Akugcini nje ukuhluleka ukuzikhathalela ngenxa yokwelashwa nokukhwabanisa ukunakekela othandekayo wakho kodwa kungabeka phansi izimpande zemizwelo enamandla kakhulu: ukufutheka nokufutheka.
Uma ungumuntu othandekayo womuntu onomdlavuza webele we-metastatic, siyazi ukuthi uyesaba futhi ulimaza futhi. Sizwile kubantu abanomdlavuza ophuthumayo bakholelwa ukuthi okuhlangenwe nakho kunzima kulabo abathandekayo kunabo ngokwabo, futhi lokhu kungase kube yinto eqinisile.
Okungenani uma uhlala nomdlavuza wena "wenza okuthize" -ngabe lokho kusho ukuthola ukwelashwa noma ukubhekana nezinkinga zomdlavuza. Kwabathandekayo, ngokuphambene, kungase kube nomuzwa omkhulu wokungabi namandla.
Sonke sifuna ukwenza okuthile ukusiza labo esibathandayo. Kodwa uma kuziwa emdlavuza webele we-metastatic sivinjelwe kakhulu.
Asikwazi ukuthatha ubuhlungu bethu abathandekayo bethu. Asikwazi ukuthola ukwelashwa. Asikwazi ngisho nokwenza izinqumo mayelana nezinketho zokwelapha.
Ngaphezu kwakho konke lokhu, kungase kudingeke udumise othandekayo wakho ngokusekela isinqumo sakhe sokwenza indlela ngokusebenzisa ukwelashwa okungenakukhetha kwakho okuhle. Uma kunesilinganiso sangempela sothando, lokhu kungase kube ukuhlolwa okulodwa. Ungazikhuthaza kanjani ngokugcwele othandekayo ophishekela isiqondiso ongayikuziphishekela? Ake sikhulume ngalokho okuye kwasiza abanye ukuba banakekele othandekayo ngomdlavuza webele we-metastatic.
Amathiphu Abanakekeli
- Zinakekele. Siyazi ukuthi uke wakuzwa lokhu ngaphambili, kodwa ake lokhu kucabanga kungena ngokujulile. Udinga ukuzikhathalela hhayi kuphela ngoba impilo yakho nenhlalakahle kubalulekile, kodwa ngoba indlela kuphela ongayinakekela ngayo othandekayo wakho ngokusemandleni akho uma udla kahle futhi uphumula. Uma unenkinga yalokhu, cabangela ukuthi ungathanda uma amatafula ephendulwa. Ungathanda yini ukuthi othandekayo wakho abe nempilo enhle ngangokunokwenzeka?
- Ungayi yedwa. Kuthatha umzana ngempela ukusekela umuntu ophila nomdlavuza webele we-metastatic. Uma ungumuntu othanda ukuqina futhi uphathe izinkinga ngokwakho, kungase kudingeke ufunde ukuvumela ukuhamba kokunye kokulawula. Mhlawumbe omunye umngane akahle njengompheki, hhayi njengomuntu olalele, noma akaqondi kahle izidingo zomthandi wakho. Funda ukuvumela abanye ukuba basize ngisho noma lolo lwazi lungaphansi kwezindinganiso zakho.
- Engeza amahlaya esimweni esingenangqondo. Labo abaye bathi ukuhleka umuthi kungcono umuthi omuhle cishe ubekhona eduze komuntu onomdlavuza webele we-metastatic. Ukuzihlaziya kwezingcingo kungaletha ukukhululeka okudingekayo ngisho nasezimo ezibucayi. Kukhona isikhathi sangempela sokuhleka nesikhathi sokulila.
- Gcina imingcele yakho. Kuyaziwa kahle ukuthi abanakekeli bemindeni yabantu abanomdlavuza bangashisa. Udinga ukwazi ukuthi ungasho cha nini noma ukuthi omunye umuntu udinga ukwenza umsebenzi esikhundleni sakho. Kulula ukusunduza le miingcele futhi uzame ukwenza konke, ngaphandle kokuzidela. Ngokuvamile umqondo wokufuna ukuthanda ngangokunokwenzeka uphenduka umqondo wokufutheka nokufutheka. Uma uzizwa upha ngaphezu kwamakhono akho noma uzidela inhlalakahle yakho, thola enye inketho.
Ukubhekana nokuphela kokuphila
Uma ngabe othandekayo wakho ehlangabezana nomdlavuza webele we-metastatic, unenselele kabili. Ngenkathi uzama ukuba uhlelo lokusekela lomthandi wakho, ushiywe ukubhekana nemizwa yakho yokudabuka, intukuthelo, inecala, nokukhungatheka, yedwa.
Usizi olulindelekile lwenzeka kubathandekayo kakhulu noma ngisho nangaphezulu, futhi lungase luzizwe lufana nomnyama, u-murky, ihlathi. Ungase uzizwe unecala ngokuhlupheka kwakho imizwa yokulahlekelwa ngenkathi othandekayo wakho eseseduze nawe futhi ephila kakhulu.
Kukhona okuningi esingabelana nabathandekayo ekubhekaneni nokuphela kokukhathazeka kokuphila , kodwa okukodwa okubaluleke kakhulu-nakuba kungavamile ukukhuluma ngakho-kuseduze nokuqwashisa ukufa.
Ngasekupheleni kokuphila, kuvamile kubantu abafa ukuqala ukwabelana ngezindaba, njengokubona labo abahlongakele ngaphambili noma bekhuluma ukuthi bakwenye indawo. Kunjengokungathi othandekayo wakho unonyawo kuleli zwe futhi omunye unyawo kwelinye izwe.
Asazi ukuthi lokhu kusho ukuthini, kodwa siyazi ukuthi kududuza labo abafa. Uma othandekayo wakho ekhuluma ngokubona labo abafile ngaphambili, ungamqondisi. Ungamtsheli ukuthi uyaziqhenya. Abantu abaningi bayathukuthela uma umndeni wabo ungabonakali ukukholelwa. Mane ulalele ngaphandle kokulungisa futhi unikeze isiqiniseko sakho ukuthi ukhona futhi umthande . Kulabo abanesikhathi, ungathola induduzo ekufundeni incwadi ebhalwe ngabahlengikazi be-hospice ngalezi zinsuku zokugcina. Le ncwadi yizipho zokugcina: Ukuqonda Ukuqwashiswa Okukhethekile, Izidingo, kanye Nokuxhumana Kwezokufa.
Uma othandekayo wakho edlula, zinike isikhathi sokulila. Kungenzeka ukuthi uzwe amazinga amaningi, kodwa ayikho indlela efanele yokulila. Abanye abantu bathola induduzo ekufundeni incwadi efana noJanis Amatuzio's Forever Ours . Lezi zindaba ezibhaliwe yi-pathologist ye-forensic, zisikhumbuza ukuthi labo esilahlekile kungenzeka ukuthi bangabi kude kakhulu njengoba sicabanga.
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